Do your significant other's parents cause conflict?

Zandrock Zandrock
Does your significant others relationship with his or her parents ever cause conflict. Sometimes I think my girlfriend is too attached to her parents and needs to let go and make more her own decisions. Does this happen with you?
08/12/2012
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Deeder Deeder
In a way. Both of my husband's parents are disabled (both legally blind, and his father also has Alzheimer's and dementia, among other things), so we live with them to keep them out of a nursing home.

The problem is, his parents hate each other, but won't get a divorce, so they just stay miserable and fight with each other all the time. We both grew up in homes with constant (and hateful) screaming and yelling, and there is no way we want our kids to have to grow up with that.

We keep "threatening" that we're looking to move out and keep their grandkids from them, not to be mean, but for the sake of the kids. Unfortunately, they always try to talk us into staying, and because my husband doesn't really want to see them end up in a home, we do.

It's really a bigger situation than that, though. There is a lot of stress brought on by his sister and the rest of his (local) extended family. I just hope that one day it doesn't become too much for us to take.
08/12/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife's parents have always been very supportive and would never interfere. They are 2500 miles away - so it's been easy to get along at a distance.
08/12/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
Sometimes but it's because of how SHE is. It's like she's jealous of me and gets mad about stuff he does for me. She was rude to me and made comments in the beginning but he put her in her place and his aunt talked to her as well. She apologized. But it's like she tries to treat him like he is still a teenager, calling and texting constantly, it drives me crazy.
08/13/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
No, they live in Nigeria....not much they can do from that distance. lol
08/13/2012
heather-mooney heather-mooney
My boyfriend's parents (mostly his mom) have had a lot of problems with me, but for no real reason.
08/13/2012
js250 js250
My hubby's mom has turned into a drunk and unhappy woman--who also has way too much time on her hands and she watches real crime tv. She will make up issues and call everyone she can to get the issues fixed. However, no one is falling for her bs anymore so she only has a couple people to call. So she then moved on to trying to break up me and my hubby since he has no time for her, if he wasn't with me then maybe he would spend more time with her--he wouldn't and can not tolerate her when she drinks, but get guilt tripped after she sobers up. She made a horrible issue with his son--who now avoids her at all cost--and will not apologize or admit to being wrong and overdramatic as well as cruel. She used to be one of my closest friends until her drinking got to be a factor, now....I seriously avoid her, I would call her out and create more problems. Cannot stand the person she has changed into.
08/14/2012
woodsdragon woodsdragon
My parents have been supportive the whole time, but I am also 5 years older. His parents have been a little hesitant of us getting engaged but again he is 5 years younger. We have been engaged for 2 years and they have begun to be more supportive. Sure there are some issues, but I think it will be a lot easier once we move in together and are able to make our own decision.
08/14/2012
TiffyPixie TiffyPixie
My in-laws try to be helpful but I conflict with his mother and it makes it hard to spend any time with them. She is so moody and I usually can't stand to be around her. Sometimes I wish I could call ahead of time and ask her if she's taken her meds yet. LOL
08/14/2012
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
I actually get along with my inlaws better than my own family.
08/14/2012
married with children married with children
nope, my parents are great, and her parents as almost as good.
08/14/2012
Mrs. Tickle and Giggle Mrs. Tickle and Giggle
I wish i could sell my inlaws. My MILwore blank to my wedding and was about to fight my bridesmaid. How does that sound.
08/15/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
The family of one of my partners is pretty nice, but they guilt trip her a lot and put stress on her that she doesn't need. Most of my other partner's family doesn't know about our triad, so I don't have to deal with them directly, but I know I wouldn't get along well with her parents. She has a really cool brother, though.
09/01/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
we both get along with each others families well
09/01/2012
gypsymama gypsymama
We are almost constantly in trouble when it comes to my parents and his. Both sets are well meaning, but the relationships are complicated to say the least. For years we lived very far away from family, but the last 3 years we have been very involved with them and it has been VERY difficult. It has gotten so bad lately that I sit around and fantasize about running away must every day
09/01/2012
MrsHouseWife MrsHouseWife
My husbands partners are amazing and as we have been together since we were teenagers they helped me with high school and uni study, everything and where really there for me when my dad died.

Unfortunatley its my Mother that makes the most trouble. My husband can't stand the way she treats me and mostly her general attitude to us.

He would be quite happy if we never saw her again, but I have my little sister to think about and without my dad it does feel like she is the only family I have left.

Its a constent stuggled between us and the only thing we have been unable to work out as a couple. Family has a deep effect on our relationships, whether we want them to or not. You just need to remember that you love each other and not your SO's family.
09/02/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It has, a lot. It's far too deep of a story to explain, but it's there.
09/02/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
Nope it doesn't cause problems, neither of us like his parents.
09/19/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yea, they have a lot of baggage, and they take it out on her. We've had a lot of arguements about her not just accepting what they say as fact.
09/19/2012
nova2014 nova2014
Nope, I'd actually like my SO to be closer to his family, I think family is an important thing
01/30/2013
Aishiteru Aishiteru
No.
01/30/2013
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