Is a relationship healthy if you never argue?

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Is a relationship healthy if you never argue?

marshmallow marshmallow
Just something I've been thinking of lately.
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Yes
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14  (18%)
No
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Depends
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57  (72%)
Total votes: 79
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10/12/2012
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ksparkles16 ksparkles16
idk...I think an occasional argument here or there is good shows you care...now if you argue constantly that may be an issue
10/12/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by marshmallow
Just something I've been thinking of lately.
I chose "depends" because honestly, if you never argue, I don't think it's a matter of being healthy or not, but perhaps it's not even a relationship if two people never argue, never disagree. I don't know though, but seems pretty much like a fallacy to have a relationship where there's no arguments ever. Also, I'd more determine the health of the relationship on other things like if you don't argue, then what kind of happiness is there? I mean if you never argue, it sounds like you may be pretty... half out of it? I'd say a healthy relationship and any relationship has arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings, but also the couple can be respectful while still disagreeing, and then later be able to come to a solution or do whatever needs done in order to "fix" the problem or make it better.
10/12/2012
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I guess it depends on what you consider "arguing." My partner and I never argue but we do disagree. We always just talk it out calmly. There's never any anger, insults, or raised voices that are typical of "arguing"
10/12/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
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Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
I guess it depends on what you consider "arguing." My partner and I never argue but we do disagree. We always just talk it out calmly. There's never any anger, insults, or raised voices that are typical of "arguing"
This.
10/12/2012
HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
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Originally posted by marshmallow
Just something I've been thinking of lately.
My husband and I rarely argue now that there are no children in the house. We're walking on sunshine yeah (humming marry tune)
10/12/2012
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
No I don't think it's healthy if you and your SO don't argue once in a while.
10/12/2012
EvilHomer EvilHomer
Depends on why you don't argue, not having things to argue about is ok, having things to argue about and avoiding them is not ok.
10/12/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I think it depends. I don't think arguing is something that shows you have a healthy relaionship or not, but disagreeing should be a part of it.
10/12/2012
Jimenko Jimenko
Depends what you consider arguing. Some people can just talk it out without resorting to yelling.
10/12/2012
wwwww wwwww
It all depends really.
10/12/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
Arguments may come up occasionally but you don't want to be arguing all the time.
10/12/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by marshmallow
Just something I've been thinking of lately.
its better than always arguing. I know way too many couples like that and dont get why theyre together
10/12/2012
Feisty Feisty
No I don't think it is healthy- neither is arguing all the time. I think that once in a while an argument is good, means that you are communicating and sharing your true thoughts.
10/12/2012
shorejen9 shorejen9
Depends because imo, there is a difference argue and disagree. People can disagree and never argue. To me argue means a fight, bickering and possibly hurt feelings. I feel that if a couple doesn't even disagree, ever then someone is probably unhappy about things in their life and they we hiding it. That is unhealthy.
10/12/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I'm starting to agree that never arguing probably means that communication isn't the best. You're bound to disagree with something at some point. Not to say that this should mean screaming matches, but a little conflict can be good. There are ways to make it less heated: using "I" statements, for example. "I feel ______ because...." instead of "you did this and this and this!!!" I couldn't handle semi-constant arguments with someone though.
10/12/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Depends both on what you define "arguing" as and what your relationship is. Some relationships have very few disagreements and are good, some don't argue for fear the relationship will break up. Arguing can mean anything from a screaming match to polite disagreement from person to person
10/13/2012
Alyxx Alyxx
I don't think so. I think a certain amount of arguing comes with the territory of a relationship.
10/13/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
Quote:
Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
I guess it depends on what you consider "arguing." My partner and I never argue but we do disagree. We always just talk it out calmly. There's never any anger, insults, or raised voices that are typical of "arguing"
Yea me and my partner are the same way
10/13/2012
Moniqua Moniqua
It could be. Then again it could mean that you dont talk to each other enough.
10/13/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
I think it's a little odd. I guess it depends, but there should at least be some disagreements--otherwi se it would seem that someone isn't being completely honest or expressing themselves to their partner. There's no way that two people in that intimate of a relationship are going to be in perfect harmony all the time. I think relationships that really stand the test of time go through ups and downs, and are strengthened by going through the down parts and coming out of it together. Arguing all the time, of course, isn't good, but once in a while, I think it's normal and healthy.
10/13/2012
Alyona Alyona
Depends
10/17/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
My partner and I have been together for almost 10 years now and I would say we actually argue very infrequently. We both express frustration with each other (or other things) when we need to, and we're able to just talk things out without raising our voices or really getting upset about things.
10/17/2012
Jesyra Jesyra
It depends why you aren't arguing.

If you're afraid to express yourself and anger/go against what your partner says, that is NOT healthy. If you're mature adults who are able to just talk through problems that arise, removing the need for arguements, then it's perfectly fine.

Voicing your opinions and having open discussions, whether in agreement or disagreement with your partner, is necessary and healthy for a relationship. Arguements are neither necessary nor truly healthy for a relationship. Calm rational discussions are better than angry yelling any day.
10/17/2012
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
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Originally posted by EvilHomer
Depends on why you don't argue, not having things to argue about is ok, having things to argue about and avoiding them is not ok.
Yo ho ho and a bottle of truth.
10/17/2012
satinlady550 satinlady550
Quote:
Originally posted by marshmallow
Just something I've been thinking of lately.
It depends on if you are having issues and aren't communicating with your partner about these issues.
10/17/2012
Wonderstruck Wonderstruck
I think we had an argument once while I was pregnant and that was once, nerves were a bit crazy then. Other than that, we don't argue. We do have our disagreements of course but I prefer it that way. Less or no arguments is wonderful. I grew up in a family where there was constant fighting, yelling, screaming...etc. So arguments drive me a bit nuts.
10/17/2012
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
it all depends on what degree it is going to and what argument is about I think
10/17/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Why not? I think the question is if both partners are happy overall, that is a healthy relationship.
10/17/2012
jr2012 jr2012
people don't believe me when I say so, but we don't argue. I think there has been two fights in the entire 8 years, and they were not crazy ones.

It helps because we are both very non-argumentative people. I'm not saying that we avoid conflict when there are issues, but a discussion never exceeds the level of civil conversation. It also helps that we just click in a certain way, so not too many differences arise. We had a roommate for a while and she said it was totally bizarre.

I think it depends on the people involved. Some people just argue, and it's completely okay, and some people simply don't fight, and that's completely okay too. It's best you know what kind of person you are, and that your partner knows as well, and accepts that!
10/17/2012
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