Introducing sex toys to our life

Well, just talk to your partner about how much it turns you on, and how much it would mean to you if he would explore it with you.

Start with something small, and not intimidating. Then, if your partner is receptive and enjoys incorporating the toy into your sex life, you can pick other things out together.

Keep the lines of communication open. If he's not receptive than take things slowly, you don't want to all of a sudden have a dozen or so toys on the bed that he comes home to. My husband was a little intimidated when we first started dating because he saw my big collection. It took him a while before he wanted to start exploring with them. When we did we started with the basics- a very simple, non threatening vibrator that he could use on me for vaginal penetration and I could use on him for testicular stimulation. A cock ring with a bullet, something very basic without a complicated power pack. It took a few years until he was ready for anal play (for himself) but we eventually got there. I've always been comfortable using sex toys and I made sure he was comfortable before I introduced them to him as well.

Make sure to help him remain open to the possibility, you never want to hear him ask "do you think we need toys because the sex isn't good enough?" Reassure him that he's a great lover but just that sex toys would add a little something extra. Don't start off to big either, and if you orgasm with a toy be aware of his reactions- you don't want him to feel like these toys can bring you to a far greater orgasm than he can. My husband doesn't have a fragile ego, but some men do, just make sure that while you two play together with toys that you're both happy in doing so and that you both enjoy them equally.

I agree with sleeping dreamer, some men do have extremely fragile egos! Mine fortunately does not. He loves to see me get off no matter what method. Sometimes, when he's done, I'm not done yet and he can't just climb back up on that horse and ride! It takes him awhile to get hard again so, while he's waiting he can play with me which can help him get going again too. Don't forget to use toys on him too! Men, although not always willing to try them, like them as well! It just really depends on your partner how you broach the subject though.

I just thought of another suggestion. Maybe you could do a clone a willy kit. I haven't tried one yet personally but, am planning to in the near future but, that way you would be making a sex toy that was a copy of his own so, maybe he wouldn't be as likely to get jealous of it? I am planning on getting the glow in the dark clone a willy that comes with a vibrator you can put inside it when it's done. Hope that helps!

I've tried the clone a willie kit, and it's hilarious to do, but, if your partner isn't use to the idea of sex toys at all, he may not be overly thrilled sticking his manhood into the cold molding material. LOL
The thing to stress about sex toys, is that they're for enhancing one's sex life, not about replacing your lover in the bedroom. Let's face it, a man's tongue just can't vibrate on your clit like a bullet can. And the bullet can be on you while he's inside you and he can feel and see your pleasure too, which should turn him on immensley!

We started small too. Stared with a clitoral stimulator that he could control...anything that let's him continue to be in charge, if that's how he rolls. Good luck!

Just tell him you want to. Really, that should be enough. And if it isn't... then he's a weirdo.

It definitely helps to look at websites together, and see what you are and aren't interested in. It'll also help your partner if they haven't previously thought about what kinds of toys they'd like to try.

As other posters have said, just emphasize that you're not looking for toys because your partner isn't good enough--after all, there's all sorts of things that toys can do (vibrating, rotating, electrical shocking) that the human body just can't do on its own.

The advice is all great on this post so far. So I'll just share my personal experience. My boyfriend is slightly shy. I embarrass easily. Trying to bring up the idea of sex toys was terrifying.
I had a lot of lubes/heighteners so I started working those into our regular sex. Warming lubes, things to enhance my clitoral stimulation. He loved the idea that sex was better for me, so I suggested we look at this site together. I did reaffirm many times that I just wanted to spice things up, but completely loved our sex life. We chose a cock ring. Tried that, loved it. He's now quite addicted to sex toys and this site.
The most important thing for us was keeping communication open. We talk about pretty much every toy purchase we make. We both know each others limits and we don't cross them until the other gives it the okay. A lot of the advice on here is really good. Best of luck!

I'm scared to even comment on this one. Just jump in there. I found the most innocent looking toy and brought it home. I had been hinting at sex toys for a long time. Especially every time my husband (then bf) would turn on his electric tooth brush. I was so nervous to tell him but that night we went out to dinner and to my shock he couldn't wait to get home to try it out. I still do occasionally hide toys from him, just the big scary ones. At least until I feel comfortable about letting him see them. Good luck but trust me after awhile shopping for vibrators and such together will be the most intimate, fun and liberating feeling ever! Good luck.

A little late but to anyone in this situation, talking is key. Browsing a site like EF is great and definitely start with something non-intimidating. I think a toy that does not look like a cock might be best. A fragile ego might think it's there to replace his. I like to suggest a bullet or an egg because there's nothing scary about them at all!

Talking is key like everyone said, also I recommend, two things. One reading the guides on here, it helped me answer a lot of questions and fears I had when I started to think about toys. Also, watch some porn with toys. You could find one and just show him and say, "Does that look fun to do to me?" Sex toys will never be able to replace a person, they are there just for fun and spice life up.

I've found putting on a show for your partner is always a good way to get into it. As Oggins said, my hubby just likes watching me get excited, whatever the means. Toys make me MORE ready for him than anything. Plus, in my honest opinion, the more a woman exercises her libido, the stronger it gets. I can "turn things off" and not even think about sex for long periods of time. But if I'm playing with toys regularly, sex is far more frequently on my mind and I tend to want a whole lot more of it!

Talk about it....you might want to start with flavored dusts, finger paints, a cock ring, and maybe move on to vibrators, dildos anal play and nipple clamps later on if you so desire. Its important both partners be comfortable with it...that makes experimentation fun.

personally my friend joined pure romance and became an affiliate and i had a party for my 22nd and came home with a magazine and he asked me...soooooo this doesnt really help