We probably watch it alone all the time.
I wanna watch porn with him but he doesn't want to, lol.
I wanna watch porn with him but he doesn't want to, lol.
Do you care if your husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend looks at porn by themselves.
01/28/2011
I watch it alone most times, but I don't mind my partner watching it. I kinda kid him by saying, "I hope you have something left for me?"
01/28/2011
I don't care if he looks at porn. If I'm home, I prefer he watch it with me, but he's a grown man and free to do what he likes.
For years, I liked porn, but only was able to see it in sleazy motels we sometimes went to, or at a friend's house who had a BetaMax or an early VCR or something.
Then, I got too involved in unhealthy preoccupation with 2nd wave feminism, I was "offended" by every thing on earth. Everything had an ulterior, "sexist" motive and I am sure I was very difficult to live with.
Years later we got a VCR and I found him watching porn one night after he thought I had fallen asleep. I was upset. I was not in a healthy place in my life then, my sex drive was low, I was depressed and I was misinformed by people with agendea about what porn is all about.
A few years later, I started to rethink my life, how My Man and I were getting along, (not well then) and how my attitude contributed to the problems.
I decided to be more tolerant, more accepting, to be less judgmental and came to the realization that a lot of my "offense" I took to things was my choice. I think we can choose whether or not to let certain things offend us. Especially if they are things that really hurt no one. Yeah, Nazis offend me, still, but other things I simply don't care for much don't have to "offend" me. I can simply choose not to like them.
Anyway, when I had this change of mind and worked on how I was working on our relationship, my sex drive went through the roof again (it had been higher when I was younger and less "offendable") My Man asked me if he could show me some porn he really enjoyed by himself, because he wanted me to enjoy it with him........and the rest is history.
We've had a Renaissance in our sex life in the last 5 or so years, sex toys entered our lives, more sex than ever, more tolerance, and yes, some porn. I made a conscious choice to make our relationship better, by being more tolerant. We also realized the D/s aspect of our relationship, which had been there, only slightly recognized forever. It was liberating to allow these changes to take place. But, I had to think about my sense of "offense" and work to overcome it, first of all by letting all the bullshit of everything from Betty Friedan to Oprah to Dr. Phil out of my brain. I had to think for myself, use my instincts and realize that sex is the healthiest way My Man and I relate and recognize all the aspects of our relationship. It was not as difficult as I thought, because holding on to all that "offense" and feelings of being downtrodden was very heavy and dragged me down. I am glad I went through this, with the help of not only My Man, but listening to my sex drive and reality.
I feel if people really don't like it, they don't have to watch it.
But, as for women being "objects" etc, I feel we aren't any more objectified than we are in mainstream movies. (Anybody seen a "Romantic Comedy" lately? Women are portrayed as silly, unrealistic fools, who worst of all GET WHAT THEY WANT in unrealistic situations.) IMO, Romantic Comedies are more damaging to women and men and our relationships than a scene of people fucking.
JMHO. Mileage and all that shit.
For years, I liked porn, but only was able to see it in sleazy motels we sometimes went to, or at a friend's house who had a BetaMax or an early VCR or something.
Then, I got too involved in unhealthy preoccupation with 2nd wave feminism, I was "offended" by every thing on earth. Everything had an ulterior, "sexist" motive and I am sure I was very difficult to live with.
Years later we got a VCR and I found him watching porn one night after he thought I had fallen asleep. I was upset. I was not in a healthy place in my life then, my sex drive was low, I was depressed and I was misinformed by people with agendea about what porn is all about.
A few years later, I started to rethink my life, how My Man and I were getting along, (not well then) and how my attitude contributed to the problems.
I decided to be more tolerant, more accepting, to be less judgmental and came to the realization that a lot of my "offense" I took to things was my choice. I think we can choose whether or not to let certain things offend us. Especially if they are things that really hurt no one. Yeah, Nazis offend me, still, but other things I simply don't care for much don't have to "offend" me. I can simply choose not to like them.
Anyway, when I had this change of mind and worked on how I was working on our relationship, my sex drive went through the roof again (it had been higher when I was younger and less "offendable") My Man asked me if he could show me some porn he really enjoyed by himself, because he wanted me to enjoy it with him........and the rest is history.
We've had a Renaissance in our sex life in the last 5 or so years, sex toys entered our lives, more sex than ever, more tolerance, and yes, some porn. I made a conscious choice to make our relationship better, by being more tolerant. We also realized the D/s aspect of our relationship, which had been there, only slightly recognized forever. It was liberating to allow these changes to take place. But, I had to think about my sense of "offense" and work to overcome it, first of all by letting all the bullshit of everything from Betty Friedan to Oprah to Dr. Phil out of my brain. I had to think for myself, use my instincts and realize that sex is the healthiest way My Man and I relate and recognize all the aspects of our relationship. It was not as difficult as I thought, because holding on to all that "offense" and feelings of being downtrodden was very heavy and dragged me down. I am glad I went through this, with the help of not only My Man, but listening to my sex drive and reality.
