How long did it take YOU before you said "I love you"?

I have a hard time saying "I love you" to people now. I said it to my mom right before she went on a trip when I was a kid and she died in a car accident a few days later. I said it to my fiance at the time when he left for a mission trip and he died that same week. I said it to my brother when he moved out and like a week later he got in a snowmobile accident and had to have open heart surgery. I kind of feel like I curse people when I tell them I love them, so I just never say it.

I try and say something along the lines of "you're very important to me" because it's easier for me to do.

Sorry to be a downer

About two months, but I knew before that, so did she. Neither of us where in a big hurry.

I say it early, but I actually mean it, unfortunately it scares some people off. The thing is... I say it to my firends all the damn time, when I say "I love you" that donesn't necessarily mean that I am IN love with you.

I have a problem, but not in the same way. I'm sorry dearie. In my case I'm terrified of rejection and commitment. I'm a head case. I tend to be overly critical of the people I'm dating, but some way along the way I think I become too accepting.

I've never said I love you to someone I've been in a relationship with and meant it. I only said it once because I was young, dumb, and felt pressured...but yeah I didn't mean it I just said it to avoid an awkward conversation.

Personally, I seem to be quite cautious of it, but just from certain experiences and wanting to be sure. It took him about 2 months, and 8 for me (LD relationship too) though I showed it much before saying the words.

With my current boyfriend, I said it about a month into our relationship. We were friends for a couple of months before we started actually dating, so I knew I really did have feelings for him.

It took about a month, but we were not even official yet. I said it and felt it before her. I move fast lol.

When I feel it? lol. I think I said I love to my current bf in I believe it was June, and we started hanging out together in January.

A few months when we were dating in high school. When we got back together it was almost immediate.

My man was actually the one to say it first, but I definitely felt the same way. It was only a couple of weeks into our relationship, but I don't believe in putting any sort of time restraint on it. If you feel it, say it!

5 months and 10 days after I met him.

I'm pretty quick to say it. I fall in love quickly and say it quickly. With my ex-husband, I said it after a month. He said it first, and I actually did feel some pressure, like I didn't want to leave him hanging. But after just a few weeks, I was ready to say it and really mean it completely.

With my current boyfriend, it was a weird situation. We'd known each other for a while because he was my husband's best friend. I had feelings for him for a while before we started dating. We'd only been dating about a week before he said he thought he was "falling for me" so I went ahead and told him the truth, that I loved him. I guess that's the same as "falling for me," but he was afraid of saying it and jumping into things. Which we did anyway.

i think it depends.

some people fall in love very fast and will say it very fast, but others will take much longer.

I knew in about a month after we started dating, and I told him at about two months, I think.

Depends on the person, how serious the relationship is, etc. Usually a couple of months, though. i tell my friends I love them though, and I do, they're great people who have been there for me and I do love and care about them.

I knew about two weeks in but waited till she said it a month later. Fast forward 21 years and we say it more now than we did then.

i knew right away but a few months.

depends on how fast and how long you've known your partner. sometimes the "i love you" phrase slips out quicker than you know, just because you've gotten to know them very well. it took about a month or two for my boyfriend to slip the "i love you" phrase. and that's when we were still just friends..but we did know eachother for a year before, off and on..like, we talked for a couple of months, then he disappeared for a while then we talked again, disappeared, then came back, got to catch up and we kinda..feel for each other after i decided people i were dating were just not for me and that i actually had liked him for a while. he was a sweetheart and cared and worried about me. it took a month for us to get together, though..but he wanted to make sure if i really wanted to be with him, and not just get with him cause i was sad about being rejected by the last guy i tried going out with.

but yeah..now, whenever i run out of things to do, or just really want to be there with him, i'll tell him "i love you" over and over. i'm surprised i don't annoy him with that..hehe.

About 5 weeks into our relationship, I had decided that I was going to tell him I loved him that night - and he beat me to it. lol

I was always the first to say it, usually within a month. I'm not sure what effect it really had on my relationships. Mulder and I were careful not to say anything along those lines (we were still fooling ourselves that we were only FWB) but I think he suspected the night I said "I adore you." But, really, I don't think I ever actually TRULY loved any of them.

Now I can't. I don't know what love is. So I'm not going to use a word that I don't know the real meaning of. I may be incapable of love ...

At about 5 months he said it and took it back. I can't remember when he said it again but it was around 8 months before we had sex. He said that in past relationships he said the L word to early and this time he wanted to make sure before he said it.

My guy fell in love with me early on, but it took me a lot longer to grow such an attachment. I'm not sure when, but fairly early on.

It took only about 2 months for my guy to tell me but I knew before that and didn't say it because I didnt want him scared off or anything so I let him say it first. He was scared when he told me that it was going to be too early for me but he was wrong on that

Not quite two weeks. I had to do some serious wooing after that for the reciprocation, but it was sooo worth the effort.

about a month? we'd known each other about 4 months prior, were dating a little for about a month