Interesting question here....

Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I would have my partner get into seriously heavy counseling.

Bestiality is NOT consensual!!!! The animal does not have the ability to consent to a human and IMO, it is.... wrong. I think it is harmful to the animal, despite the fact that the ... more
I agree more or less. I am certain there are cases where humans and animals form extremely strong bonds - even physical ones - and that the consent is present on both ends. However, without a clearly defined system of communication that humans have through language, guessing which cases are consensual can be difficult. I'm not sure WHY a human would want a relationship with another species in the first place, but I do think it can happen in a relatively (and I do mean RELATIVELY) ethical way. There are lots of documented cases of seemingly happy, long-term relationships between different species. I just think when it gets into defining what counts as consent with an animal (since it can't speak) is problematic.

Long story short, even though I do think it's possible for consent to occur, it's impossible to assume it. A bit of a paradox, which is why I tend to just say it's wrong in many or even most cases. However, I think it's a little silly to project human systems of sexuality and power onto animals of other species. Other species do not necessarily assign the same meaning or value to sexual acts as humans do - and even humans don't universally assign the same meanings and values to sex acts. Many animals engage in acts of beastiality with humans that are not their owners and whom they have no loyalty to. Tourists, passersby, etc. I think it's reasonable enough to assume that there is a fair amount of animals that engage in sex with people simply because they want to. Some species - like dolphins - are notorious for sexually assaulting humans entirely of their own volition. How many times have you had a dog tackle you and hump you, or bury its face in your crotch? It's something we need to keep in mind, just for the sake of being accurate and fair in our judgments.

Anyway, this may sound cold, but I'd be less concerned about the animal's well being and more about my partner's. I think I'd discontinue the relationship while they sought counseling, without the guarantee that it would ever be resumed. For me, their actions speak to some very complicated, long-term issues that need to be resolved. My partner would (hypothetically) deserve to dedicate all of their energies and time to resolving those issues. If they owned the dog, I'd ask that they give it up voluntarily to a shelter. If they refused, I would notify the appropriate authorities.
10/29/2011
Contributor: Powder Powder
Sorry, but that'd be a deal breaker for me.
10/29/2011
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
I agree more or less. I am certain there are cases where humans and animals form extremely strong bonds - even physical ones - and that the consent is present on both ends. However, without a clearly defined system of communication that humans have ... more
That's a very good point. At least penetration wasn't happening, which would be much more traumatizing for the animal. But the human would definitely require counseling (in my personal opinion).
10/29/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
That's a very good point. At least penetration wasn't happening, which would be much more traumatizing for the animal. But the human would definitely require counseling (in my personal opinion).
See, that's kind of what I mean. I think it's arbitrary to assign meaning to the act of penetration for another species. Penetration carries a special meaning for us as humans, but it may not for a dog. We shouldn't assume consent on an animal's part, but probably shouldn't assume trauma either.
10/29/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
just nasty
10/29/2011
Contributor: l'amour l'amour
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
That's a very good point. At least penetration wasn't happening, which would be much more traumatizing for the animal. But the human would definitely require counseling (in my personal opinion).
I agree with this completely.
10/29/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
First off, eww!

I am not sure to be honest, I guess I would ask what the dog does that I cannot and go from there. Maybe she just wanted a bigger tongue than mine.
Lol!
10/30/2011
Contributor: jenn g jenn g
What a very sad situation
10/31/2011
Contributor: Seventeen Seventeen
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Originally posted by jenn g
What a very sad situation
To be fair, it's the people who make it into a sad story. For me, personally, this is a nice story. But that's because I like it. It's how people treat those involved that makes it sad for me. Animal shelters, counseling, etc etc >_>

I mean. I wouldn't like it either if I was sent to counselling because I love being tied up and used in various ways. And to send that person who did it to me to jail? I wouldn't want anything -less- than that.

