Have you ever withheld sex as punishment or to get your way?

depends on hat it was for really...but I'd do it...I have fun toys to please myself

I'm a girl and I think that sounds stupid :/
Sounds like a good way to lessen the love in your relationship.

That's just dumb. I'm the sexually aggressive one in the house. There's no way in hell I'm gonna deny myself the pleasure of my husband because I don't get what I want in something else. It's called a relationship - relate to one another and work it out. Toys are absolutely wonderful but damn if they got arms, hugs and kisses. Do people even try to have solid relationships anymore?

I've withheld as "punishment" once or twice and while it might seem slightly immature I don't feel Immature for doing it. I actually find that thought VERY offensive. I tell him WHY I'm doing it, we're perfectly clear on that and we have no trouble communicating, but I've still done it.

On the opposite end I don't withhold when I want something, but rather I'll offer sex. He would do the things I'm asking him to do regardless of sex, but sometimes it's fun to add a little incentive. It gives us both something to anticipate and usually gets whatever he's doing done a whole lot faster.

It works the other way around too, where he's the one offering or withholding. I don't find sex to be the be all or end all of a relationship. If you really love someone I think you can always find a way to work through any issues in or out of the bedroom.

It would be a lot more punishment for me than it would be for him, so no.

I've never withheld sex only out of anger or to get something, but if either of us are angry or upset, we wait until a few hours pass and things are ok before having sex. I guess I wouldn't be able to call it a stupid thing, to withold sex because I don't know how others feel. I wouldn't do it. I guess though, if someoene feels that's what they have to resort to just to get through to someone, I couldn't judge. I've heard of women being at a breaking point with their partners and I've heard women say that the only way to get affection or to be cared about is by witholding sex. That breaks my heart and I wouldn't want anybody to feel that they bad like that. I'd leave a person though if that was the only way they cared. I'm not saying that's what your sister is going through. I'm just saying I've heard a couple of women who have been in that particular situation and those were some of the reasons they wouldn't have sex.

I've never withheld sex only out of anger or to get something, but if either of us are angry or upset, we wait until a few hours pass and things are ok before having sex. I guess I wouldn't be able to call it a stupid thing, to withold sex because I don't know how others feel. I wouldn't do it. I guess though, if someoene feels that's what they have to resort to just to get through to someone, I couldn't judge. I've heard of women being at a breaking point with their partners and I've heard women say that the only way to get affection or to be cared about is by witholding sex. That breaks my heart and I wouldn't want anybody to feel that they bad like that. I'd leave a person though if that was the only way they cared. I'm not saying that's what your sister is going through. I'm just saying I've heard a couple of women who have been in that particular situation and those were some of the reasons they wouldn't have sex.

I have never done this

I have never done this. If we are fighting I might not be in the mood, but I definitely wouldn't say no as a punishment. It seems counterproductive to resolving the issues.

I think I couldn´t, it would be hurting me too LOL

She: I'll occasionally joke about it, but he calls my bluff every time

He: Doesn't mean there's not an indirect effect. If she's not happy with me, she probably won't be in the mood.

She: But it's not on purpose!

I try....but then it ends up being more of a punishment for me

I think it's silly to deny sex to get what you want or to punish your partner. However, I won't deny that I have done it unintentionally after fights. Like others above said, it's not really "I won't have sex because I'm pissed at you" but because I'm really not in the mood and sex isn't a cure all. Communication is very important in solving disputes; you can't always just fuck and have everything be dandy again.

I've never done this. I wouldn't want to deprive myself as well.

nope why punish myself!heheh

I would NEVER do this. I'm a sub, so I'm kinda biased against anything that controlling. But for me I think that would be kinda bratty. Partly because I'm younger and it's easier to look bratty when you're already hormonal all the time and a dependent.

I could not and would not ever do this. It's not fair to both parties. I dont want to punish myself because I am upset with something he may have done.

Nope. I am really no good at depriving myself of sex in those situations. haha

I do it JOKINGLY. I wouldn't do it for real though! I already have a libido that comes and goes - and THAT'S torture in itself. ;/

i would but it would just make him mad or not care...

I don't do it on purpose but when I'm angry or upset the last thing I want to do is have sex, so its not a matter of holding out, it's just that I don't want it at that time.

It adds to the tension in a way.. I don't ALWAYS do it as a punishment but when I do the sex is AMAZING later on when they behave