I feel if people really don't like it, they don't have to watch it.
But, as for women being "objects" etc, I feel we aren't any more objectified than we are in mainstream movies. (Anybody seen a "Romantic Comedy" lately? Women are portrayed as silly, unrealistic fools, who worst of all GET WHAT THEY WANT in unrealistic situations.) IMO, Romantic Comedies are more damaging to women and men and our relationships than a scene of people fucking.
JMHO. Mileage and all that shit.
01/28/2011
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If my wife watched it, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I would only hope a part of her thinks of me. I don't thinl I have to worry, though. If she watched it, it would be with both eyes closed. I personally haven't for years. I learned that I can picture what I want in my head and there is only one person there.
Originally posted by
KrissyRoro
I know a lot of couples watch porn together, but would it bother you if they watched it by themselves ?
01/28/2011
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I love this. I've seen posts of yours elsewhere that touch on the subject but this one really gets to the meat of the issue. I love that you took ownership, realized the issue lay within yourself, fixed it and are better than ever. You didn't walk away from a fixable marriage because you were now 'incompatible'. You put the effort into mending it and now, from my understanding, it's even better than it was in the beginning! Brava, darling!
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I don't care if he looks at porn. If I'm home, I prefer he watch it with me, but he's a grown man and free to do what he likes.
For years, I liked porn, but only was able to see it in sleazy motels we sometimes went to, or at a ... more
For years, I liked porn, but only was able to see it in sleazy motels we sometimes went to, or at a ... more
I don't care if he looks at porn. If I'm home, I prefer he watch it with me, but he's a grown man and free to do what he likes.
For years, I liked porn, but only was able to see it in sleazy motels we sometimes went to, or at a friend's house who had a BetaMax or an early VCR or something.
Then, I got too involved in unhealthy preoccupation with 2nd wave feminism, I was "offended" by every thing on earth. Everything had an ulterior, "sexist" motive and I am sure I was very difficult to live with.
Years later we got a VCR and I found him watching porn one night after he thought I had fallen asleep. I was upset. I was not in a healthy place in my life then, my sex drive was low, I was depressed and I was misinformed by people with agendea about what porn is all about.
A few years later, I started to rethink my life, how My Man and I were getting along, (not well then) and how my attitude contributed to the problems.
I decided to be more tolerant, more accepting, to be less judgmental and came to the realization that a lot of my "offense" I took to things was my choice. I think we can choose whether or not to let certain things offend us. Especially if they are things that really hurt no one. Yeah, Nazis offend me, still, but other things I simply don't care for much don't have to "offend" me. I can simply choose not to like them.
Anyway, when I had this change of mind and worked on how I was working on our relationship, my sex drive went through the roof again (it had been higher when I was younger and less "offendable") My Man asked me if he could show me some porn he really enjoyed by himself, because he wanted me to enjoy it with him........and the rest is history.
We've had a Renaissance in our sex life in the last 5 or so years, sex toys entered our lives, more sex than ever, more tolerance, and yes, some porn. I made a conscious choice to make our relationship better, by being more tolerant. We also realized the D/s aspect of our relationship, which had been there, only slightly recognized forever. It was liberating to allow these changes to take place. But, I had to think about my sense of "offense" and work to overcome it, first of all by letting all the bullshit of everything from Betty Friedan to Oprah to Dr. Phil out of my brain. I had to think for myself, use my instincts and realize that sex is the healthiest way My Man and I relate and recognize all the aspects of our relationship. It was not as difficult as I thought, because holding on to all that "offense" and feelings of being downtrodden was very heavy and dragged me down. I am glad I went through this, with the help of not only My Man, but listening to my sex drive and reality.
I feel if people really don't like it, they don't have to watch it.
But, as for women being "objects" etc, I feel we aren't any more objectified than we are in mainstream movies. (Anybody seen a "Romantic Comedy" lately? Women are portrayed as silly, unrealistic fools, who worst of all GET WHAT THEY WANT in unrealistic situations.) IMO, Romantic Comedies are more damaging to women and men and our relationships than a scene of people fucking.
JMHO. Mileage and all that shit. less
For years, I liked porn, but only was able to see it in sleazy motels we sometimes went to, or at a friend's house who had a BetaMax or an early VCR or something.
Then, I got too involved in unhealthy preoccupation with 2nd wave feminism, I was "offended" by every thing on earth. Everything had an ulterior, "sexist" motive and I am sure I was very difficult to live with.
