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As time has gone in my relationship, I've noticed less and less foreplay is needed. Is this a common thing in long term relationships?
Sex evolves and changes as a relationship progresses. My Man and I don't divide sex up into "foreplay" and "the big event." (Which I assume is PIV intercourse.) We go back and forth from oral, to PIV, to hand play, to toys, back to oral, make sure I come, throw in some anal play, then if he hasn't come yet, wash up for more of whatever will work for him this time. It is different every time, but we don't really divide it into foreplay and the main event.
I rarely have my first orgasm from PIV sex, and sometimes we don't even have PIV sex. My Man loves to go Down Town and I love to give him head, and we will spend a long time touching each other etc. Even during quickies, (when I often don't even have an orgasm) he does go down, or I won't be lubricated and it will hurt. So, even if he doesn't get head, I always get some oral from him. If I want to have an orgasm, oral is necessary. We have found, as we've been together longer, sex often lasts longer. My favorite is a nice 2 to 3 hour marathon session, but a quickie where we both come is good, too. I prefer marathons. But, every couple has what works for them, and it's important to have variety in your sex life.
Whatever works for you, if you and your woman are happy is what is good for the two of you. As long as you are both enjoying your sex and both having great orgasms, then do what works!