Have you ever been in love with more than one person at the same time?

Mwar Mwar
Have you? If so, what did you do about it and how did it make you feel? Or how would you feel if your partner told you they were?
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Yes
26  (49%)
No
21  (40%)
Maybe
5  (9%)
Other
1  (2%)
Total votes: 53
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02/27/2012
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Sinfully Sinfully
Yes and it makes life confusing. I don't feel that it is right but you also can't help who you love and it can & does happen. I have oftentimes wished it were possible to go on loving two people at the same time, but honestly it's not logical or right unless it's something that the other people know about. And most people wouldn't be happy to hear that.
02/27/2012
Kissy Kissy
Nope. Thank goodness. I can't imagine the trouble and heartache!
02/27/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
For me its a management issue. When a relationship isn't working out, you don't wait until you have a 'replacement'. End one before beginning the second.
02/27/2012
dhig dhig
nope i haven't
02/27/2012
Mwar Mwar
If you were/are, would you feel inclined to tell your SO? Why or why not?
02/27/2012
Ansley Ansley
I thought I was, at the time. Then I woke up and realized I was merely out of my mind with confusion and I was playing one against the other.
02/28/2012
Beck Beck
I have been.
02/28/2012
indiglo indiglo
No, I haven't. But monogamy comes natural for me and polyamory does not.
02/28/2012
Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
Nope, I have only truly loved one woman romantically.
02/28/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
I have and do love more than one person...and I am in love with them both currently. It was confusing, gut wrenching and a total mind fuck when it happened. Mostly because I didn't want to lose either of them or choose between them. I had no desire to leave Sigel when I met Arch and I still have no desire to leave Sigel or Arch.
When this all happened I wasn't having problems in my marriage that were insurmountable but there I was in love with two men. Thankfully both of my guys love me and don't want to make me choose but it was not an easy thing at the very beginning.
02/28/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I have. I have the capacity (like a lot of people) to be polyamorous, but at this point in our relationship, I have chosen not to act on it. I can be very happy being in love with only one man, in fact, it's easier for me.
02/28/2012
samanthalynn samanthalynn
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Originally posted by Mwar
Have you? If so, what did you do about it and how did it make you feel? Or how would you feel if your partner told you they were?
no i havent
02/28/2012
RavenWings RavenWings
I am, and I feel guilty for not telling my man about it. But why should I if it will only upset him. So long as I don't act on it, it's okay for me to keep mum. Right?
02/28/2012
Elnoa Elnoa
Yes, and it can be quite difficult.
02/28/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
I have and do love more than one person...and I am in love with them both currently. It was confusing, gut wrenching and a total mind fuck when it happened. Mostly because I didn't want to lose either of them or choose between them. I had no ... More
That's so awesome to read!

I totally think it's possible to love more than one person at a time. Love comes to mean different things to different people at different times. It's when relationships happen that things get confusing/stressing.
02/28/2012
corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
Yes and it was awful; luckily for me these things have a way of working themselves out.
02/29/2012
Badass Badass
love never really goes anyway, it just moves around and changes form, like energy.
03/01/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
That's so awesome to read!

I totally think it's possible to love more than one person at a time. Love comes to mean different things to different people at different times. It's when relationships happen that things get confusing/stressing.
It really became a problem internally when I realized that I was taking what was only Sigel and I and adding another person. We hadn't really discussed the ramifications of my actually falling in love when we decided to meet up with Arch. Really all we had was an understanding that Arch would not be a home wrecker and if I wanted to leave Sigel for him then he wasn't interested. Who wants a person who will walk away from their husband/wife and then promise to be totally faithful? Well, Arch didn't at any rate.
Still, I did warn both of them that it was a possibility that I would not be able to be casual. I was the only one truly shocked when I fell HARD.
I scared the hell out of both of them with my turmoil and was a raging beast woman for a few really scary weeks.
Honestly it wasn't until I actually got pregnant with our son that Sigel showed anything but complete awe at my ability to love both of them. He was torn because he wanted this new child t be able to have the kind of relationship with his Dad that our girls have with their Dad.

Like JR said love is pretty easy...we can love the entire planet if we can get to know each person intimately enough, but we can't spend the amount of time and energy needed to build healthy and strong relationships with them. It can be worth it if you find a few people who share your goals, drives and are willing to work through the difficulties with you. If that doesn't happen it can read and feel like a cheap dime store romance novel.
03/01/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I would say that I've been attracted to more than one woman at a time, but I've only ever loved my wife.
03/01/2012
fredacarl fredacarl
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Originally posted by Mwar
Have you? If so, what did you do about it and how did it make you feel? Or how would you feel if your partner told you they were?
nope
03/01/2012
Lady Bear Lady Bear
I was so young I'm not sure if it was love, but it did suck.
04/29/2012
GONE! GONE!
Yes and it was miserable because everyone involved knew it but Person A wanted me all to herself and Person B didn't want me at all.
04/30/2012
SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I haven't been, but I have been with someone who said they were in love with two people at one time. It was really hard to deal with that while we were dating. I can see how that can happen though, I'm just thankful it hasn't happened to me.
05/06/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
I've been in love and had something that could've developed into love with someone else. We chose not to pursue it though, so it's a maybe thing. It just wasn't for me.
05/07/2012
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
No, but I also don't open myself up to that possibility.
05/07/2012
Phineas James Keane Phineas James Keane
Yes, and I felt no problems with it. My partner was hesitant but understanding and allowed me to explore my polyamourous desires. It came quite naturally to me, and it would be something I would gladly do again.
05/07/2012
captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by Mwar
Have you? If so, what did you do about it and how did it make you feel? Or how would you feel if your partner told you they were?
maybe crushing but not in love
02/10/2013
ShinySuicide ShinySuicide
Nope. I haven't been.
02/10/2013
inkky inkky
unfortunately yes. but it wasn't a good feeling. i'd much rather give all my love to one person, like i do now.
02/10/2013
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