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That's so awesome to read!
I totally think it's possible to love more than one person at a time. Love comes to mean different things to different people at different times. It's when relationships happen that things get confusing/stressing.
It really became a problem internally when I realized that I was taking what was only Sigel and I and adding another person. We hadn't really discussed the ramifications of my actually falling in love when we decided to meet up with Arch. Really all we had was an understanding that Arch would not be a home wrecker and if I wanted to leave Sigel for him then he wasn't interested. Who wants a person who will walk away from their husband/wife and then promise to be totally faithful? Well, Arch didn't at any rate.
Still, I did warn both of them that it was a possibility that I would not be able to be casual. I was the only one truly shocked when I fell HARD.
I scared the hell out of both of them with my turmoil and was a raging beast woman for a few really scary weeks.
Honestly it wasn't until I actually got pregnant with our son that Sigel showed anything but complete awe at my ability to love both of them. He was torn because he wanted this new child t be able to have the kind of relationship with his Dad that our girls have with their Dad.
Like JR said love
is pretty easy...we can love the entire planet if we can get to know each person intimately enough, but we can't spend the amount of time and energy needed to build healthy and strong relationships with them. It can be worth it if you find a few people who share your goals, drives and are willing to work through the difficulties with you. If that doesn't happen it can read and feel like a cheap dime store romance novel.