Is he finishing too quickly?

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Is he finishing too quickly?

Naughty Student Naughty Student
I seem to hear a lot from women that their man cums too quickly and are left out, is that happening very often?
02/02/2009
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Nashville Nashville
When we have sex if he hasn't masturbated in the previous 24 hours he'll cum in about 15 minutes. That may be a satisfactory amount of time for some women but it isn't for me. I like a session that's at least a half hour.

He is incredibly sensitive and has the inability to control when he cums. Usually he'll get this bored look on his face because he's trying to think about everything but how good it feels. When he starts making sounds or thinks about what he's doing and gets into it he can't even last 5 minutes. Poor guy.
02/02/2009
Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
Mine sounds a lot like yours. He tries so hard not to cum sometimes. He will tell me not to move and if I even have a slight muscle contraction he will loose it. It depends on when we last had sex, and how we feels. If it is in the morning I am lucky to get 10 min, because he has a limited amount of time and he is well rested. At night after a long day at work he can go forever. It also depends on what I am wearing and how we lead up to it. I can say he is good at making me cum at least once one way or the other when we have sex.
02/02/2009
Liz2 Liz2
My b/f does come too fast for me, 15 min at best usually 10min. He does masturbate at least once each day even if we have sex. He knows I need so much more so he does usually follow-up with his mouth and toys. If we play long enough he is sometimes ready again (unusual though). Distraction doesn't seem to work for him, only seems to make him come faster.
This must be the basis for my desire for a fucking machine, LOL
02/02/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
My husband sometimes feels.. disappointing he he deems he has cum too soon but, honestly, I'm happy as long as he gets off. That and sex almost always starts with him performing oral on me which I do prefer sensationally to PIV sex. So, make sure you get off before he's ready to blow and you will have no problem.
02/02/2009
Sammi Sammi
My husband never leaves me out. He always makes sure I have an orgasm before we are done. Sometimes he manages to cum twice, which is always good
02/02/2009
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
My partner almost always makes sure I orgasm during foreplay. He's told me that he wants to make sure I come at least once every time. *so sweet * I get really tired after I orgasm, so by the time he comes from us having sex (usually 10-15 minutes), I'm usually ready to stop too.

I just read that over, and maybe it sounds a little bad. We have really good sex after amazing foreplay, and I'm not laying there the whole time thinking "I'm tired, when will this be over." I just get tired...I can't help it.
02/02/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
My partner almost always makes sure I orgasm during foreplay. He's told me that he wants to make sure I come at least once every time. *so sweet * I get really tired after I orgasm, so by the time he comes from us having sex (usually 10-15 ...
It doesn't sound bad. I'm not one of those girls who wants marathon rounds of sex either
02/02/2009
Naughty Student Naughty Student
@sleeping Dreamer: I would probably laugh if my partner tried to buzz out not to concentrate too much on what he's doing, it must be a challenge. Does using cock rings really help?

My partner always slows down if he feels he is about to cum, he controls it pretty well. The only issue I have is that when I am on top and I pivot my hips to cum he becomes soft and I can't cum since I don't feel his penis stroking my g-spot. I think that a cock ring might help but I find them so uncomfortable when I am in cowgirl position ( my fav ).
02/02/2009
Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
My favorite male-bodied partner was anorgasmic - he took a very long time to cum, sometimes 2 hours or so. He never masturbated. It was awesome, but there were several times when he didn't orgasm which made me feel somewhat inadequate.
02/02/2009
Nashville Nashville
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
@sleeping Dreamer: I would probably laugh if my partner tried to buzz out not to concentrate too much on what he's doing, it must be a challenge. Does using cock rings really help?