Years later we got a VCR and I found him watching porn one night after he thought I had fallen asleep. I was upset. I was not in a healthy place in my life then, my sex drive was low, I was depressed and I was misinformed by people with agendea about what porn is all about.
A few years later, I started to rethink my life, how My Man and I were getting along, (not well then) and how my attitude contributed to the problems.
I decided to be more tolerant, more accepting, to be less judgmental and came to the realization that a lot of my "offense" I took to things was my choice. I think we can choose whether or not to let certain things offend us. Especially if they are things that really hurt no one. Yeah, Nazis offend me, still, but other things I simply don't care for much don't have to "offend" me. I can simply choose not to like them.
Anyway, when I had this change of mind and worked on how I was working on our relationship, my sex drive went through the roof again (it had been higher when I was younger and less "offendable") My Man asked me if he could show me some porn he really enjoyed by himself, because he wanted me to enjoy it with him........and the rest is history.
We've had a Renaissance in our sex life in the last 5 or so years, sex toys entered our lives, more sex than ever, more tolerance, and yes, some porn. I made a conscious choice to make our relationship better, by being more tolerant. We also realized the D/s aspect of our relationship, which had been there, only slightly recognized forever. It was liberating to allow these changes to take place. But, I had to think about my sense of "offense" and work to overcome it, first of all by letting all the bullshit of everything from Betty Friedan to Oprah to Dr. Phil out of my brain. I had to think for myself, use my instincts and realize that sex is the healthiest way My Man and I relate and recognize all the aspects of our relationship. It was not as difficult as I thought, because holding on to all that "offense" and feelings of being downtrodden was very heavy and dragged me down. I am glad I went through this, with the help of not only My Man, but listening to my sex drive and reality.
I feel if people really don't like it, they don't have to watch it.
But, as for women being "objects" etc, I feel we aren't any more objectified than we are in mainstream movies. (Anybody seen a "Romantic Comedy" lately? Women are portrayed as silly, unrealistic fools, who worst of all GET WHAT THEY WANT in unrealistic situations.) IMO, Romantic Comedies are more damaging to women and men and our relationships than a scene of people fucking.
JMHO. Mileage and all that shit. less
01/28/2011
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Yest. Porn is disgusting. Most of it is trafficking and illegal. It disgusts me in every way. Would you like to know more? Just message me and ask.
Originally posted by
KrissyRoro
I know a lot of couples watch porn together, but would it bother you if they watched it by themselves ?
01/28/2011
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If porn is wrong, then the whole human experience with sex is wrong. It's only wrong when children are a part of it or it's forced in any way. If you can watch and learn from your significant other, then you are watching porn, just not on tv and not with someone you know. If it is so illegal, then how is it sold and taxed by our government? Go to the dvd part of this sight and tell them that they are committing a crime if that's how it trully is.Plead your case and make a difference!
Originally posted by
Xavier7
Yest. Porn is disgusting. Most of it is trafficking and illegal. It disgusts me in every way. Would you like to know more? Just message me and ask.
01/28/2011
It would bother me if he was trying to hide it from me or do it behind my back. I don't care as long as it is out in the open and he would still want to watch it with me too.
01/28/2011
I chose "Other". If he were addicted to it, or chose to watch it rather than be with me, it would be a big problem. If it were just sometimes, then I'd have no problem with it. So for me it depends on the situation.
01/28/2011
I don't care as long as it's only on occasion and he doesn't expect me to look like they do.
01/28/2011
Heck, I like it when my gf shows me hot porn she's found.
01/28/2011
My ex watched porn on my laptop nearly daily, and always lied about it, even when I was like, "I don't care that you look at porn, just don't do it on my computer, I don't trust the sites you go to." The lying bothered me a lot, especially when he stopped having sex with me and doubled up on his porn and continued to lie.
On principal, I don't have an issue with my guy looking at porn, as long as he's doesn't lie and still wants me.
On principal, I don't have an issue with my guy looking at porn, as long as he's doesn't lie and still wants me.
01/28/2011
My Husband used to watch it all the time, day and night. He would delete his history and lie about it when I asked. He would insist that I was crazy. I knew he was doing it because he wasn't smart enough to delete the hundreds of cookies the sites would put onto the computer, but he claimed those were from pop ups from video game sites. (sure they are)
I didn't care that he was looking at it, because I did too, but what bothered me is that I would go to bed and he would stay up late at night to watch it and then say I was the "prude" and at fault for our lack of sex at the time. He didn't even consider the fact that it might have been because he didn't join me in bed!
It didn't stop being a problem until a credit card bill came with a charge from a porn site that he swore he didn't approve. He was finally willing to sit down and actually talk without calling me crazy.
