Do you prefer to plan times for sex or are you spontaneous?

mpfm mpfm
We like to be spontaneous, but with work schedules and kids it works much better to have planned time for sex.
11/09/2011
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sktb0007 sktb0007
We don't plan it, but we also don't have really busy schedules where we would need to do this... I hope we never get that busy because one of the things I like about spontaneous sex is that it just happens. I feel that planning would kill a bit of the excitement. Then again, we don't do that so I could be wrong.
11/09/2011
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
i dont think its as fun or enjoyable when you have to plan an intimate moment with your partner.whether theres busy schedules with work or kids having to plan to have sex takes the spark out of a relationship i think.be spontaneous and drag him in the bathroom for a minute or tell the kids you guys gotta fix something in the garage ...life is to short to even have sex planned!
11/09/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
I like spontaneous.
11/09/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
The obvious answer is both. With work and family commitments planning is just a fact of life - then when the unexpected opportunity for a quickie presents itself - go for it!
11/09/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Probably both. We are very spontaneous, but I also love when I know for sure we're going to have sex that evening. I can tell from a look, or a smile or a slap on the butt.
11/09/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
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Originally posted by mpfm
We like to be spontaneous, but with work schedules and kids it works much better to have planned time for sex.
We have kids so we are not able to be as spontaneous as we'd like. We do plan date nights and times to have sex though. And once in a while we are able to have a quickie.
11/09/2011
- Kira - - Kira -
We do both. We both work and we have a son so spur of the moment doesn't happen as much as it used to. For example, even if the night isn't planned, I can promise that no sex will happen until 9pm because that's after my son has gone to bed. That kills some of the fun that we used to have just lounging around and having things progress, but it's part of life.

We do have date nights where sex is a sure thing, so I guess that's fully planned sex. In the case of date night, it's no less fun.

I miss random sex, but we don't plan every small detail either. We try to have a nice balance.
11/09/2011
Liz2 Liz2
Both, but I love to plan for a date by wearing lingerie and surprising him.
11/09/2011
sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
sometimes it's planned, but mostly spontaneous!
11/09/2011
indiglo indiglo
We do both. We plan certain date nights where sex is definitely going to happen, but we also are spontaneous too. I don't find planned sex nights any less fun - they're just a part of life. I don't find it less romantic or anything, actually, to be perfectly honest, I really like our planned "date nights". It's something we both look forward to all day, knowing what's going to happen that night... it's really fun!
11/09/2011
married with children married with children
I like to be spontaneous and the wife likes to plan, so we are somewhere in the middle.
11/11/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by mpfm
We like to be spontaneous, but with work schedules and kids it works much better to have planned time for sex.
We all three love to be spontaneous but with three kids and the distance that separates us we do have to plan.
11/11/2011
Kitka Kitka
Spontaneous sex is the best for us, but we don't always get the opportunity to do that. Sometimes we'll set aside some play time when we know we won't be bothered with work or family demands, but we don't plan out exactly what we'll do so it's still a bit spontaneous for us anyway.
11/11/2011
TameTemptress TameTemptress
Spontaneous...but we have kids, so it's usually spontaneous at night.
11/11/2011
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Either way is nice.
We don't really plan it often, and if we do it usually doesn't happen when planned anyway.
I do like if it's planned though, just so I can have things ready.
11/13/2011
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by mpfm
We like to be spontaneous, but with work schedules and kids it works much better to have planned time for sex.
A little of both works for us.
11/01/2012
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I prefer more spontaneity in my life! If I get horny, I want sex.
11/01/2012
thePicklez thePicklez
I think the only time I would plan to have an intimate time is if it were specifically on some type of getaway.
11/01/2012
Robespierrethecat Robespierrethecat
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Originally posted by mpfm
We like to be spontaneous, but with work schedules and kids it works much better to have planned time for sex.
I like to be spontaneous too, but have a busy schedule. My partner and I usually just allot a general period of time for 'cuddles' a lot of the time, and sometimes it's spontaneous sex and sometimes it's just snuggling.
11/01/2012
Alyxx Alyxx
We're spontaneous, and that's the way we both like it. But we don't have anything major like kids to who've to plan around.
11/01/2012
Undecided Undecided
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Originally posted by mpfm
We like to be spontaneous, but with work schedules and kids it works much better to have planned time for sex.
Planned sex has never worked for me
11/01/2012
tami tami
Quote:
Originally posted by mpfm
We like to be spontaneous, but with work schedules and kids it works much better to have planned time for sex.
sometimes it is planned out but most times it just happens
11/01/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
We're currently trying to get pregnant, so we have to plan sex part of the month, the rest of the time it's fairly spontaneous.
11/02/2012
NavyDoll87 NavyDoll87
Spontaneous sex is always more fun so we normally go with that.
11/02/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Reasonably spontaneous, but we do plan when we see each other (limited opportunities), so there is that limit
11/03/2012
Lily Night Lily Night
We have to wait for the opportune moment. Since we don't live together (two college seniors living at home) it can be very difficult. Sometimes though that can make it very spontaneous because we get unexpected alone time.
11/06/2012
travelnurse travelnurse
We plan so much as dang we are both home and the boys aren't!! Ot it's the middle of the night and we are both awake!!
11/06/2012
Edeneve Edeneve
I like to do both.
11/06/2012
nova2014 nova2014
Spontaneous is best because then its an act of passion and emotion and it shows that sex isn't just a chore it's an expression of how you're feeling
05/19/2013
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