Ahhh! Double post. I'm really sorry! I don't know how to delete it!
Is oral sex really considered cheating?
04/11/2013
Yes, absolutely oral sex is cheating. In my opinion, Penetration is just one type of sex, it's not the only type.
04/11/2013
Nothing is cheating as long as it's agreed upon in advance by both partners. Cheating or not though, we'd see no difference between oral sex and penetrative sex since either situation has the potential for one person to bring home a disease to the other.
04/11/2013
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...Yes. Yes it is.
Originally posted by
cowboywill87
Many people think that oral isn't cheating, because there isn't insertion penetration of any form, shape or way. One part is in relationship, and decides they wanna eat someone else pussy.
04/11/2013
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I came here to say this. You summed up my thoughts completely!
Originally posted by
twelve13
Unless you have both agreed that it's okay, it's cheating. Hell, I consider kissing cheating. Some people might consider grinding cheating.
If someone is in a monogamous relationship and has oral sex with someone else and tries to say 'there was no penetration so it's ok', like really?? That's just them trying to justify their own crappy behavior so they won't feel guilty about it. Unless your partner have talked about it and has agreed to it BEFOREHAND, doing any sort of physical act that they're uncomfortable with cheating, anything from kissing (or whatever their partner is uncomfortable with) to penetrative sex and everything inbetween is definitely cheating.
04/11/2013
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Close, but no cigar!
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
Is this the Bill Clinton school of semantics?
04/11/2013
Looks pretty unanimous. Eatin' is cheatin.
04/11/2013
Wow, definitely cheating. No question my mind -- it's intimate, sexual contact.
04/11/2013
I consider it cheating unless one is in an open relationship and the terms have been discussed ahead of time.
04/11/2013
We were actually discussing this at work a while back. A few of guy friends do not consider it cheating if they receive a blow job from someone. Even heard one of them say that to a girlfriend when he got busted "cheating". I think that it all really depends on the person or persons. My current boyfriend considers anything including kissing to be cheating, but an ex and I had a fully open relationship where we engaged in sexual relations with others and we didn't consider it cheating at all.
04/11/2013
Looks like pollers disagree with Clinton. Oral sex is sexual relations and a no-no in a relationship, unless you have an open relationship in regards to that.
04/15/2013
I would certainly consider kissing to be cheating. Oral sex is absolutely cheating. Hell, mild flirting would have me a jealous rage.
04/15/2013
This depends highly on the relationship. Cheating is a subjective term and means very different things to different people- the key is communication. If someone feels that it's OK for them or their partner to have relations with others, and they agree on it, then clearly it's not cheating. In my own relationships however, I would absolutely see it as cheating- quite severely so in fact.
04/16/2013
Yup.
04/16/2013
If you're in a monogamous relationship, of course it's cheating. There should be no doubt about that.
If you're in any type of open/poly relationship, then that's your rules, and we'd need more information to give you a real answer.
If you're in any type of open/poly relationship, then that's your rules, and we'd need more information to give you a real answer.
04/16/2013
If you have any doubts, don't do it!
04/16/2013
YES any form of sex outside of a relationship is considered cheating.
04/16/2013
penetration isn't the only/ultimate form of sex
04/16/2013
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Cheating doesn't equal penetration. You can cheat on someone without physically cheating.
Originally posted by
cowboywill87
Many people think that oral isn't cheating, because there isn't insertion penetration of any form, shape or way. One part is in relationship, and decides they wanna eat someone else pussy.
04/16/2013
Open Relationship, not for me!
04/17/2013
It most definitely IS
04/17/2013
Eating is cheating, as are kissing,petting, dry humping, emotional affairs.
04/17/2013
To me, yes it is cheating.
04/17/2013
Hell yes it is cheating.
04/18/2013
I would say it's cheating.
04/22/2013
unless it has been discussed or agreed upon, It is by all means cheating
04/22/2013
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I agree!
Originally posted by
novanilla
Definitely.
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to ... more
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to ... more
Definitely.
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to view sex. Unless engaging with both at the same time (like my partner does! weeee!) it leaves out the clitoris and also can leave out many of the ways that lesbians have sex, particularly those that cannot afford strap ons and harnesses or were alive before they were available.
So basically, it's all sex! less
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to view sex. Unless engaging with both at the same time (like my partner does! weeee!) it leaves out the clitoris and also can leave out many of the ways that lesbians have sex, particularly those that cannot afford strap ons and harnesses or were alive before they were available.
So basically, it's all sex! less
04/23/2013
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Totally agree!
Originally posted by
Chastity Darling
Any form of intimacy outside of a relationship is cheating to me. Kissing, sensual massage, and even sharing of personal secrets (emotional cheating) is cheating to me.
It is my "job" to please my husband and his "job" to ... more
It is my "job" to please my husband and his "job" to ... more
Any form of intimacy outside of a relationship is cheating to me. Kissing, sensual massage, and even sharing of personal secrets (emotional cheating) is cheating to me.
It is my "job" to please my husband and his "job" to please me. If he is looking outside of our relationship (without expressed consent) to fulfill any of his emotional or physical needs then there is something wrong...
If there is an arrangement for an open marriage, swinging lifestyle, or other consensual contract between partners, that is, obviously, a different story. less
It is my "job" to please my husband and his "job" to please me. If he is looking outside of our relationship (without expressed consent) to fulfill any of his emotional or physical needs then there is something wrong...
If there is an arrangement for an open marriage, swinging lifestyle, or other consensual contract between partners, that is, obviously, a different story. less
04/23/2013
I'd say yes, unless of course it has been discussed and agreed on together.
04/23/2013
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This. I am poly and have multiple partners, but we have all agreed to be told before sexual activity happens. If it were to happen and we were not told, then it is cheating.
Originally posted by
novanilla
Definitely.
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to ... more
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to ... more
Definitely.
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to view sex. Unless engaging with both at the same time (like my partner does! weeee!) it leaves out the clitoris and also can leave out many of the ways that lesbians have sex, particularly those that cannot afford strap ons and harnesses or were alive before they were available.
So basically, it's all sex! less
I hate the focus on penetration in our society as THE way to have sex. Even with a male partner sometimes we don't have penetrative sex and it is just as intimate if not more so. Penetration is a really male centered way to view sex. Unless engaging with both at the same time (like my partner does! weeee!) it leaves out the clitoris and also can leave out many of the ways that lesbians have sex, particularly those that cannot afford strap ons and harnesses or were alive before they were available.
So basically, it's all sex! less
04/23/2013