Is Fantasy a form of cheating?

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Is Fantasy a form of cheating?

Lif3sambiguity Lif3sambiguity
again, the questions is in the topic line.... is fantasy a form of cheating? is thinking about being with other people cheating? is masturbating and thinking about someone else while doing so cheating?
11/02/2010
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Waterfall Waterfall
I do not think that thinking or fantasizing about someone else is cheating.
11/02/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
Nah, I dont think its classed as cheating. Everyone fantasizes ... its just natural.
For me personally, I'd much rather a partner just fantasise than to actually go out and perform on them!
11/02/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Nope, cheating is an act with that person to me. So...if they were masturbating and sending each other pictures. Yes, that is cheating. But just thinking about it or doing it alone...nope.
11/02/2010
CS2012 CS2012
I agree with the other posters. Fantasizing about being with other people or thinking about them while masturbating is not cheating.
11/02/2010
Phoenix713 Phoenix713
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Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
again, the questions is in the topic line.... is fantasy a form of cheating? is thinking about being with other people cheating? is masturbating and thinking about someone else while doing so cheating?
I don't think so...but then again my wife's never done it. Well, as far as I know.
11/03/2010
Alicia Alicia
Nope, not cheating.
11/03/2010
Kim! Kim!
It's definitely not cheating.
11/03/2010
Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Nope, cheating is an act with that person to me. So...if they were masturbating and sending each other pictures. Yes, that is cheating. But just thinking about it or doing it alone...nope.
I totally agree with this. When my guy and I started dating, we had a discussion about this. He asked if it was okay by me if he still masturbated and swapped pics back and forth with other girls...FUCK NO! He argued meekly that it was just like porn, but it isn't. I'm glad you see it the way I do. Anyway, my guy's best friend (the loser I've complained about) will do this, so that's why my guy asked about it.
11/03/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
again, the questions is in the topic line.... is fantasy a form of cheating? is thinking about being with other people cheating? is masturbating and thinking about someone else while doing so cheating?
No you are allowed to be whatever you wish and fuck whomever you want in your mind! I don't believe cheating should involve acts done in the mind. When you cheat you do something that you are not allowing your partner(s) to share with you...you cheat them of something. If you are fantasizing you aren't cheating them of anything! masturbation is sex with yourself, as long as you aren't actually tresspassing on a boundary mind fuck whomever you choose!
11/05/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
You can look at the menu without wanting to place an order.


In other words, not cheating at all.
11/05/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Blinker
I totally agree with this. When my guy and I started dating, we had a discussion about this. He asked if it was okay by me if he still masturbated and swapped pics back and forth with other girls...FUCK NO! He argued meekly that it was just like ...
No now swapping pictures with someone and using them for masturbation is not like porn snce you generally don't talk to a porn star about intimate masturbatory topics. You are emotionally cheating when you are doing that I think. This would have to be something that you discuss and both agree is ok in your relationship. In my relationships it's fine to exchange pictures as long as it's done openly...but it is something we discussed.
11/05/2010
Bunnycups Bunnycups
What if someone is fantasizing about someone else while having sex with you?
11/05/2010
Kim! Kim!
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Originally posted by Bunnycups
What if someone is fantasizing about someone else while having sex with you?
If the rest of the relationship is healthy I don't think it's that big of a deal. If it's the same person and it's every single time you have sex then something bigger is probably up. But thoughts drifting to someone famous or the cute girl/guy you saw in the coffee shop, things like that, totally not a big deal.
11/05/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Putting a lid on what someone can fantasize about in the name of fidelity... that could really backfire, in my opinion. As long as the boundaries are clear between what is fantasy and what is real, that is all that matters to me.
11/05/2010
Danielle1220 Danielle1220
Nope definitely not cheating!
11/05/2010
Timaree Timaree
here's a fantastic column about what it means when you can't stop fantasizing during sex: link
11/17/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by Lif3sambiguity
again, the questions is in the topic line.... is fantasy a form of cheating? is thinking about being with other people cheating? is masturbating and thinking about someone else while doing so cheating?
i do not at all think it is cheating. If we knew exactly everything in our partners heads it may drive us mad at times. Fantasies are for the person having them no one elses business.
11/24/2010
clp clp
I'd be hesitant to have a concrete list of what is and isn't cheating in the first place. It really comes down to what is right/wrong for you AND your partner. If one disagrees, there needs to be compromise somewhere.
11/24/2010
sweet434cream sweet434cream
The only way that it is cheating is if you act on your fantasy
11/27/2010
EJ EJ
I wouldn't call it cheating.
08/08/2011
beachluv51800 beachluv51800
thinking about it and doing it are two different things....no, I don't think it is cheating
08/08/2011
daveysgirl daveysgirl
its not cheating
08/09/2011
Callisto Callisto
Nope
08/13/2011
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Unique posters: 22