How soon after dating did you get engaged and then how soon did you get married?

wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
It's amazing to see the relationship speed of some couples. I know some people who dated only a month or two and got married immediately, or dated a few months and were engaged for a long time.

I'm going on a 16 month engagement myself, and he and I had only been together just shy of 3 months when he proposed.

What about you? And on top of that how long have you been married or did you get divorced and are remarried now? How young were you when this happened?
Jan 14, 11:27 am
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cocolime cocolime
We were together for almost a year before marriage came up, and it took another couple months before I said yes. I believe we had been engaged about six months when we got married.

That said, we moved in together very early in our relationship. Three months or so.
Jan 21, 7:23 am
Bignuf Bignuf
Dated through four years of graduate school. (and never "lived together"). Got married during the end of our "fifth year" together, when it came time for our "post grad" training and we had to figure out where we were going to "be" (where we got positions to train in our respective fields). Thankfully we managed to wrangle spots at the same facilities and that made getting our married life off to a much better start then had we been on opposite coasts!
Jan 21, 5:42 pm
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by Bignuf
Dated through four years of graduate school. (and never "lived together"). Got married during the end of our "fifth year" together, when it came time for our "post grad" training and we had to figure out where we were ... More
Oh wow! That's pretty amazing, actually.

cocolime, so you seem to have proved that moving in together so early into the relationship isn't always a bad thing.
Jan 21, 5:59 pm
charmedtomeetyou charmedtomeetyou
We were together for 6-7 months before we were engaged...but we lived together within two weeks of starting to date. We knew each other for years before that, though, so it isn't quite as odd as it sounds.
Jan 21, 8:04 pm
EvilHomer EvilHomer
We dated for couple months shy of 6 years, and were engaged for just over 2 years.
Jan 22, 7:08 pm
smalltalkingbit smalltalkingbit
I'm not engaged or married, but the timeline definitely varies in my friend group. One friend has been with her partner for a month and a half and he bought a ring a few days ago, another was with hers for a year and they had a 2.5 year engagement, and still another was with her partner for 2 years with a one year engagement.

Myself- I was with my ex 7.5 years and it didn't work out (thankfully, in retrospect!).
Jan 26, 12:26 pm
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by smalltalkingbit
I'm not engaged or married, but the timeline definitely varies in my friend group. One friend has been with her partner for a month and a half and he bought a ring a few days ago, another was with hers for a year and they had a 2.5 year ... More
Hah! That's how I see it now with my fiance. I was with my last ex for 2.5 years and I thought that she was going to be who I stayed with for the rest of my life. Then we broke up, a month later I moved, and two months after the break up, I met my fiance. And now I am pleased as punch that we got engaged just before 3 months of dating. I really, truly, love him.
Jan 27, 4:00 pm
KRD KRD
I'm not engaged or married. I've been with my guy for almost 12 years. We started dating at 15 and took two years off during college then got back together. We talk about getting engaged and married, but it hasn't happened yet. It will all happen when the time is right. We're just enjoying life and loving each other.
Feb 11, 7:19 pm
SweetSaffron SweetSaffron
My situation was interesting. We were friends for a while before we became "fuck buddies", if you will. After about three months of that, 5 months knowing each other total, he proposed. We were engaged for about three years, married for about 1.5 before he died. (And please, no sympathy crap. I only include this as fact). I feel we would have been together much longer, had that not happened so soon, but either way, we succeeded in our goal to break both family's crazy everybody-has-been-div orced streak!
Feb 13, 3:58 am
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by SweetSaffron
My situation was interesting. We were friends for a while before we became "fuck buddies", if you will. After about three months of that, 5 months knowing each other total, he proposed. We were engaged for about three years, married for ... More
Do you mind if I ask how he passed? (I hope that's not terribly insensitive, I'm extremely fascinated/worried about death in my own relationship.)
Feb 13, 12:34 pm
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
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Originally posted by SweetSaffron
My situation was interesting. We were friends for a while before we became "fuck buddies", if you will. After about three months of that, 5 months knowing each other total, he proposed. We were engaged for about three years, married for ... More
That does sound like a really interesting situation, but it worked for you two anyway, even if it was "unconventional."
Feb 14, 4:48 pm
MaeGal MaeGal
The way my sister and I always looked at it, was as follows;

-dating for at least two years before engagement
-engaged for at least a year before marriage
-more years required if under 25, because that's the minimum age for marriage I would partake in.
Feb 28, 3:00 am
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by MaeGal
The way my sister and I always looked at it, was as follows;

-dating for at least two years before engagement
-engaged for at least a year before marriage
-more years required if under 25, because that's the minimum age for marriage ... More
So, going by the system you and your sister use, what would you say if your fiance was under the 25 years of age minimum?
Feb 28, 2:05 pm
Sassafrass Sassafrass
We met became friends and parted, ten years later reconnected and began an old fashioned courtship writing letters to each other for 2 years with brief visits throughout that time. We learned so much about each other through this form of communication. It deepened our relationship intensely... until the day came that he said... "We have to get Married! I have to have you forever!" I agreed! And So we married! Engagement was for 6-7 months. We are now 4 years in to the most gratifying, satisfying relationship either of us has ever had before!
Jun 16, 10:46 pm
KinkyCouple KinkyCouple
We got engaged after ten months, but we were just over 18. We got married a little over four years later on our five year dating anniversary.
Jun 17, 2:05 pm
toysforall toysforall
We got engaged after 3 years and married a little over a year later.
Sep 25, 9:13 pm
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