Are you comfortable having phone sex?

northstar northstar
Have you ever found that you feel less comfortable having phone sex with a partner who isn't confident about it, even if you've done it before with someone else?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I never do it
48
It depends how receptive my partner is
90
I set the precedent, no matter how shy they are, I'll unleash them!
32
Total votes: 170 (163 voters)
Poll is closed
01/27/2011
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Coralbell Coralbell
If they were being shy and quiet I would have a much harder time getting into it than if they were enthusiastic.
01/27/2011
Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by Coralbell
If they were being shy and quiet I would have a much harder time getting into it than if they were enthusiastic.
Agreed.

It really varies on the chemistry you two have and how well the other person responds, at least for me.
01/27/2011
Airekah Airekah
Quote:
Originally posted by Illusional
Agreed.

It really varies on the chemistry you two have and how well the other person responds, at least for me.
exactly.
01/27/2011
Gallowraven Gallowraven
I'm not even comfortable holding a normal conversation on the phone.
01/27/2011
clp clp
It is one of my essentials. I am currently in a LDR, so it is a very important element, but aside from that, I've always loved it. It is nice to know my partner is vocal, interested, and willing, regardless of how far we may be from eachother.
01/27/2011
northstar northstar
Quote:
Originally posted by clp
It is one of my essentials. I am currently in a LDR, so it is a very important element, but aside from that, I've always loved it. It is nice to know my partner is vocal, interested, and willing, regardless of how far we may be from eachother.
I'm also in an LDR, but for some reason feel apprehensive about it because I think he's a little shy! He's not prudish and is definitely very sexual, all the time. I think he feels silly describing things so maybe I just need to coax him out a little..hmm.
01/27/2011
sweet seduction sweet seduction
Im for it!
01/27/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I've been traveling extensively for all of our 21+ years and we've never gotten into phone sex. I guess we're old fashioned - if it isn't skin-to-skin we're not interested.
01/27/2011
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
not uncomfortable. im just not very good at it
01/27/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
We live in the same house now, so there is really no need for it anymore. When we lived long-distance we'd have phone sex now and then. It was fun, but it seems kind of silly to me now.
01/27/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I have done it at the very beginning of my relationship with my current partner but we moved in together after a while so we don't really do this anymore. We were both comfortable with it.
01/27/2011
hive83 hive83
Quote:
Originally posted by northstar
Have you ever found that you feel less comfortable having phone sex with a partner who isn't confident about it, even if you've done it before with someone else?
I really don't like to talk on phones unless I have to. I much perfer face to face. Just old fashioned i guess.
01/28/2011
namelesschaos namelesschaos
I've never done it. I would be will to give it a try but I don't think I'd be very good at it.
01/28/2011
kawigrl kawigrl
haven't been away from a partner long enough to really do it...like I wouldn't consider it if I could see them within soon
01/28/2011
Liz2 Liz2
Phone sex with my partner is not necessarily something I would choose, but my partner travels, so during the times he is away, our nightly conversations usually involve phone sex. Lately, if I am awake enough, we do web cam.
01/28/2011
markeagleone markeagleone
Quote:
Originally posted by northstar
Have you ever found that you feel less comfortable having phone sex with a partner who isn't confident about it, even if you've done it before with someone else?
I have never done it because I think it would leave alot of loose ends in my mind. I would ultimately miss her more. It's a little different if I think about her, but hearing her voice would put me over the edge.
01/28/2011
Beaners Beaners
I'm really shy about it. My boyfriend had to coax even something as simple as dirty texts out of me.
01/28/2011
KnK KnK
Quote:
Originally posted by northstar
Have you ever found that you feel less comfortable having phone sex with a partner who isn't confident about it, even if you've done it before with someone else?
I actually haven't done this since my first bf. It was incredibly hot for him because I was this good Christian girl and didn't want to "go too far." I dumped him after 2 months, but he had a really hardcore kink for inexperienced/innocent girls. Of course, I really think he had a kink for just about everything. He's into women of all shapes (stick or hourglass), sizes (00-24+), races, experience levels. I will give him props for accepting women of all body types though.
01/28/2011
Mlee Mlee
I have never tried it but i think that i would if i had to spend alot of time away from my boyfriend.
01/28/2011
Waterfall Waterfall
I'm usually comfortable having phone sex, although the person who I am talking to tends to be very into the conversation.
01/28/2011
XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
It just depends who, if I am currently in a relationship with the person, it is great.
01/28/2011
ud328 ud328
I enjoy it from time to time. But it has to be a mutual thing. I dunno, it just doesn't work when the person on the other end isn't really into it.
01/29/2011
PussyGalore PussyGalore
I have only had phone sex with three people and all three of them were just as, if not more, receptive than I was. It's been over a decade since I've done it though. Texting and webcams took over.
01/29/2011
liilii080 liilii080
I don't really get turned on by it but if my partner was into it, I would for him. It's just not the same as the real thing and talking about it just reminds me that I'm not with my SO.
01/29/2011
Envy Envy
I tease over the phone but don't do all out phone sex because I get no privacy to really talk over the phone. Plus, I just hate phones.
01/29/2011
Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
So... My answer isn't up there, and I wouldn't expect it to be, because my experience with phone sex is weird. Or, at least, not what most people talk about when they discuss their experience.

I'd done it a couple times before I met M, but by "done it", I mean I sat on the phone with two guys (at different times) while they talked dirty to me and masturbated. I didn't really participate. And because I had no idea what I did was masturbation (long, LONG story), I didn't masturbate while it happened, either.

I've never had phone sex with M, which makes what I'm about to say even weirder.

A few years ago, M had me set up a Skype profile, and have voice chat sex with something crazy like 24 guys in 24 hours. I had to get off with each one, and then block them afterward. At the time, He wasn't interested in repeat customers.

The first few, I did pretty much the same thing. Just kinda sat there, making noises when appropriate, and occasionally saying I liked what they were saying. Until M told me to quit being a dead lay.

I'm not so good with dirty talk. I get tongue-tied on the best of days, and I guess that's what holds me back. I'm afraid I'll stutter over my words, or say something stupid. But that day, I didn't do so bad. And it was hot. And since then, I've been making more of an effort to be vocal. Cause M's one of those weird guys who like it.

So, I guess while it's still a little embarrassing for me, I don't mind it so much. And it can definitely be practice for dirty talk when your face to face with your partner.
01/29/2011
Danielle915 Danielle915
I've done it!
01/29/2011
MattBryant MattBryant
i've only had phone sex w/ 2 ppl.. the first time was more me telling her how to play with herself, since she never masturbated before (poor gal!). that was pretty fun, but i had to go about it differently than someone who was comfortable with the idea. much less touching themselves.

and with my current fiance.. it's fun sometimes, especially if you can't act on your feelings, like with distance.., but it gets predictable, and it's not nearly as fun if they aren't playing with themselves too. same thing with cyber.. so i can see how it might be difficult for someone very shy or unsure how to go about things.

never done webcam other than with my lady.. used to cyber a good bit back in the day tho. but unless you actually know the person, its a lil creepy. you dont know if they're a girl or a dude :-0
01/29/2011
sbon sbon
I've only done it once a long time ago and it was only okay. I think it's a good idea, but I don't really know how to go about it. I'm a bit shy, so that makes it more difficult.
01/30/2011
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Unique posters: 87