Do you give your S/O space?

Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
My man is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), so he has to have his space. Being around other people wears at his nerves much faster than it does the person with the average nervous system, and I'm happy to give him his time to unwind. We have a lot in common, but are also very open to trying new things, especially if one of us is very interested in the activity. In the end, we maintain our independence while still being very close and sharing a lot of experiences with each other.
12/07/2011
Contributor: butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
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Originally posted by Jaimes
I don't HAVE to be present, but I want to. We enjoy spending a ridiculous amount of time together, but we don't control what the other person chooses to do. Most of the time it ends up we choose it together.
Awh I wish my relationship was like that!
12/12/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I chose other because I didn't see an option that truly fit us. I don't demand to be everywhere he goes and he doesn't demand to be right up my rear either, but it seems we prefer doing most things as a couple. I love that though! We get our personal space when we're working and during the evening while he's practicing football with the kids and then when I'm doing homework with them... unless it's math and in that case he gets to help! Lol.

Other than that, when it comes to deciding on doing something, going somewhere we just always do it together. We usually prefer being together. He doesn't request time alone and I don't either. We're usually doing something fun together during the time we aren't working.
12/13/2011
Contributor: ily ily
Yes, we both enjoy our alone time and I think we'd go crazy if we didn't give each other space.
12/13/2011
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I need me time, and I need my partner to have him time. I'm a nurturing person by nature, and will burn myself out on people I love, which is bad for both of us.
12/13/2011
Contributor: Stephanie Majors Stephanie Majors
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Originally posted by Rossie
Do you give your significant other space, so he/she can spend time apart to pursue his/her hobby or interest? Or do you require him/her to be by your side at all times?
Since we pretty much live together and like a lot of the same things, we like doing things together. We do things apart when one of us is busy with work or something like that.
12/21/2011
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
I voted all because it's situational for me.
12/21/2011
Contributor: null null
I try to give him time alone, but he wants more time alone than I do.
12/21/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
I want him to get out more actually. He sits home and plays computer games all the time.
12/21/2011
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Do you give your significant other space, so he/she can spend time apart to pursue his/her hobby or interest? Or do you require him/her to be by your side at all times?
We can spend time apart, just makes me miss him more
01/02/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Do you give your significant other space, so he/she can spend time apart to pursue his/her hobby or interest? Or do you require him/her to be by your side at all times?
We can spend time apart, you don't have to be together 24/7
01/03/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
...I try.
If I know he's busy or he's had a particularly horrid day I usually don't text or anything but if we don't talk at least three or four times a week he tends to get really depressed.

...I find it pretty cute actually, the power went out for a few days when I was down visiting my aunt and when I was finally able to text him again he was so happy to talk to me again. <3
01/11/2012
Contributor: TameTemptress TameTemptress
We give each other a lot of space. He does a lot of volunteer work, and really enjoys it. I do my own thing when he's gone and that usually works for us to give us the space we need.
01/11/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
I give my partner space both for their sanity and my own! I get crazy if I don't have some alone time to unwind.
01/11/2012
Contributor: Teacookie Teacookie
every one needs space. If you think otherwise I have an aquintence you can have for a houseguest. He hovers around you asking if he can help. He does do chores with out being asked once he see how you like them down. He is not a coversationlist, it is hard to get him into conversations, but once you do he's great. He does not move much, he is not picky about his food, because he can't taste it real well or smell anything. He's awkard and he breaths through his mouth. -_- I have never been so darn bored with a visitor in my life and when I tried to get him to leave early with a friend going his way home (200 miles) he begged to stay. I wanted to kill him figuretivly speaking dueing his two week stay.

SPACE IS A MUST
01/11/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Teacookie
every one needs space. If you think otherwise I have an aquintence you can have for a houseguest. He hovers around you asking if he can help. He does do chores with out being asked once he see how you like them down. He is not a coversationlist, it ... more
... maybe he sees you as his only friend, someone who can tolerate him, while others find him awkward to have around.
01/11/2012
Contributor: RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
Give them space
10/29/2012
Contributor: SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
He can do whatever he pleases, as long as he spends time with me also. He likes me to be present/help with his hobbies, though. No, I'm not possessive; he told me he likes the company.
10/29/2012
Contributor: Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
yes, of course.
12/16/2012
Contributor: StayceeO StayceeO
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Do you give your significant other space, so he/she can spend time apart to pursue his/her hobby or interest? Or do you require him/her to be by your side at all times?
Yes
01/05/2013
Contributor: Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
We're relatively clingy and okay with that.
01/05/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
We do quite a bit together, but I also try to give her space.
01/06/2013
Contributor: wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by Jaimes
I don't HAVE to be present, but I want to. We enjoy spending a ridiculous amount of time together, but we don't control what the other person chooses to do. Most of the time it ends up we choose it together.
This is mostly us.

She tends to give me more space than I give her. Not really because I'm overbearing, but because she's more loner-ish than I am. I like to be around people all the time, even if all I'm doing is sitting on the couch with them. Though, I will admit that sometimes I like to be totally alone. But that usually only lasts a few hours.
01/06/2013
Contributor: Jamesey Jamesey
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Do you give your significant other space, so he/she can spend time apart to pursue his/her hobby or interest? Or do you require him/her to be by your side at all times?
I think I do, he says I don't.
01/06/2013
Contributor: noway noway
I'm the one who needs space. I'd feel suffocated if my SO wouldn't leave me alone. Sometimes I just need peace and quiet without always having someone in my face all the time. He can deal with that, or if not, he knows where the door is.
01/14/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
It's a necessity for me to have my space, so I always give him his space as a result. Currently, I let C alone during the weekdays because of his work schedule, so I don't bug him at all during that time. I once asked him if he was okay with this, and he said it doesn't bother him - he's glad that I'm not clingy like his exes that HAD to have him around or texting him constantly. Although he has started seeing me on Wednesdays to do more yoga together.

If it ever gets to the point of me moving closer (we live in different towns) or moving in together, I'd still insist on having personal time and space. It makes relationships much healthier, I think, and gives you more to talk about when you see each other.
01/14/2013
Contributor: burtnuh burtnuh
My boyfriend is more of the one who wants to always be around me. If he's working in the garage with his bestfriend he wants me out there. On the other hand I NEED my space, so I tend to back off when he's with his friends. It works out well.
01/14/2013
Contributor: sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
We're long distance, so we each have plenty of time to do our own thing. But when we're together, we don't really want space haha. If he asked I would give it to him though, I don't need space so I'd never ask.
01/14/2013
Contributor: nova2014 nova2014
When my SO asks for space I give him space but as we're long distance we both definitely get our own space to grow and branch out
03/20/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
We spend a lot of time together and do things together, but we also recognize that each person has things that they need or like to do, and some of that is alone. For instance, I like to watch a certain tv show he doesn't hate but also doesn't like, and he'd rather read somewhere when I do that. Sometimes I want to cuddle in my bed with a novel, and he'd rather go for a run. We try to plan when we do our own thing at the same time so we can still get alone time/hobby time but also maximize time together.
03/21/2013