Can you skip foreplay?

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Can you skip foreplay?

El-Jaro El-Jaro
As time has gone in my relationship, I've noticed less and less foreplay is needed. Is this a common thing in long term relationships?
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Actually, yeah.
48  (52%)
No. You're just getting lazy
31  (34%)
I don't know what those two up there are about. But this is what I think... (Other)
13  (14%)
Total votes: 92
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07/05/2011
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SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
As time has gone in my relationship, I've noticed less and less foreplay is needed. Is this a common thing in long term relationships?
for me and my better half of 10 yrs all day is foreplay we constantly touch and rub and kiss
07/05/2011
Bunnycups Bunnycups
Quote:
Originally posted by SiNn
for me and my better half of 10 yrs all day is foreplay we constantly touch and rub and kiss
That sounds lovely.

I think it is a common thing, though and that makes me sad. When I find the right person I hope foreplay is the same as SiNn's.
07/05/2011
lanky lanky
never skip, makes everything more exciiting
07/05/2011
zeebot zeebot
I need some clit stimulation for sure, but other than that either works for me.
07/05/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
Sometimes I like skipping foreplay, sometimes usually foreplay activities are it... I don't see why it's necessary to have foreplay every time, though I think I'd miss it if we never did it?
07/05/2011
Wondermom Wondermom
for us, no. We have been together over 10yrs now and foreplay is a must every time.
07/05/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
As time has gone in my relationship, I've noticed less and less foreplay is needed. Is this a common thing in long term relationships?
We still have foreplay, when there is time. We can lounge in bed all day and kiss and hug...etc. This is after 31 years of marriage and five years of dating prior to that. However, after this long and as two busy professionals, there are times when one or the other of us say's..."I want a quickie" and a quickie it is. Usually just oral or vaginal play when we do that (Don't want to rush anal), but still satisfying, despite the "speed". Hey, don't let life get in the way of ALL play!!!
07/05/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bunnycups
That sounds lovely.

I think it is a common thing, though and that makes me sad. When I find the right person I hope foreplay is the same as SiNn's.
Oh no...not sad at all. SAD is couples who no longer WANT each other after years. We LOVE each other and when time does not allow a lot of hugging and kissing and play, we STILL want each other enough for a quickie here or there and let me tell you, we BOTH go to work or where-ever with a smile...and thinking of each other ALL day long. Nothing sad about it at all. It is having enough comfort and love to say "a quickie right now IS okay" and being comfortable enough to ask for one or give one, WITHOUT anyone feeling cheated or shorted!!! For us, if we have ten hours...WONDERFUL, but it we have five minutes, heck, we WILL make it work!!! It is anything but sad...it is "LOVE ON THE RUN", ha, ha.
07/05/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
We split it. Most of the time I'm not necessarily in the mood to begin with, I'm just not not in the mood, which is almost the same thing to me. If I'm not in the mood, we don't have sex. If I'm not not in the mood but not in the mood either, we'll have sex sometimes, and I don't always need foreplay to enjoy it. Sure, it's awesome, but at the same time a bottle of lube will solve me not being wet enough, so it's not a big deal as long as we're both communicating.
07/05/2011
Smitty Smitty
Sometimes. Definitely not all the time.
07/05/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
Quote:
Originally posted by lanky
never skip, makes everything more exciiting
agreed.
07/05/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Foreplay is more than 1/2 the pleasure of the sexual encounter - never want to go without it.
07/05/2011
lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
Foreplay makes it more fun, but not always needed.
07/05/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by El-Jaro
As time has gone in my relationship, I've noticed less and less foreplay is needed. Is this a common thing in long term relationships?
Sex evolves and changes as a relationship progresses. My Man and I don't divide sex up into "foreplay" and "the big event." (Which I assume is PIV intercourse.) We go back and forth from oral, to PIV, to hand play, to toys, back to oral, make sure I come, throw in some anal play, then if he hasn't come yet, wash up for more of whatever will work for him this time. It is different every time, but we don't really divide it into foreplay and the main event.

I rarely have my first orgasm from PIV sex, and sometimes we don't even have PIV sex. My Man loves to go Down Town and I love to give him head, and we will spend a long time touching each other etc. Even during quickies, (when I often don't even have an orgasm) he does go down, or I won't be lubricated and it will hurt. So, even if he doesn't get head, I always get some oral from him. If I want to have an orgasm, oral is necessary. We have found, as we've been together longer, sex often lasts longer. My favorite is a nice 2 to 3 hour marathon session, but a quickie where we both come is good, too. I prefer marathons. But, every couple has what works for them, and it's important to have variety in your sex life.

Whatever works for you, if you and your woman are happy is what is good for the two of you. As long as you are both enjoying your sex and both having great orgasms, then do what works!
07/05/2011
Pinkhare Pinkhare
sometimes the excitement of a quickie is all the foreplay needed but for the most part .. I love it
07/05/2011
Coralbell Coralbell
Sometimes I'm aroused enough mentally that we can skip the physical foreplay. With my first partner we used to skip foreplay pretty frequently but my current boyfriend loves to kiss and touch for a long time before we get to anything else.
07/05/2011
Beck Beck
its ok to skip once in a while but if u want to remain happy and keep him happy u dont want to skip all the time! foreplay just helps the mood and if u dont need that then its fine to skip but if ur noticing its just not exciting anymore that yes u need foreplay we always have foreplay to me its more fun to play! i love foreplay!
07/05/2011
CuteDee CuteDee
I like foreplay. Bf likes me to "suck his cock" and "bend over". We are going on two years now and I do see foreplay getting phased out... = (
07/05/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
i think the first two are correct... it is normal AND you're getting lazy.

07/05/2011
salaciousrex salaciousrex
We skip foreplay pretty often, like when we don't have a lot of time for sex or just need each other right then. We've been together year and a half now and we just don't need it, we get so turned on by just being with each other. We never needed foreplay to begin with with each other, but we don't do it as often now.
07/05/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
About half and half for us, sometimes we jump right in other times we like the build up. A bit strange, I can go a lot longer with foreplay than without.
07/05/2011
Acorn Acorn
We don't really need it anymore but we often include foreplay because it's so much fun.
07/06/2011
married with children married with children
yes, more and more corners will get cut in the relationship. We skip foreplay about 15-20% of the time. Because of our schedule, or the kids.
07/06/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I think it diminishes not necessarily bcs it isn't needed but bcs we get lazy.

I have been teaching my guy to provide foreplay...bcs we never really needed it before. He never had another girl other than me. In the beginning, you are always horny and wet so no foreplay is really needed. But now, I have to get going as quick as my guy and unfortunately, my body isn't as quick as my mind is. So we are doing things backwards, lol.
07/06/2011
MJ1337 MJ1337
Foreplay gets me in the mood... I can still have sex without it, but I'll be more into it if foreplay comes first. Wait, it this when boys start to complain that the woman just lies there until he finishes (mm.. now they might know why )
07/06/2011
onehotmomma onehotmomma
We went a long time with skipping foreplay due to time constraints..having 2 kids makes everything more difficult. When we find ourselves without kids now we still skip the foreplay most of the time. I don't know if it's out of habit, or the fact that we've been with each other for so long...I've never actually really thought about it until I read this post lol.
07/06/2011
Rossie Rossie
We never skip it. Foreplay leads to better sex, then to good orgasms.
07/06/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
It's all about mood for me.
07/06/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
If a partner wants to get lazy and skip out on the foreplay, then he damn well better dish out the mindplay - otherwise he can go handplay by himself!
07/06/2011
Total posts: 64
Unique posters: 61