Ever been cheated on?

Danielle915 Danielle915
Have you ever been cheated on? How did you handle it? Did you break up? How did you let your partner know that you knew whnat was going on? Dis you know the person???
11/12/2010
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Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by Danielle915
Have you ever been cheated on? How did you handle it? Did you break up? How did you let your partner know that you knew whnat was going on? Dis you know the person???
Not to my knowledge, if it happened, I would end the relationship, or at least, I think I would. I am not saying everyone should do as I do though.
11/12/2010
Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by Danielle915
Have you ever been cheated on? How did you handle it? Did you break up? How did you let your partner know that you knew whnat was going on? Dis you know the person???
Not that I know of. When I was in HS though Senior year I had a boyfriend who went to another HS. I found out through his email (we were using his computer at his house and I was looking for something else in his email..not snooping) that there was a girl who was interested in him and who was constantly asking him out on dates. He wasn't saying yes but he wasn't exactly forthcoming with her that he was taken either. So I jotted down the girl's email address and wrote her an email asking if she knew he had a girlfriend. It was something along the lines of "If you did not know he has a girlfriend then I am sorry and I will address that with him, but if you did know then why the fuck are you continuing to ask him out on dates???" Turns out she knew but didn't care and he wasn't exactly telling her to back off either so it got kind of dramatic for a while with me going to his HS and leaving her nasty notes on her car and other things I am not very proud of.

Same boyfriend (why I stayed with him I'll never know...) went away to College the next year and this time I was looking at his profile on some college site..I forget what it was called but it was like myspace before myspace...and I saw that some girl was asking him to go out and that he was saying he would but never actually making a time. She again didn't seem to know I existed and I messaged her..that one did NOT know and was pretty apologetic to me. The boyfriend was all "what I didn't DO anything with her!!" but the point was that he wanted to and who knew if he would have had he not been caught.

I did not handle it well and ended up cheating on him rather than just breaking up with him. It was not the right nor the healthy thing to do, and the relationship was making me into a horrible person and so I ended it. Best thing I ever did.

In general though if there is suspicion of cheating I think it needs to be addressed right away in an as calm as possible manner. If the relationship seems to be worth saving and the person seems remorseful I guess it's worth fighting for and trying to make things work. But I think that unless it's the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with it's probably better to just leave it. Doesn't really seem worth it to me, that is a HUGE breach of trust and I think that if people truly love and respect each other they won't cheat. I know that sometimes that's not the case and there are many things that can lead to cheating...and so that's why I say that if it's the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with aside from the cheating issue maybe it's worth fighting for.
11/12/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Danielle915
Have you ever been cheated on? How did you handle it? Did you break up? How did you let your partner know that you knew whnat was going on? Dis you know the person???
Yes I was cheated on for many years by my husband. One of the women he cheated with fessed up and I handled it very poorly. I screamed at him that I hated him, and it was heartbreaking.
Eventually, I forgave him but it hasn't been an easy process. We have managed to create something wonderful from the wreckage so we are living proof that it CAN be done. Nothing is ever the same but sometimes what comes out in the end can be better than you ever dreamed.
11/12/2010
The Nakanas The Nakanas
One of my very first girlfriends cheated on me. It was one of the multiple reasons we broke up.
11/12/2010
lamira lamira
I have been cheated on once. I just started dating a guy and I really liked him. I wanted to make plans with him one night and he said he was busy with another girl. I didn't understand and then he told me that he was dating 3 other girls besides me. I dumped him right there and felt disgusted, angry, and humiliated.
11/12/2010
Riccio Riccio
Whenever I have been in a committed relationship, I have been faithful.

Two women lied about being with other men. One gave me gonorrhea. That ended everything. The other told me after we had ended our affair, and I immediately requested an HIV test.

Being unfaithful did not end these affairs; being dishonest did.
11/13/2010
Danielle915 Danielle915
I have been cheated on in my previous relationships and it did end the relationship. There was no more trust on my end so there can't be a relationship without trust.
11/13/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My first wife had sex with others - but I was never sure if it happened before or after I moved out (my choice) - so I never fretted about it much.

I've never been unfaithful to a girlfriend or wife.
11/15/2010
Not here Not here
My previous boyfriend whom I was with for about a year and a half cheated on me. He used a really pathetic excuse for breaking up with me- sent me a TEXT message saying we needed a break because he was going to be working a lot and wouldn't have time for me, but in 3 months we could be together again. I was naive and sort of went along with it at first because he was my first love and I wanted to believe him. I found out that he had cheated on me before he told me we needed a break, and had been dating the girl while he was stringing me along. Thankfully I told him it was over before I even found out about it, but I was furious when I did find out.

Needless to say, I got over it, raised my standards, and went without sex for 7 months until I found someone I really wanted to be with- and I've been with him for almost 4 years now! I can't thank my scumbag of an ex enough for being such an asshole, otherwise I never would have been with my amazing boyfriend.

I've never cheated on anyone before, and never will.
11/15/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Yes I was cheated on for many years by my husband. One of the women he cheated with fessed up and I handled it very poorly. I screamed at him that I hated him, and it was heartbreaking.
Eventually, I forgave him but it hasn't been an easy ... More
It's so true!

I haven't lived anything like this and hope I don't. But I soemtimes suffer a lot in my relationship, we are very different and it can get very hard sometimes. But whenever we have very hasrh arguments I am glad we had them bcs something always good comes out of it, even though I had to cry many hours and be in a lot of emotional pain to get there. It's a learning process. We love each other very much and we always work it out but it is hard sometimes.
11/15/2010
SexyySarah SexyySarah
Yes I was cheated on by my 2nd and third boyfriends and that's why they are ex's now. I have finally found a MAN, so I have no need to worry about that. I had trust issues even at the beginning of this relationship. But because my man now is so awesome and makes me feel like the most beautiful woman on the face of the earth I don't feel the need to not trust him.
11/15/2010
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
Yes, my wife cheated on me. I caught her twice over a three month period with the same guy - not physically. The first time I forgave her out of my own selfishness, but the second time took it a while to find it in my heart. It's been the most painful experience of my life so far. It's true what George Michael's (I prefer Seether's version) wrote; I'm never going to dance again...the way I danced with you
11/15/2010
x cherri x cherri
Yes and we then broke up. Thank god we we had not been dating long when I found out about it.
01/19/2011
CPTInsanity CPTInsanity
My first girlfriend cheated on me, and it actually turned out for the better. We were in a long distance relationship and I started to get trust issues. Now if I didn't completely trust someone, I would break up with them right away, and not go through the agony of not trusting your partner.
01/26/2011
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