My partner always slows down if he feels he is about to ...
They do sometimes, cock rings have been very effective with him.. although there are times where he just can't control it. Times like those I wish there was a reset button I could push so that he wasn't to the point of no return.
02/02/2009
Nashville Nashville
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
My favorite male-bodied partner was anorgasmic - he took a very long time to cum, sometimes 2 hours or so. He never masturbated. It was awesome, but there were several times when he didn't orgasm which made me feel somewhat inadequate.
I was with someone like that many years ago- 6 hour marathon sex and he still couldn't. *sigh*
02/02/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
@sleeping Dreamer: I would probably laugh if my partner tried to buzz out not to concentrate too much on what he's doing, it must be a challenge. Does using cock rings really help?

My partner always slows down if he feels he is about to ...
My b/f uses a silicone cock ring. It does keep him hard and he does last longer, even for a short time, after his climax, bonus.. I too,luv the cowgirl position and find the ring that also contain his balls, awesome. I feel his balls banging vs. me not his cock ring.
I found cock rings with vibes,ridges and nubs just get in the way, I want to feel him!.
02/03/2009
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I am profoundly lucky and I know it. My partner has ungodly control over when he gets off. He can give me a three minute quickie or last an hour or better.

Sometimes he annoys strangers. They ask me why I'm with him. I say "he makes me laugh and the sex is outta this world!". Lol.

I figure after 39 years and so many losers, I deserve him.
02/03/2009
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
I am profoundly lucky and I know it. My partner has ungodly control over when he gets off. He can give me a three minute quickie or last an hour or better.

Sometimes he annoys strangers. They ask me why I'm with him. I say "he ...
Ha ha yes you do!

@ Liz: I totally know what you mean, I love feeling my man without any in betweens, what cock ring do you use? I might get myself one!!!!

@ Sleeping Dreamer: Reset buttons would be awesome or maybe energizer bunny batteries, it just goes on and on and on.....!
02/03/2009
Mariye Mariye
Well, as an inexperienced lover with an inexperienced partner, he always finishes before I do, but that's not to say that he doesn't last long... I think it's more of an issue with me not being the right mindset. It's enjoyable, though.
02/03/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
Ha ha yes you do!

@ Liz: I totally know what you mean, I love feeling my man without any in betweens, what cock ring do you use? I might get myself one!!!!

@ Sleeping Dreamer: Reset buttons would be awesome or maybe energizer bunny ...
He uses the Tantus Beginners cock ring, works for us. I did a review of this on EF. Enjoy!!!
02/04/2009
Jewelweed Jewelweed
My boyfriend exercises a great amount of control over his orgasming, I really appreciate it. But if I clench the vaginal muscles a little too hard, it'll set him off. Oops.
02/04/2009
Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme) Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme)
It's very hard for a man to contain himself sometimes, especially when he hasn't come in a while. Whenever I'm close, I try to 'slow down' but my wife can't resist bucking her hips and grinding against me to 'force' me to come even if she hasn't yet. She says it's actually sexier to know she has the power to drive me over the edge and make me come then actually come herself.

That being said, if she hasn't come, I'll normally go down on her afterwards. At first, that used to gross her out, but now she gets really into it. It's kind of reverse of normal - sex is the 'foreplay' and then she gets to lie back and be pampered.
02/04/2009
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme)
It's very hard for a man to contain himself sometimes, especially when he hasn't come in a while. Whenever I'm close, I try to 'slow down' but my wife can't resist bucking her hips and grinding against me to 'force' me ...
It is nice to get a mans perspective, and I totally understand how your wife feels.

For my part since my partner controls it very well similarly to you, he always waits for me to tell him when he should come. Sometimes I tell him I don't him want to come yet and then its so great that I change my mind and it surprises him with delight and he just lets go. I really love that!
02/04/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme)
It's very hard for a man to contain himself sometimes, especially when he hasn't come in a while. Whenever I'm close, I try to 'slow down' but my wife can't resist bucking her hips and grinding against me to 'force' me ...
I understand how your wife feels. Sometimes when I know my husband is close I can't help but make him cum, even if I don't want it to be over. heh
02/04/2009
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