Is it ok to stay friends with ur ex's?

southernhawtie southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
12/03/2010
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J's Alley J's Alley
Almost every guy I am friends with is an ex, and it's fine. I do have to be sure to reign in the flirting a bit (I am a giant flirt) because it irritates J since I have dated them in the past. He only has an issue with one guy...but we do hang out with him and his new girl...that seems to work for J.
12/03/2010
Destri Destri
I have two ex husbands. I am good friends with the first one, as is my current husband. the second ex is out of my life for good and forever, thank goodness! But if everyone gets along, why not be friends?
12/03/2010
Illusional Illusional
Some exes my boyfriend doesn't want me to associate with, and with good reason. I don't like him being friends with his exes, so I try to keep the exes out of the picture, lol
12/03/2010
Taylor Taylor
I think it's okay, but I do think you need to be much more clear about boundaries in those situations.
12/03/2010
firekitten firekitten
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Originally posted by southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
I'm friends with several of mine. Sometimes it just doesn't work though.
12/03/2010
Emily! Emily!
I'm friends with all my exes except for one... My current bf has a bit off an issue with one of them but he trusts me.
12/03/2010
onehotmomma onehotmomma
Depends. I have had one serious bf who I still talk to and am friends with. Mostly because we had been through a lot together, and known each other for so long that for him to be out of my life, and my families life is just not an option. Thank god he gets along with my current bf!! I don't know what would have happened if my current bf didn't agree with me being friends with him.
12/04/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
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Originally posted by firekitten
I'm friends with several of mine. Sometimes it just doesn't work though.
Same here.
12/04/2010
Liz2 Liz2
Depends on the person, but I am friends with some. Sometimes I will see them at a club (I am with my b/f) no big deal but there may be some good natured teasing.
12/04/2010
Harlequin Harlequin
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Originally posted by southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
nah i wouldnt stay friends.
12/10/2010
mariah mariah
ya some of them im still friends with
12/10/2010
The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
I am still very good friends with some ex's. While the friendships are defiantly not as strong as the used to be, I like to think it is possible to remain friends. However, this is DEFIANTLY not always the case!
12/25/2010
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
My last ex i try to talk as little as possible to. My bf completly hates him!
12/28/2010
Dusk Dusk
I've managed to stay friends-ish with one of my exes, but not the ex i tried to stay friends with. I say, let things happen however they happen and if you end up coming back together as friends after it all, cool. It's less likely to happen, unfortunately.
12/29/2010
ToxicHeart ToxicHeart
It really honestly depends on the person and the circumstances surrounding you and your exes. Did you break up with them fairly scratch free or was their alot of angry feelings? All break ups are nasty and hurt alot but some are more... easier then others. If you broke up with minimal angry feelings towards each other it's possible to stay as friends. Now if it was a nasty break up, it still is possible to be friends but alot harder.

I personally though would probably not stay friends with my exes. It makes things weird. Except, I don't have any exes so my insight is solely one as an observer.
12/30/2010
*HisMrs* *HisMrs*
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Originally posted by Illusional
Some exes my boyfriend doesn't want me to associate with, and with good reason. I don't like him being friends with his exes, so I try to keep the exes out of the picture, lol
I am the same way! I think keeping exes out of the picture is the best way to avoid problems!
12/30/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
Im not interested in staying friends with exes.
Once it's over, it's over and I totally move on. Plenty of fish in the sea ... I don't NEED to be friends with them.
01/01/2011
clp clp
One ex is my best friend. I know thats a line that can be stereotyped, but he was always important to me, it was just unfortunate (and very much not planned) for us to lose the romantic connection. I wouldn't give up his friendship for ANYTHING--not until he himself decides its time.
My boyfriend trusts me, just as I trust him with his ex. We are both adults and understand the consequences of taking those past relationships too far. I am very lucky that he understands how important my best is to me, and can sympathize with me when it hurts to remember what didn't happen.

As for the other exes... I play phone tag with one because I don't mind talking to her, although its pretty obvious she isn't interested in me without a romantic flame. Drama llama, as it were. The others are banished to the 'do not answer' profile on my phone--no ringing, no texts, no names. Just Over.
01/01/2011
Yoda Yoda
I think it's a bad idea if you are married or committed to someone else.
01/01/2011
Mr. & Mrs. Peg Mr. & Mrs. Peg
My parents played friends all through my childhood. As soon as I turned 18 the fireworks really started. It must have been a really long 13 years for them.

As for me...I respect my ex...don't want to friends with her....but I do think very highly of her.
01/02/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
In my experience, when you stay friends one person eventually wants to get back together. So, no, I don't tend to stay friends with exs.
01/02/2011
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
most of my exs and i are still very close. two are my best friends now. it didn't work as a relationship, but i wouldn't give them up for the world.


hell, one of my exs is my husband's drinking buddy
01/02/2011
kittychilla kittychilla
sometimes.. but as oxygen 99 said, usually one wants to get back with the other. so..i'm on the fence with this one. :S
01/02/2011
❦Angel Of Music❦ ❦Angel Of Music❦
I am kind of friends with only one of my ex's. My boyfriend at the time never knew we hung out, but I immediately warned my boyfriend now of the situation and he is fine with it. As long as I don't cheat or anything, he is cool with it. Now its not like me and my ex hang out like good buddies, but we saw each other about once a week for about 2 months or so. We don't really talk much or see each other anymore because of other reasons, but honestly no matter what, he will always be my friend and he knows he can come to me if he needs anything. I think for him the feeling is semi-mutual because of these other reasons that will go unmentioned. Now on the other hand, my boyfriend is friends with some of his ex's and I'm completely fine with that, but if he were to hang out with him, I might have a problem. Call me a hypocrite.But all of his ex's are in a different state so we haven't encountered this problem yet.
01/03/2011
guard083 guard083
I'm still friends with some of my ex's because it didnt'a all end badly. It works ok with my relationship and my guy is really laid back which is nice. I don't flirt with them or anything like that and we are still as happy as we have ever been
01/12/2011
Koko Koko
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Originally posted by southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
I'm friends with all ex's pretty much aside from my ex husband. However, I don't think it's okay for my fiance' to be friends with his exes... I know that might seem like a double standard but he doesn't like any of his exes and I'd find it really strange if they started being friends now. I have remained friends with mine long before I met my fiance'.
01/12/2011
ScottA ScottA
Depends on your particular situation.
01/12/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by southernhawtie
So who here thinks its ok to stay friends with ur ex's?? And if u think it's ok how has it affected ur life (relationship wise)??
It's always been very tricky for me to stay friends with them..I prefer to cut them out completely.
01/13/2011
IrishLassie IrishLassie
I know that in some cases it's possible. I personally wouldnt recommend it. The hubs tried to remain friends with his ex while we were dating and it would drive me nuts and I wasnt even jealous of her or worry about him leaving me. It just wasnt healthy. I have had friends who have remained friends after their breakup. I personally dont think I could. There is a reason as to why they are your ex right?
01/13/2011
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