Does sex ever feel like a chore to you?

Contributor: samopayn samopayn
I have. But it started when I was pregnant with our son. I was tired all the time.
10/28/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
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Originally posted by TheSlyFox
i LOVE sex too much for it to become a chore!
Same her
10/29/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
surely there are more folks than me who feel sluggish when it comes to sex at times... anyone?

or is everyone on EF because their sex life is so amazing and hot and they just want to keep it going?

I do from time-to-time, but with two kids to tend to along with the husband and not sleeping much it can be the last thing that's on my mind at times.
10/29/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
Never.
10/30/2011
Contributor: -BillD -BillD
My boyfriend can tell when I'm not into it, and vise versa, so we stop if either isn't in the mood.
10/30/2011
Contributor: SexyStuff SexyStuff
Sometimes starting feels like a chore, but usually I get into it as we go.
01/14/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
In the past, with certain partners, I've felt like sex was a chore.
01/14/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
Never a chore to me.
01/15/2012
Contributor: Greenleaf Greenleaf
My partner occasionally has trouble climaxing, so sometimes we end up going for a lot longer than I would like. It never starts out as a chore though.
01/15/2012
Contributor: AHubbyof2SexualMinds AHubbyof2SexualMinds
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
I've never felt that way, but my wife has admitted to it feeling that way at some points during our relationship.
01/16/2012
Contributor: Grim Grim
Lately sex doesn't feel like anything BUT a chore. I'm going through a bit of an asexual period (I think it's because I've been under a tremendous amount of stress lately). I still enjoy masturbating, but since I can't come from sex it seems like there's sort of a "what's the point?" attitude.

We'll still have sex occasionally, but it's mostly blowjobs or mutual masturbation now.
01/16/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
Two nights ago I said "We can do it, but there's no way I'm going to be top." LOL.
06/03/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
The chore is finding time. Once that's over with, it's all fun!
06/03/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
it happens
06/03/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Rarely, but that was because I was feeling kind of bleh
06/03/2012
Contributor: giftdgecko giftdgecko
If it feels like a chore then someone should speak up and change some things
06/04/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Sometimes my wife acts entitled to oral sex even though she hasn't done anything for me yet. It's not never attractive and often feels like a chore. I've had to point this out to her and she's gotten offended. However, it's easy to say: what if I acted like I needed a blowjob ever time we had sex? You have to combat bedroom selfishness every now and then so that each of you feel appreciated. Then, it won't seem like a chore.
06/04/2012
Contributor: Girly Juice Girly Juice
I have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend, and he arguably isn't as orgasm-fixated as I am, so I rarely feel obligated to participate in sex acts when I don't want to. Sex is always fun and easy with him, even when all I'm doing is pleasuring him.
06/06/2012
Contributor: Sir Sir
It truly depends on my mood. There are times when I feel like it's a chore if I'm in a pissed off mood because of something that happened, and there are times when I want to have intercourse regardless. It's very rare, though, that I feel that way; I'm always up for sex, no pun intended. HA!
06/06/2012
Contributor: Bodhi Bodhi
Sometimes.
06/06/2012
Contributor: sexykiss sexykiss
i dont feel that way but i think she does sometimes we only have sex like 1 or 2 if im lucky a week or two weeks.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
Sometimes.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
Sometimes.
06/13/2012
Contributor: Envy Envy
Being as I have a low sex drive and mood disorders and constant problems with stress, yeah, it usually feels like a chore. Mostly because I just can't hardly ever seem to get into the mood, but I don't want whoever i am with to feel left out or have them get all moody with me over the fact they're not 'getting any.'
06/13/2012
Contributor: lilgrump lilgrump
Sometimes I just like to feel his boner and go to sleep. Now, rarely does this actually happen its kind of like I started it and I've gotta finish. Once things get going though, I usually am pretty into it and don't have any issues.
06/21/2012
Contributor: dks210 dks210
I've been in a huge sexual slump lately. I almost feel asexual. It sucks because I love sex, but lately I just can't get into it. It's frustrating for both me and my boyfriend. I still have sex for him, but I just can't get as aroused anymore.

I'm starting to suspect it's a side effect from my birth control pills...
06/21/2012
Contributor: Llahsram Llahsram
I never feel like sex is a chore. If I don't want it, I don't have it.
06/21/2012
Contributor: MaeGal MaeGal
Every once in a while
06/22/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by aliceinthehole
you know what i'm talking about... he gets all excited, or maybe even you do, the kissing gets steamy, and then just thinking about... man now we have to get naked, put the one part in the other part and move around until he comes... it just ... more
Not really because my partners are very sensitive to my moods and tend to make sure it's not routine or a chore. If I feel like "OMG I just cannot do that position because I am soooooo tired," They are usually quite willing to investigate another position or just mutually masturbate!

Sometimes when Sigel and I were having trouble, when we were younger he would feel like a "trained monkey" expected to perform even if he wasn't in the mood. When he finally admitted that to me I explained that he always has the right to say "No" or "Not tonight" but that I would be free to take care of my needs if that happens...and he shouldn't feel upset or angry at himself. That opened up many new doors for us.

Now a days, since he is in sooooo much pain (he's headed for a major ankle surgery) we have to be really creative since the sexy feelings are still there but he has trouble resting on his knees...and it just isn't comfortable for us to do me on top. So sometimes I think he is feeling like "Noooooooooo, please don't make me drag that deer uphill!"
06/22/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
When i was in a relationship it did at times, now not at all.
06/22/2012