But this is all just my point of view! So yeah.
10/31/2011
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
See, that's kind of what I mean. I think it's arbitrary to assign meaning to the act of penetration for another species. Penetration carries a special meaning for us as humans, but it may not for a dog. We shouldn't assume consent on an ... more
I know my dog would personally be traumatized if she were penetrated by someone. She already hates fecal exams for her health (which are super small and quick) more than any shot or medicine the vet could give her. As much cultural value we stick onto penetration, there is more physical pain/violence inherent in it. In the case of the woman being licked by the dog, nothing was actually happening to the dog. But if the dog were penetrated, it would!
10/31/2011
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
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Originally posted by Darling Jen
I know my dog would personally be traumatized if she were penetrated by someone. She already hates fecal exams for her health (which are super small and quick) more than any shot or medicine the vet could give her. As much cultural value we stick ... more
I think I misunderstood your original post; I do hear what you're saying and agree. You are saying that if a dog were forcibly penetrated, it would be physically painful in a way that the situation described in the OP wouldn't be. This, yes, I agree is probably true. I thought you meant it would be more psychologically upsetting, and that was what I took issue with.
10/31/2011
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
I have issues with people doing things to animals. So I would probably end it, because I don't think I'd be able to get over it.
11/04/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Definitely ew.
I'd end it. I know I'd never be comfortable around him anymore if he did that, and there would be that awkward worry of "if he does it with the dog, who else has he done it with?"
Honestly, I think I'd rather be cheated on with another person than the dog though.
Either way I'd end it.
11/06/2011
Contributor: sweetcaroline sweetcaroline
If they've talked about things like that before, then they should get counseling or something...
but it sounds like this totally blew him out of the water. So I doubt he had any inkling of the woman's goings-ons... so I don't blame him for ending it.
11/09/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
That concerns me, if she really wanted something animal-like she should have turned to erotica/toys directed to the furry or animal-loving community.
11/12/2011
Contributor: LynLyn LynLyn
Well, I have to sort of shift it around and imagine it as my fiance doing it, or put myself in his shoes. But either way, I don't feel it would be enough for me to end a relationship, not a close, long lasting one. I would be concerned that it was kept from me, ask how long it'd been going on, if I was doing something wrong. I think I'd be shocked more than anything but my fiance and I have our fair share of freaky fetishes and we've always been really accepting. I'd never end a strong bond like that, no matter how uncomfortable the subject made me. We'd make it through it.

Even from a detached point of view I wouldn't have ended it. Not if it was my WIFE. As weird, freaky and moderately gross/sickening as it may be, I just.. I don't know. Relationships are more important to me than that, any type, from friendships to significant others.
11/13/2011
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Umm. Yuck.

Yeah, I'd have to end it.
11/13/2011
Contributor: dayne dayne
That is not ok....I could never get over it, I would end it !!!!
11/13/2011
Contributor: Sunshineamine Sunshineamine
That is really gross. I would end the relationship for sure. I wouldn't be ale to cope with that and have a functional relationship with that person ever again and I know it so I would end it right there. That is WAY beyond wrong.
11/13/2011
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
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Originally posted by Beck
Alright I just go off the phone with my husband. He just told me that one of the guys he works with came home early and when he walked in the kitchen. He found his wife with the dog. She was spread eagle while the dog was performing oral sex. The guy ... more
Something about that just seems wrong-I guess there is something missing in their relationship.
11/23/2011
Contributor: ilbelsole ilbelsole
I would be confused and would want to help my partner.
11/23/2011
Contributor: lalapetitee lalapetitee
My animals are like my family and that is too disturbing. That would be the end for me!
11/23/2011
Contributor: Darklyvan Darklyvan
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Originally posted by Beck
Alright I just go off the phone with my husband. He just told me that one of the guys he works with came home early and when he walked in the kitchen. He found his wife with the dog. She was spread eagle while the dog was performing oral sex. The guy ... more
I clicked too soon, I immediately clicked on end it, but did not see omg ewww
11/28/2011
Contributor: Undead Undead
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Originally posted by Beck
Alright I just go off the phone with my husband. He just told me that one of the guys he works with came home early and when he walked in the kitchen. He found his wife with the dog. She was spread eagle while the dog was performing oral sex. The guy ... more
END IT, that is just completely wrong
01/01/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Beck
Alright I just go off the phone with my husband. He just told me that one of the guys he works with came home early and when he walked in the kitchen. He found his wife with the dog. She was spread eagle while the dog was performing oral sex. The guy ... more
I'm disgusted by that. WTH.
01/04/2012
Contributor: Megan Jean Megan Jean
I'd... I'd be really disgusted, and I don't know if I'd be able to have sex with them ever again...
01/04/2012
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
Um... I can't believe she didn't tell him she was into that BEFORE they got married. I think I'd break up with my partner if I were in that situation myself. I mean, it's one thing to have weird fetishes, but I don't feel it's right to include a defenseless animal in your activities, especially since they can't really know what's going on.
01/04/2012
Contributor: Collogue Collogue
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Originally posted by Beck
Alright I just go off the phone with my husband. He just told me that one of the guys he works with came home early and when he walked in the kitchen. He found his wife with the dog. She was spread eagle while the dog was performing oral sex. The guy ... more
Bestiality is a hard limit for me, and that would include for my partner as well. It makes me really uncomfortable to think about it.
01/09/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
That would be awful to walk in on something like that. I would try to be as unjudgmental as possible. But I just think it would be hard to look at that person the same ever again. If they were into that, we would be incompatible. Period.
01/09/2012
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I don't think I'd even know what to say other than get the fuck out. That's disgusting. It would completely ruin the marriage for me.
01/09/2012