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Hubby is going to be leaving a while for work. Actually, he's gonna be leaving a lot. Two to three months at a time, and coming home to visit only for holidays. I'm so scared and I truly don't know what to do. He's a wonderful
Hubby is going to be leaving a while for work. Actually, he's gonna be leaving a lot. Two to three months at a time, and coming home to visit only for holidays. I'm so scared and I truly don't know what to do. He's a wonderful faithful man, so cheating or unfaithfulness isn't a fear. However, everything else imaginable is a fear. Not calling every night, not being able to talk enough... It's hard to explain. I'd love to hear some advice or stories that may help me because I'm just torn apart by this. I am dreading our last hug and kiss at the airport in August and I find myself counting the days which is also awful....
We went though this for a while. We have friends who are military and that is their life. If trust is not the issue, then the real answer is to cultivate an outside life for yourself, where you are, so you are NOT sitting home, alone, every night. Volunteer!!! Walk dogs at the humane society, read stories to children in the hospital...or rock babies. Get a part time evening job. Most off, CULTIVATE activities with friends. See movies, go to dinner, DO THINGS. Live.
Maybe learn to dance, while he is gone, and when he returns you both take dance lessons TOGETHER, to "rebond" and have fun. I did that. I also learned to do lot of HOUSE CHORES and when he came back he found the place painted, new plumbing fixtures, and even a new hardwood floor...ALL DONE BY ME!!!! The second time he was gone for three months (it was school/professional rotation), he came back to find he had a new tool bench and all his tools organized. He was beyond thrilled.
It is all about finding a life for YOURSELF..not sitting around lonely.
I hope that helps.
OH...FYI, with computers now, you CAN pretty much SKYP video call, from anywhere, free, every night. It's great technology to stay linked.