Would you ever include sex toys or lingerie in a bridal party gift registry?

Drakoni Drakoni
Would you ever include sex toys or lingerie in a bridal shower gift registry? Not the main wedding gift registry, but the one that just goes to your girlfriends who are coming to the bridal shower or bachlorette party.
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Definitely! How else am I going to get toys for the wedding night!
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Maybe...
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Never! I'd die of embarassment!
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Total votes: 48
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11/06/2011
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Ansley Ansley
"Other": I'm rarely embarrassed---about anything, but that doesn't mean I would put toys on a bridal registry. I wouldn't ask that of the people I know in real life.
11/06/2011
Drakoni Drakoni
Dang, I should have included an Other option. Sorry about that.
11/06/2011
T&A1987 T&A1987
If I was ever getting married it would be cash only. How else can anyone make a dent in the cost of the ceremony?
11/06/2011
Lucky21 Lucky21
Other, I just wouldn't because it's none of other peoples business what happens in the bridal suite!
11/06/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
i prefer lingerie,, i don´t get embaressed but that´s personal i think,,
11/06/2011
freshbananas freshbananas
Quote:
Originally posted by Drakoni
Would you ever include sex toys or lingerie in a bridal shower gift registry? Not the main wedding gift registry, but the one that just goes to your girlfriends who are coming to the bridal shower or bachlorette party.
No lol!
11/06/2011
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by T&A1987
If I was ever getting married it would be cash only. How else can anyone make a dent in the cost of the ceremony?
Not have a huge affair in the first place? That'd be my guess. I don't understand all the fanciness, especially in this economy. But, Bridal sales went up 2% this year.
11/06/2011
null null
Yes, but I'd probably only put discreet style toys on the list and open them in private.
11/06/2011
Beck Beck
Yes to the people you would not mind getting them from.
11/06/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I'd most likely include lingerie, but not sex toys.
11/06/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
i would contact the younger people i know & tell them that they could hold off getting me a gift till the bachelorette party if they wanted to get me a sex toy. but i would probably register for a few pieces of lingerie for the bridal shower.
11/06/2011
poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by Drakoni
Would you ever include sex toys or lingerie in a bridal shower gift registry? Not the main wedding gift registry, but the one that just goes to your girlfriends who are coming to the bridal shower or bachlorette party.
I personally wouldn't cause I would not want my family buying me something like that, toys and lingerie are things that a couple should chose for each other, seriously would you want to use a dildo your grandma picked out, that would be scary..
11/07/2011
PeppermintFuntimes PeppermintFuntimes
It'd be too awkward to ask my family and no-so-close friends for sex toys. o-o
11/07/2011
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I would! Especially if it was JUST close friends. To my mom and grandma, not so much.. But my girlfriends all know about my awkward habits, I have no qualms! XD
11/07/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Yes, I wouldn't have an issue at all adding them to a registry...hehehe. Saves me having to buy them - if anyone actually does buy them for me.
11/07/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
I got married a long time ago. I would not put sex toys on the gift registry, I don't think it's appropriate. Some lingerie might be OK, but not too much. The gift registry is supposed to be containing things for you and your partner's new home and new life, and is only supposed to be a suggestion on what to get you.

I have to be honest, if I got an invitation to a shower or a wedding where they said, "We are accepting cash only." I would decline the invitation completely. Emily Post as well as anyone else with manners makes it clear Your wedding is not a fund raising event! It's a party FOR your friends and relatives to celebrate your new life.

When I got married my gift registry was for thing we needed for our new home. Dishes, silverware (flatware actually, no real silver) bedding, linens, pillows, kitchen appliances etc. We did receive many things we didn't ask for and that was fine. A wedding registry isn't a command, it's suggestion! The things we got that were either doubles or more, or we had no use for, we tried to return to buy stuff we did need for the new house.

I am not really impressed when the bride has too many things on her registry that are just for her, and in excess, lingerie could be seen as that. A few pieces, MAYBE, (and only if you are having a Bachelorette party or are rich and actually will have theme showers, like a special "Kitchen Shower" or/and a "Lingerie Shower.") I knew one woman who was married before and claimed she had "all the things I need for my house" (which in my opinion is a good reason to not only have a small wedding but to NOT have a shower and certainly NOT have a registry) and her gift registry was all clothing, shoes and spa items for HER. We declined the invitations to both her wedding and her shower. I don't like mercenary people. A wedding is a party, not, as I said, a Fund Raising Event.

