Can you talk to your partner about everything? Or do you hold back?

js250 js250
Some people have a relationship that makes talking to their partner very difficult. I have friends that tell their partner everything--and I do mean everything!!
--What type of relationship do you have?
--Is your partner critical, judgmental or demeaning?
--Is your partner understanding, sympathetic and caring?
04/25/2013
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Mrs.Hellzapoppin Mrs.Hellzapoppin
I've been in a relationship for almost 5 years. We tell each other everything. Ev.ree.thing. He's so modest, non-judgmental and great. I'm extremely open and he never ever gets shocked. He's pretty swell.
04/25/2013
Tar2013 Tar2013
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Originally posted by js250
Some people have a relationship that makes talking to their partner very difficult. I have friends that tell their partner everything--and I do mean everything!!
--What type of relationship do you have?
--Is your partner critical, judgmental or ... More
My husband and I were best friends before we started dating (and still are) and we have been sleeping together for a long time. We tell each other everything, and it has been really great for the sex life! Most of the new stuff we try lately is based on telling each other what we might have seen in a porn or something fun one of our friends did. I think communication is key in a healthy relationship. We obviously don't tell each other about every second of our lives but we both have a great insight into each others lives
04/25/2013
Tar2013 Tar2013
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Originally posted by Mrs.Hellzapoppin
I've been in a relationship for almost 5 years. We tell each other everything. Ev.ree.thing. He's so modest, non-judgmental and great. I'm extremely open and he never ever gets shocked. He's pretty swell.
Mine too! And about the same length of time. My husband and I have been dating for 5 years, married for a little over a month
04/25/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Communication is probably the weakest part of our relationship and makes everything else difficult right along with it. I don't feel like I can really talk to him about much of anything without him being upset with me or telling me to get over it or something similar. It's really quite sad.
04/25/2013
Sammi Sammi
We share and talk about everything, mostly. The only thing he doesn't want to hear about is anything period-related - that's a major squick-out for him, even after all these years. We really don't fight ever, just discuss things, and he's never been critical or judgmental - I'm probably the one that can be critical on occasion.
04/25/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, at least once I think things out. I tend to resolve things internally in general though
04/25/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Yes we talk about anything and everything that we feel is important to the relationship - and a lot of things that are not critical, just good to share. We're lucky like Sammi - that our communication and temperament are such that we do not fight. Any issues that arise of discussed and an accommodation made to the person that has the strongest feelings - or more at stake.
04/26/2013
rosythorn rosythorn
Don't hold much back but we choose not to talk about some stuff
04/26/2013
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I tell my partner everything and he will lend a ear too listen. Some times he will give advice as well. I don't like to hold anything from him at all.
04/26/2013
married with children married with children
I share pretty much everything with her. She has a problem sharing. I know where it comes from too, I see it in my in-laws.
04/27/2013
Mr. E Mr. E
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Yes we talk about anything and everything that we feel is important to the relationship - and a lot of things that are not critical, just good to share. We're lucky like Sammi - that our communication and temperament are such that we do not ... More
Same here. Communicating, understanding and respecting each others point of view has been a big focus for us. It's so much easier to find common ground and to work through any issues... together. It's also crucial when you have teen-aged children.
04/27/2013
Ly-Ra Ly-Ra
We've been together three and a half years or so. He's really understanding and respectful and we both communicate well with each other.
04/28/2013
js250 js250
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Communication is probably the weakest part of our relationship and makes everything else difficult right along with it. I don't feel like I can really talk to him about much of anything without him being upset with me or telling me to get over ... More
I completely understand and an relate to how you feel as well. My husband and I are completely 110% open and honest about everything sexual, fantasies included, and there are absolutely no issues.

BUT...whenever I try to talk about hings that are important to me, bothering me or stating my opinion--I get back anger, disgust, contempt and a complete lack of support. It has reached the point where I am seriously and quietly evaluating myself and my tolerances...Life can be too short, no matter how much you love another person.
04/30/2013
karenm karenm
My partner and I are very close. I share almost everything with him (unless I am really embarrassed about something or worried that I will inconvenience him, hangups of mine that I'm working on). So I'm very open. He is too about daily stuff, but reserved about his feelings. He is with everyone though, and less so with me.

I wouldn't say he is critical, judgmental or demeaning (though my ex was. He was very logical and dismissive. We argued often). He is practical, which sometimes means shooting me down a peg when I get my hopes up about things I have little chance of getting. But I know that his comments come from a place of caring and concern, and not of dismissal. He just doesn't want me to get disappointed. He is very kind and sympathetic towards me.

We balance out well because I need to talk and vent about things, and he is great about that. He doesn't only treat my issue as a problem to solve (as my ex did), but he also really listens.
05/01/2013
VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
We talk about everything. Both of us are non-judgmental towards each other and enjoy sharing. It brings wonderful intimacy into our relationship and keeps us so close. We know each other so well because of how open we are. It is a really good thing for us.
05/01/2013
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by js250
Some people have a relationship that makes talking to their partner very difficult. I have friends that tell their partner everything--and I do mean everything!!
--What type of relationship do you have?
--Is your partner critical, judgmental or ... More
I hold back about sex, he is very open, but we just don't discuss sex. I know I should open up, but for some reason I can't. We have a great relationship and talk about everything else. I just have a wall up for some reason.
05/02/2013
bratcat bratcat
My partner is defiantly the latter (Is your partner understanding, sympathetic and caring), and i'm very comfortable about talking with them about almost anything/everything. He's always very empathic when i have a problem and tried to see things from my point of view, as well as always being supportive and caring.
05/02/2013
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