What would you consider grounds for divorce?

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What would you consider grounds for divorce?

bayosgirl bayosgirl
What would you, personally, consider grounds for divorce? Assuming you've attempted to work on the issues when applicable and they are not improving.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Cheating (your interpretation may vary)
88
Multiple lies, not related to infidelity
68
Extreme weight gain or otherwise letting themselves go
14
Drinking or drug problem
83
Emotional abuse
94
Physical abuse
100
Porn addiction
21
S/he committed a serious crime
67
Lack of "spark" in the relationship
42
Fighting/just can't get along
76
Dissatisfaction in the bedroom
30
S/he is infertile
4
Lives took different directions
60
Other/please explain
19
Total votes: 766 (108 voters)
Poll is closed
06/16/2012
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bayosgirl bayosgirl
For me, all the above except infertility, dissatisfaction in the bedroom, and lack of spark. Those can be worked on, but things like trust issues and abuse are more serious.
06/16/2012
dirtythoughts:) dirtythoughts:)
If you divorce someone for being infertile then, in my opinion, you didn't love them as much as you should've and should never have married them in the first place! If the only problem is your partners infertility then you have choices; adoption, sperm/egg donor, surrogate, etc.

I choose ALL would be grounds for divorce EXCEPT extreme weight gain, porn addiction, committed serious crime and infertility. The serious crime thing is a little iffy. Example, say if my man killed/harmed someone protecting me or family, I would stick my his side 25 to life
06/16/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
Lies, especially a drug or alcohol problem!
06/16/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
What would you, personally, consider grounds for divorce? Assuming you've attempted to work on the issues when applicable and they are not improving.
just depends on the circumstances tho weight gain never would be a reason
06/16/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Cheating, emotional abuse, and physical abuse. The rest I think one should at least try couple's counseling before heading for divorce court. I also really hate divorce as I watched my parents go through it, so I'm not one to jump to it unless something "unforgivable" has been done. I'd consider those three things unforgivable.

Now, if you go to counseling and don't make progress, then a lot more of those may be grounds for divorce. Weight gain never. Infertility no. As for the serious crime, it would depend on the crime. If my husband killed someone, I'd probably run for the hills. He's been to jail for some small stuff and I'm still with him though. So it would just depend on what we're counting as "serious."
06/16/2012
digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
What would you, personally, consider grounds for divorce? Assuming you've attempted to work on the issues when applicable and they are not improving.
my votes speak for themselves
06/16/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I think that emotional/sexual disconnect are reasons for divorce but only when everything has been explored as an option first.
06/16/2012
Beck Beck
Almost all of those are grounds for me to file a divorce except for weight gain and infertility. Those can be worked on or found a way around. Other things are unforgivable.
06/16/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
About a half-dozen of those contributed to my own divorce (the emotional abuse being the top reason).

Another reason not listed is incompatibility in the first place.
06/16/2012
funluvinmama funluvinmama
Cheating, drug problem, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, S/he committed a serious crime (if it puts my kids at risk of being taken from me.)
06/16/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Most of those but not infertility as I don't think I want children, and not porn addiction, because I love it too. A serious crime would depend on if it was towards an animal or child or just a one time violent occurrence that could just happen to anyone.
06/16/2012
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
I would NEVER divorce over weight gain. As long as they loved me, I'm fine with it.
06/16/2012
BG529 BG529
deff. not weight gain! WTF
06/16/2012
Big Dog Big Dog
For most, it's just if the trust is gone, so is the love.
06/16/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I'm a ride or die kinda girl. If you've shown me a lifetime of support, unyielding love and respect... I'll help you bury the body.

The Husband comes first. He's got my back and I have his. We make a great team.
06/16/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
What would you, personally, consider grounds for divorce? Assuming you've attempted to work on the issues when applicable and they are not improving.
To be honest almost all of the options are grounds for divorce if the couple cannot resolve the issues to the satisfaction of both parties. Hopefully this is just a curiosity question and not a real life problem?
06/16/2012
dirtythoughts:) dirtythoughts:)
Quote:
Originally posted by TheSinDoll
I'm a ride or die kinda girl. If you've shown me a lifetime of support, unyielding love and respect... I'll help you bury the body.

The Husband comes first. He's got my back and I have his. We make a great team.
Love this comment! Totally agree, as I said in my comment.
06/16/2012
Annemarie Annemarie
I have exactly three reasons to divorce someone. Infidelity, abuse of any kind, and hiding something major. Like, hugely major. Killed somebody and ate them major. Not surprise birthday parties.

Anything else has the potential to be worked through.

Having seen my parents divorce over the most stupid things, I will never divorce my (future) husband unless there's something hugely wrong.
06/16/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
wow im shocked at the responses to this
06/16/2012
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
What would you, personally, consider grounds for divorce? Assuming you've attempted to work on the issues when applicable and they are not improving.
I think drugs and infidelity are the two biggest factors I'd consider divorce without a second thought.
06/16/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Anything to do with dishonesty, disrespect, and infidelity.
06/16/2012
Mwar Mwar
I would be willing to work with most things, but I'd have to see that the need to change and be better comes from within.
06/16/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by gloomybear
wow im shocked at the responses to this
Why?
06/17/2012
XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
Cheating, an excessive amount of porn usage, multiple lies.
02/03/2013
lainebug lainebug
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
What would you, personally, consider grounds for divorce? Assuming you've attempted to work on the issues when applicable and they are not improving.
Abuse in any form
02/03/2013
xscorpiox xscorpiox
almost all of those
02/03/2013
chicmichiw chicmichiw
Oh wow this poll made me sad. Most of these I checked, really.
02/04/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
I only checked physical abuse but mental would be right up there too. There were a couple more but mostly these two without hesitation.
02/04/2013
falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by bayosgirl
What would you, personally, consider grounds for divorce? Assuming you've attempted to work on the issues when applicable and they are not improving.
cheating, lying, some sort of addiction that they cant or wont get help for, any sort of abuse. i would always try to work it out before though, except for the abuse.
02/04/2013
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