Do you worry your S/O might find out?

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Do you worry your S/O might find out?

Rossie Rossie
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have such worry?
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I'm not worried, my S/O knows everything about my sexual past.
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I'm not worried, even though my S/O knows nothing about my sexual past.
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I'm worried, I skip posting my replies to threads about sexual pasts.
Others, please explain.
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Total votes: 121 (116 voters)
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09/09/2011
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Kkay Kkay
My partner knows my history.

Have you talked to your S/O about choosing to not share that information?
09/09/2011
Sir Sir
I'm not worried, and I would tell them my past if they really wanted to know. However, I don't feel that it's entirely their business. I'm open about my past, but if they're invasive, I will not divulge information.
09/09/2011
toxie m toxie m
We're very open and he already knows everything about my sexual history. He finds it sexy, actually, to hear what I've done with people in the past. No worries at all.
09/09/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i'm not in a relationship currently, but i'm pretty upfront about my sexual history before anything happens. i don't tell them numbers (cause i can never remember myself), but i'll tell them my kinks and my experiences. that way, i know off the bat if he's going to get insecure about it or not.

i feel honesty is key; if you're worried, it may (or may not, depending on what you've agreed upon) be a good idea to discuss your histories. just my two cents
09/09/2011
Antipova Antipova
I'm open about my past. I'll admit I'd feel a little invaded if a partner was to comb through the forums and read every post I've made...

There's nothing I've posted here that I would try to conceal in real life, though. I'm not a concealing sort of person at all. So if someone was to read all my posts, I'd be concerned and feel a little violated on principle instead of because of the content.
09/09/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
I don;t like to post about my sexual past because I personally don't like to think about it, but I'm not worried because we're pretty open about that kind of stuff!
09/09/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I wouldn't have an issue with it. There are a lot of things I just wouldn't tell a partner, but I can't see that the types of guys I'm interest in are going to be digging around here. So I'm not worried at all.
And if they did - so be it.
09/09/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
I have always been clear to all my partners about my sexual past.
09/10/2011
Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have ...
We can't say we know everything from each others sexual past. There is always something new that comes out now and then. Some of it is because we fear what the other would think. Sadly we both think the same way and we normally wind up laughing. I don't have any concerns about the other half reading any thing on this site. We are not perfect.
09/10/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Each of us knows there were others, but we could care less about them. We, are our present and future. Our pasts make us who we are today. Neither of us would go back and undo something that might change who we are today.

I am grateful to my husband's past girlfriends. They taught him what he didn't want or what he wished he could have more of in a mate. When he laid his eyes on me, he knew what he wanted and I was it.

I don't worry about him finding out anything about me. I am an open book. He knows all the important stuff, all the bad stuff, as well as the fantastic stuff too! If I were to find out something about him (good, bad, or ugly), it would not change anything, nor would I be upset in the least. The past is the past.
09/10/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
I voted other because I am not worried, and he knows a bit.. not all, but he is not completely in the dark either
09/10/2011
Illusional Illusional
No, I've told him everything... I had a very awkward... past.
09/10/2011
indiglo indiglo
I'm not worried. My man has an account here too, and we have such fun reading threads and suddenly coming across the other's comment unexpectedly. We talk about anything and everything, and if something hasn't come up yet, it will eventually and we'll talk about it. It helps knowing each other's past because it explains some issues we both have, and makes it easier to be understanding and supportive of each other when those issues come up.
09/10/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
My partner and I have been together for 5 years and he knows everything about my past. I don't worry about what I write online. I am VERY open. If he wants to know something, I'll tell and in full truth. However, it took me a few years to learn that no matter what he was not going to think less of me about anything and then I quit worrying about things from my past. He's loves me too much to let those things hinder it and he doesn't go online. Many, many risks. He wouldn't ever be on this site anyways.
09/10/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I'm not worried about him seeing anything here..he never comes onto EF he hates it, lol.

My man knows a lot of my past but he doesn't know everything and that's a good thing. I am a highly sexual person and he is still coming along and he sometimes feels inadequate so I would not want to say anything to worsen his feelings about himself or create negative feelings about our relationship.
09/10/2011
Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Kkay
My partner knows my history.