I'd say no, but not from embarrassment, because I don't feel they are appropriate things to put on a gift registry where my grandmother, my aunts, my mother in law and other people who have no right to peer into my sex life will be looking at and using the registry.
11/07/2011
Drakoni Drakoni
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I got married a long time ago. I would not put sex toys on the gift registry, I don't think it's appropriate. Some lingerie might be OK, but not too much. The gift registry is supposed to be containing things for you and your partner's ... More
I fully agree on the manners issue of not just asking for money. I've been invited to a few weddings where the couple was young and could use the cash to get their life together started and there usually is a card that says (or someone mentions) that cash or gift cards would gladly be accepted. I have no problem with those, but the only cash thing is a little rude.

I have to ask, though, why would lingerie be seen as just for the bride? My first thought would be that the groom added it to the gift registry.
11/07/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Yeah, asking for that stuff seems kind of tacky. Also, I don't think I want to be unwrapping a 10 inch realistic dildo in front of grandma and the whole world.
11/07/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I got married in 2003 and did not bother with a wedding registry. I let people give me what they wanted to give me. My best friend and maid of honor ended up getting me a pair of handcuffs, whip, and collar along with a top/thong piece. It was the hit of the whole wedding shower. My aunts just cracked up and they had a ball with it. What was really fun about it was she made sure that was the last item opened so the wow factor could really be there.
11/07/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Drakoni
I fully agree on the manners issue of not just asking for money. I've been invited to a few weddings where the couple was young and could use the cash to get their life together started and there usually is a card that says (or someone mentions) ... More
You asked: I have to ask, though, why would lingerie be seen as just for the bride? Maybe I'm old fashioned, but unless the bride is having a Bachelorette party (and will get all manner of penis shaped objects) or "lingerie shower" I think wedding and shower presents should be for "The Home" and to set up the home for the couple to live in.

I hear people say, "We've lived together a long time and don't need any housewares." I don't know what to say to that. The main reason you get wedding presents is to get the home ready, not just to "get presents." A few pieces of lingerie, from a few good friends would be OK, but who would want a peek a boo bra with crotchless panties and a garter belt with stockings from their Uncle Fred? It would be.... icky. So, I don't think these should be put on the regular registry.

As for adding something to the registry, I don't think my husband added a single thing to ours.
11/07/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
I definitely would have put lingerie onto a special registry for the bachelorette party, but it never crossed my mind to do it. I don't think it'd be all that appropriate for a regular registry, but a specific one just for people you'd feel comfortable sharing the fact that you want lingerie with? Sure, why not.
11/07/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Drakoni
Would you ever include sex toys or lingerie in a bridal shower gift registry? Not the main wedding gift registry, but the one that just goes to your girlfriends who are coming to the bridal shower or bachlorette party.
I would!
11/09/2011
sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
Maybe it wouldn't be embarrassing, but ti would kind of cross a personal line. I prefer to buy my own lingerie, because I feel like it's from me for me and for my lover/fiance/husband etc. If someone else bought it for me, I think I would feel like they were somewhat "in" on the goings-on in the bedroom...
11/09/2011
toxie m toxie m
I might put lingerie on, but not toys. I can get all the toys I need by myself, and it's a little more personal (even though I am super open about my collection and all the ladies who'd be at my bachelorette would probably have seen it anyway). Lingerie is more coupley and fits with the wedding theme better, in my thinking. Still, I think I'd probably stick with the traditional requests for houseware-type stuff, since money's always tight and lingerie isn't quite a necessity.
11/09/2011
Liz123 Liz123
Depends on the people.
11/09/2011
xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
I wish there was a "other" option because I would not include sex toys in a bridal wishlist but I would include lingerie.
07/17/2012
PeachCandy PeachCandy
Lingerie - definitely yes! I love my lingerie. But sex toys, I might...not really sure though
07/17/2012
sweetiejo sweetiejo
It is a split decision lingerie yes, I would I love the stuff and would be okay showing it in front of others, not on but in opening a gift. As for the sex toys no way, all I can think of is my other half's family would see that and that would kill me.
07/17/2012
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Maybe and Maybe not if I wanted things like that for my "wedding" if I were getting married I would only tell my closest friends what I wanted sexual wise
07/17/2012
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