D-I-V-O-R-C-E. The Big Ugly 'D' Word.

My parents are getting a divorce after 25 years of marriage. I don't understand how at that point after you've gone through so much you can magically NOT love someone any more. I just wish my dad would say "yes i'm lazy and I don't feel like putting in effort any more" Because that's basically what i feel is happening less

I got married in April of last year; the main reason was to keep my boyfriend in this country since he was (and still is, due to technicalities) an illegal alien. I regret getting married, because he was not and still isn't what I need in a relationship. Still, I am not ready to seriously consider divorce (annulment) yet. eta: my parents are still married after 36 years, in spite of many ups and downs. They raised me to respect marriage, hence why I feel like an idiot for going against my values and marrying someone I wasn't sure about. less

In the past 24 hours I've just found out that 2 sets of my aunts and uncles are getting a divorce. with 6 aunts and 6 uncles all never divorced (save one from a short marriage when i was young) and my parents still together... it's a bit of a shock.

Wondering the demographics of married folks here who've been divorced. It's just interesting to me to hear all these statistics about it and feel that when getting married the odds are stacked up against you. Yuck.

Let's get the truth out at least about our little community's divorce rate.

And if you don't care to, could you please let us know if you were divorced, WHY? And if you're still with your marriage partner, what has held you together?

Thanks for all your input. less

In the past 24 hours I've just found out that 2 sets of my aunts and uncles are getting a divorce. with 6 aunts and 6 uncles all never divorced (save one from a short marriage when i was young) and my parents still together... it's a bit of a shock.

Wondering the demographics of married folks here who've been divorced. It's just interesting to me to hear all these statistics about it and feel that when getting married the odds are stacked up against you. Yuck.

Let's get the truth out at least about our little community's divorce rate.

And if you don't care to, could you please let us know if you were divorced, WHY? And if you're still with your marriage partner, what has held you together?

Thanks for all your input. less

In the past 24 hours I've just found out that 2 sets of my aunts and uncles are getting a divorce. with 6 aunts and 6 uncles all never divorced (save one from a short marriage when i was young) and my parents still together... it's a bit of a shock.

Wondering the demographics of married folks here who've been divorced. It's just interesting to me to hear all these statistics about it and feel that when getting married the odds are stacked up against you. Yuck.

Let's get the truth out at least about our little community's divorce rate.

And if you don't care to, could you please let us know if you were divorced, WHY? And if you're still with your marriage partner, what has held you together?

Thanks for all your input. less

Also like Tori, I married too young and was horribly incompatible (my reason was fear of never having another chance as he's the only guy who ever expressed true interest in me). It took me until I was 32 (and about to jump off a bridge) to finally decide to save my sanity and soul, and divorce him.

Lessons: know who you are first, don't accept the first one that comes along, don't have high expectations, know what you're getting into, know that marriage is work for both people. less

In the past 24 hours I've just found out that 2 sets of my aunts and uncles are getting a divorce. with 6 aunts and 6 uncles all never divorced (save one from a short marriage when i was young) and my parents still together... it's a bit of a shock.

Wondering the demographics of married folks here who've been divorced. It's just interesting to me to hear all these statistics about it and feel that when getting married the odds are stacked up against you. Yuck.

Let's get the truth out at least about our little community's divorce rate.

And if you don't care to, could you please let us know if you were divorced, WHY? And if you're still with your marriage partner, what has held you together?

Thanks for all your input. less