Have you talked to your S/O about choosing to not share that information?
We've both been divorced once, and we both chose not to share our history. I'm the bit jealous type, so I've told him early on that I don't want to know about his ex-wife or ex-girlfriends. He did told me about some impersonal sexual experiences from his past i.e. celebrated his 18th birthday at the Mustang Ranch with his buddies, women at his old job advancing him for sex/affairs. He has never asked things about my ex-husband, or how many ex-boyfriends I've had, and I'm glad to keep it that way. Don't get me wrong, I do not have any dirty history, I'm just uncomfortable releasing sexual experiences with my exs to him.

So, whenever there's a poll or discussion asking "how old were you when you experienced your first orgasm", or "when did you start anal play" etc, I'll skip the thread and move on ..... just in case I forgot to close the page and walked away from the computer.
09/10/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Mine knows and does not care. We have always been very open and honest.
09/10/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
Quote:
Originally posted by Redboxbaby
Each of us knows there were others, but we could care less about them. We, are our present and future. Our pasts make us who we are today. Neither of us would go back and undo something that might change who we are today.

I am grateful to ...
Exactly what I was gonna say! I would never apologize for my past, or ask anyone else to. Sure, there may be mistakes or "why did I do that" moments, but that's how you grow and your partner has grown to be the person you love now.
09/10/2011
Illusional Illusional
My man does not have an account on EF, his friend does but he rarely logs on like ever.

I always ask questions, I guess it would be embarrassing a little but I doubt it would happen.
09/10/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
My S/O and I never divulge about each other's past sexual experiences. I usually refrain from adding my replies to votes/posts about past sexual experiences/relationsh ips in this forum, worried my S/O might unintentionally read it. Do you have ...
We were best friends when dating. We used to fix each other up with dates and were the GO TO confidant. Later, when WE became a couple, there WERE no secrets to reveal...we both "knew them all".
09/10/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Naughty Student
I'm not worried about him seeing anything here..he never comes onto EF he hates it, lol.

My man knows a lot of my past but he doesn't know everything and that's a good thing. I am a highly sexual person and he is still coming along ...
I read with astonishment that your S/O would "hate" EF. It is about SEX. That is why we (hubby and wife) are here together...every day. What a HOT few minutes date this is for us EVERY afternoon now. Great warm up. Great ideas. Just fun (after checking our Facebook and email).
09/10/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Illusional
No, I've told him everything... I had a very awkward... past.
What an intriguing comment.
09/10/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by toxie m
We're very open and he already knows everything about my sexual history. He finds it sexy, actually, to hear what I've done with people in the past. No worries at all.
Bingo. That is the healthy attitude in our book. No lies, no secrets...NO worries.
09/10/2011
Katastophy Katastophy
I don't currently have a S/O, but in the past I have always made sure that we know eachother's sexual histories. Even with someone I'm just going to fool around with, I usually ask.
09/10/2011
Mistress Mandy Mistress Mandy
I had to answer other, for multiple reasons. My husband is not on EF, doesn't have much interest in the site, just the products I purchase or receive for review, so he wouldn't be in the forums. If he were it wouldn't matter much. He doesn't know everything about my past, because he doesn't want to know everything. But I am very open with him, if he wants to know about something I tell him.
09/10/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
my bf & i know about each other's past. we don't always go into detail, but we do know that sort of stuff about each other.
09/10/2011
Dear Ruby Dear Ruby
I have one, deep, dark secret (and I'd so own up to it if a bf ever found out, but I'm not going to bring it up and have made efforts to keep it hidden) but beyond that I'm pretty honest and open with the SO. Not bragging to him or throwing it in his face, but if he asks I'll answer.
09/11/2011
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I don't have much of a past, but my sub knows about it. Hearing me describe my past experiences gets him turned on, and sometimes I indulge him. I know a bit about his past as well, and it's definitely a lot more varied than mine, though I did do some pretty wild things with my one previous partner.
09/11/2011
Pink Jewel Pink Jewel
If my partner wanted to know my past, I would tell him. He doesn't care about things that happened before him.
09/11/2011
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