Before i realized i was a lesbian and came out, i faked orgasms with my first (only and last) boyfriend, but only at the beginning. Then i realized what a huge mistake it was and told him and haven't done it even once in the 10 years since. On the rare occasions i can't get off, i'd rather be honest and tell my partner that i'm enjoying myself but don't think i'll be able to have an orgasm. Some are a little disappointed but most accept this and it really doesn't happen often anyway.
I did before I met my boyfriend, but not anymore. I wasn't really sure how to reach orgasm. I could do it fine on my own, but oral sex and PIV sex both didn't do much for me. I could get myself off manually in front of them, but it took quite a while. They were never able to get me off manually.
For the first four months of my relationship, I was unable to reach orgasm during sex, but my partner could at least get me off manually (though it did take a while). Now I can easily orgasm from PIV sex. If by chance I don't (and I really want to have an orgasm), I tell him and he says dirty things to me and/or fucks me with a dildo. Receiving oral sex still doesn't do much for me.
I think the reasons I couldn't before were lack of trust and experience. My boyfriend is also willing to fulfill my masochistic desires, something that others weren't willing to do. That certainly helps!
Now that I have a partner who is a giving, communicative and sensitive lover, never! He would know, he pays attention to those kind of things. Besides, why would I want to cheat myself out of all that fun?
My wife used to a lot when we were dating. I hated to find out that she had done that for a long time. If it's not going to happen, it's nothing personal. Sometimes I can't finish twice in one night and my wife understands. It can go both ways.
I have never faked one and I'm not sure why anyone would
I did a few times years ago with a GF. It was always the last fuck of a marathon sex session and I'd already cum five or six times over the evening. After than many orgasms in a relatively short time nothing more was coming out anyway so... I guess I did it because that GF always seemed proud of not only her multiple orgasms but my ability for multiple repeat performances. I even heard her bragging about it to some of her friends. So I didn't want to disappoint her.
There's plenty of reason to fake an orgasm, the most prominent being the expectation for there to be one.
For the longest time, I couldn't cum and it disappointed countless lovers, and on one occasion, I was dumped for it. It "let him down" and he wanted someone who could show him he was doing a good job, which case in point, meant orgasming. Plus, there's such a social stigma of, "Oh that guy can't make his girl cum, he's shit in bed." There's a ton of reason as to why an orgasm is expected to happen from both parties, a lot of it being society putting such a pressure on it being the grand finale and the reason to be intimate at all.
It's true, orgasming feels awesome. But when I couldn't cum, I never missed it because I'd never felt it before. I still enjoyed sex, copious amounts of it, so I always thought "What does it matter? Why is this so important, shouldn't it bother me most?" If your partner thinks an orgasm happening or not happening is a status report on the way they're performing in bed and you can't seem to change their mind, faking it is usually the route to go when you just want to put them at ease and assure them it isn't their lack of great giving skills that's the problem.
I haven't had to fake orgasms much since I met my partner now, who knows my body a little bit more and understands that I need specific things in specific places, no matter how un-romantic it can be, to orgasm and that she has little to do with it happening at all.
Sometimes it's how relaxed you are, or your amount of stress, or you're too relaxed and can't tense enough for it to happen. But the most important thing to know is that it's just your body's choice or how it's feeling that day.
I understand "why" someone would fake an orgasm but I think it is a horrible thing to do. Any guy that would dump you for not having one needs punched in his face.
I had the, dare I say, benefit of being friends with an ex of the guy who took my virginity. I thought it was awesome that he could get me to orgasm multiple times. She very bluntly told him that it was no skill of his and it had everything to do with me.
I, also, had sex with a guy who i had been crushing on for years. I managed to get off 15 times. It was from no skill of his, it was from the thoughts going on in my head.
Orgasming does not equal good sex and lack of orgasm does not mean bad sex. It needs to be communicated between the two people and faking just breeds distrust. I would imagine(but i have no knowledge because i would never do it) that faking it just makes a guy think that he is doing it right and nothing good, emotionally or physically, could possibly come from it
Nope. We don't fake them. There are times when one or the other of us just is not going to "get there" for one reason or another. We just tell the other one. Mrs will say, don't worry about me, just not happening. Mr will just stop. Doesn't happen often for either of us. For Mr it is usually after multiple go-rounds or multiple interruptions.
I don't fake orgasm. I don't know that I ever did (although it's possible I did in the beginning with my husband, I don't remember). He and I both consider it lying, and are big on openness and honesty.