He still watches it often now, it wasn't until recently that he stopped trying to hide it. He even admitted to me that he continued deleting the history because he knew that was what bothered me (Yes, he is an Asshole and doesn't deny it)
I watch it when he isn't around and it doesn't bother him. We both have things that we like which the other doesn't. It's hard to enjoy it when your partner is commenting on what they don't like about the scene so it works for us. We do watch together too, but more often we watch alone.
I didn't care that he was looking at it, because I did too, but what bothered me is that I would go to bed and he would stay up late at night to watch it and then say I was the "prude" and at fault for our lack of sex at the time. He didn't even consider the fact that it might have been because he didn't join me in bed!
It didn't stop being a problem until a credit card bill came with a charge from a porn site that he swore he didn't approve. He was finally willing to sit down and actually talk without calling me crazy.
He still watches it often now, it wasn't until recently that he stopped trying to hide it. He even admitted to me that he continued deleting the history because he knew that was what bothered me (Yes, he is an Asshole and doesn't deny it)
I watch it when he isn't around and it doesn't bother him. We both have things that we like which the other doesn't. It's hard to enjoy it when your partner is commenting on what they don't like about the scene so it works for us. We do watch together too, but more often we watch alone.
01/28/2011
I've only been upset with partners watching porn alone when my complaint was about the content. There are certain things I consider objectionable and I have had a very hard time coming to terms with a partner who enjoys porn that it will suffice to say will not be for sale on the EdenFantasy shelves anytime soon....
01/28/2011
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Professional porn is not illegal and does not consist of any sort of trafficking.
Originally posted by
Xavier7
Yest. Porn is disgusting. Most of it is trafficking and illegal. It disgusts me in every way. Would you like to know more? Just message me and ask.
01/28/2011
I watch porn, why can't my husband? lol
01/28/2011
I would like to do it together to spice us both up...
01/28/2011
If she was using it as a sub for sex, then i would have a problem. Or trying to hide it. I would not mind if i know about it.
01/28/2011
It doesn't bother me because we both know it's not about the actors/actresses, mostly we watch it for the curiosity or to get ideas.
01/28/2011
I do it so why shouldnt he
01/28/2011
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Both my guys look at and love porn though they have different tastes from each other and even from me. I couldn't care less if they watch...hell I wouldn't care less if they wanted to MAKE porn, it would be amazing for me to watch.
Originally posted by
KrissyRoro
I know a lot of couples watch porn together, but would it bother you if they watched it by themselves ?
01/29/2011
As long as I'm not being replaced I couldn't care less. We typically watch porn when we're away from each other and it usually makes us that much "happier" to see each other.
01/29/2011
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not at all!!!!!!!!!!
Originally posted by
KrissyRoro
I know a lot of couples watch porn together, but would it bother you if they watched it by themselves ?
01/29/2011
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Totally agree, I wouldn't mind unless it was an issue. If he choose porn over me, or if he hid it, then I'd feel like there was more to it =)
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
I put other because it would bother me if they hid it from me or lied. Otherwise...not at all! I do!
01/30/2011
We both watch porn individually.
01/30/2011
It doesn't bother me if he watches it when I'm not around. What I have a problem with is if I'm going down below and he wants to put porn on and watch that at the same time. I won't let him, it makes me feel like I am inadequate or something. He can get off without watching it at the same time as I am down there but I guess sometimes he just wants more???
01/30/2011
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I am the opposite. I love going down on my partner while he watches porn. Sometimes, I put porn on for him and then go to town. I love watching him watch pornography, and seeing what sort of images he responds to.
Originally posted by
DragonEyes
It doesn't bother me if he watches it when I'm not around. What I have a problem with is if I'm going down below and he wants to put porn on and watch that at the same time. I won't let him, it makes me feel like I am inadequate or
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It doesn't bother me if he watches it when I'm not around. What I have a problem with is if I'm going down below and he wants to put porn on and watch that at the same time. I won't let him, it makes me feel like I am inadequate or something. He can get off without watching it at the same time as I am down there but I guess sometimes he just wants more???
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I know that the sensory overload is a great thrill for him, and seeing him thrilled is a great thrill for me.
01/30/2011
I marked no, because generally it doesn't bother me. It isn't until I start to not "get any" in a relationship, but know that he is constantly watching porn and masturbating. THAT is when it really bothers me. Thank Goodness it hasn't happen in the relationship I have now. BUT in the past, it was a one-way street to splitsville for me.
02/02/2011
It doesn't bother my wife, and it wouldn't bother me is she watched it by herself. Since I am gone 4 days a week with work traveling, I actually am trying to get her to watch it by herself. But she hasn't watched anything yet that she enjoys (she hasn't watched much period), and with how busy she is, she doesn't have much time to play with herself.
02/02/2011
I do care, but conditionally. If we're still having a good sex life I don' mind so much.
02/02/2011