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I'm the opposite on the stress factor. My partner and I tend to have more sex when we're stressed. We tend to fight more if we don't.
I was *JUST* going to say something like this, except that I was going to add:
If you're in a hetero-normative relationship, men tend to feel closer to their partners during sexual encounters, so if things are stressful, if there are crises, sex can be a good way to maintain your intimacy and gives your man a chance to be vulnerable and close to you. I actually find it easier to communicate with Mr once we've had sex because 1) he knows I'm still there for his needs and 2) he's more relaxed. SO SO good for our relationship and working things out.
Since I'm not in a homosexual/queer relationship, I don't know how it works there.
So that said, the only times we don't engage in sexual behavior is if one of us is ill, or in pain, or just not in the mood. If I'm angry, I might not be in the mood, but I won't withhold sex as a punishment. I don't require an apology to "allow him" to have sex with me. The only way THAT would happen is if there were some sort of grievous offense.
As for period sex, we don't participate in it because I generally can't muster up the mood for it. We don't find it dirty or wrong, but I'm *NEVER* in the mood during my period, which will hopefully stop soon.