Does your SO make you feel stupid when you fight?

Noelle Noelle
Does your SO ever make up feel stupid when you are upset about something he/she did, and it starts a huge fight?
07/27/2012
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Originally posted by Noelle
Does your SO ever make up feel stupid when you are upset about something he/she did, and it starts a huge fight?
He has tried it but I point it out and things become civil. He at least apologizes for comments like that and we can move to having a "constuructive " arguement. I am guilty of the same and always apologize for it too. We try to discuss our problems
07/27/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
No, though he may have tried to a few times. I'm very secure with my intelligence, so any nonsense he comes up with when he's mad won't make me feel stupid. I think he generally agrees that I'm smart, so he leaves that out of play when we do argue. If anything, he sometimes makes fun of my lack of common sense, but not in mid-argument.
07/27/2012
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Sometimes, but it's usually not on purpose nor is it her intention, I just tend to take things way too personally. Plus, there are times when I have made her feel that way unintentionally, too.

-shrugs- It's never been anything too horrible, mostly just us taking things too seriously and whatnot.
07/27/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Yup. Doesn't seem to matter how secure I feel in myself, he always knows just what to say to make me feel stupid and small. It's better than it was, but it still happens far more often than it should.
07/27/2012
js250 js250
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Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
Yup. Doesn't seem to matter how secure I feel in myself, he always knows just what to say to make me feel stupid and small. It's better than it was, but it still happens far more often than it should.
Same here, he also has to throw in the brain damage, "you can't remember" issue. Or, "you wouldn't know"...

I have somewhat learned to laugh at him when he does that, but it still hurts.
07/27/2012
HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
Being a smart ass just comes so natural to me. My wife says I do it all the time but I honestly do not mean to. Most of the time it's just the way I say things. Not really trying to hurt her feelings or make her feel stupid.
07/27/2012
Bodhi Bodhi
Sadly, yes.
07/27/2012
Noelle Noelle
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Originally posted by Bodhi
Sadly, yes.
It really pisses me off more than it makes me sad. He can be a real ass sometimes!
07/28/2012
nova2014 nova2014
Yea because we see things two different ways or I don't realize he did it for a totally different reason than I would have assumed or he brings in examples of when I did the same and I can't even remember when he does something to annoy me
01/31/2013
Genderfree Genderfree
Sometimes, it's hard to find out if I'm to blame or if it's her... She's older, too. I actually was talking to her about it yesterday, it does not appear that she knows she is doing it but understands. We made up and it was fine, and it sounds like she's trying really hard not to hurt my feelings.
02/02/2013
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