Is there a good age to have your first pregnancy?

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Is there a good age to have your first pregnancy?

<3BF <3BF
Do you think there is a 'best' age for a first pregnancy? If not, what circumstances are important to you and/or your significant other?
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18-21
cowgirl1130
1
22-25
underHim , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Sexy Housewife , SexyRayne , Hot'n'Bothered , Leather & Lace , heartsandrainbows , nova2014
8
26-29
JG24FanUK , smashthepatriarchy , BlooJay , TexasBrat , ghalik , Curiouscat , MissBre , Bignuf , angel142stx , padmeamidala , MissCandyland , CynicallyYours , jmex83 , dragonn , ellejay , woodsdragon , Azule , Toy Fiend , Leather & Lace , XxFallenAngelxX , Stagger13 , talon4196 , HisLittleFiend , heartsandrainbows , Mrs.Tee , sweet&lush
26
early 30's
BlooJay , ghalik , Geogeo , ellejay , Azule , sillylilkitten
6
mid-30's
ghalik
1
late 30's
as late as possible
age doesn't matter
MissMandii , Peggi , nikki0668
3
whenever you feel ready
Beck , Taylor , JessCee , ghalik , MissBre , darthkitt3n , Terri69 , Peggi , Katelyn , redstarr681 , Khanner , P'Gell , corsetsaurus rex , Stinkytofu10 , hatman , woodsdragon , Various , sillylilkitten , captainsgirl , Septimus , cowgirl1130 , nikki0668 , nova2014
23
I don't want to have children and/or be pregnant
Taylor , ghalik , Khanner , corsetsaurus rex
4
I want to be pregnant and have children, just not yet
MissBre , Katelyn , redstarr681 , ellejay , HisLittleFiend , nova2014
6
other...
spunkmonkey , Master DarkWolf , cottonxcandy , P'Gell , Rory
5
Total votes: 83 (57 voters)
Poll is closed
04/06/2012
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Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Do you think there is a 'best' age for a first pregnancy? If not, what circumstances are important to you and/or your significant other?
I think that a good age is between 26-29 yrs old. By then you should be financially stable with a job and have matured to understand the outside world and how to tend for a family. You may have those things earlier in life, so maybe you can have a child younger than that, but I do not see why you should have one before the age of 22.
04/06/2012
underHim underHim
Biologically speaking a womans fertility starts to drop in her late 20s. Young huh?
04/06/2012
Beck Beck
I am all for having sooner. Not 14 soon, but I hate my first pregnancy at 18. I want my children grown when I am 40+. There is rarely anyone who is financially stable even at 30. Also financially stability is not something that happens unless you have thousands of dollars in the bank. You can go to your job one day and the next day not have the job any more. I don't think there is a best age for everyone. It depends on what you want for your life.
04/06/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I think 26-33 would be a good age to have children, but it also depends maturity.
04/06/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I had my son at 22 and then I had my daughter at 33.
04/06/2012
Taylor Taylor
I think it probably depends on the person. I think it's a good idea to hopefully be old enough to have some maturity or experience and hopefully some good financial stability, but still be young enough to have the energy to chase a kid around. However you might not have all these things at any age, so it's probably best left up to the individuals to decide.

For me I think early 30's would be a good age. My parents were in their mid 40's and I remember people always thinking they were my grandparents when I was growing up.
04/06/2012
spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
I would say that as soon as you can take care of them financial, now as well as in the future.
04/06/2012
JessCee JessCee
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I am all for having sooner. Not 14 soon, but I hate my first pregnancy at 18. I want my children grown when I am 40+. There is rarely anyone who is financially stable even at 30. Also financially stability is not something that happens unless you ...
Totally agreed.
04/06/2012
TexasBrat TexasBrat
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Do you think there is a 'best' age for a first pregnancy? If not, what circumstances are important to you and/or your significant other?
I voted 26-29, however, it really depends on how emotionally mature you are. Plus, you need to have some education or life experience. Babies are cute, loving, and wonderful. However, they're also emotionally, physically, and financially draining. PLUS you should be in a stable relationship with the person you're having the baby with. If you have to get pregnant to keep a man, then he's not really YOURS.
04/06/2012
Curiouscat Curiouscat
Middle to late twenties is a good age in my opinion, prolly around when I might.
04/06/2012
Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I am all for having sooner. Not 14 soon, but I hate my first pregnancy at 18. I want my children grown when I am 40+. There is rarely anyone who is financially stable even at 30. Also financially stability is not something that happens unless you ...
LOL, I hate my first pregnancy, I meant had my first pregnancy.
04/07/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I think people should enjoy their 20s and get their life settled and secure before having kids, so 30s.
04/07/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Do you think there is a 'best' age for a first pregnancy? If not, what circumstances are important to you and/or your significant other?
Below mid 20's your body is not fully mature. After late 30's there are medical issues involved. This has nothing to do with preference, but pure, unmitigated physiology. Statistics show that babies born in the late 20's to early 30's moms simply do better. We waited ten years after being married to have a child..due to school loans. YES, there IS a "worse time" and a
Better time" to have children, depending on your circumstance, but the BIOLOGY part could care less if you have bills, or don't have a significant other...etc.
04/07/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Geogeo
I think people should enjoy their 20s and get their life settled and secure before having kids, so 30s.
That is what we did (bills were outrageous in our 20's) and we ended up with an amazing kid after waiting to our early 30's.
04/07/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by spunkmonkey
I would say that as soon as you can take care of them financial, now as well as in the future.
FINANCIAL..the part WAY too many people forget.
04/07/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I'll be turning 25 in August and that is the month my husband and I have decided as a 'deadline' for trying for our first baby (we'd like to accomplish something first, but if we don't, it's ok.) I feel mid-twenties is probably the best time for most people-of course it's always individual. It would be nice if I finished school first, but in my heart I feel like it's the right time. I've grown so much in the last 5-6 years and feel like I'm ready to be a mother.
04/08/2012
lisasharrer lisasharrer
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Do you think there is a 'best' age for a first pregnancy? If not, what circumstances are important to you and/or your significant other?
as long as you r 18 or older
04/08/2012
Terri69 Terri69
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Do you think there is a 'best' age for a first pregnancy? If not, what circumstances are important to you and/or your significant other?
I believe a lot of factors go into making the "best" time to have a baby.
04/08/2012
Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
My goal was to be done by the time I was 30. Looks like I'll meet that goal. But if I weren't PG with our last now I could easily bump it to 35.

Had my first at 22. Hindsight..I think I would have preferred my first to have arrived when I had my second (24).....

Oh well. Better than some who I know who got started in high school. Yikes.
04/08/2012
<3BF <3BF
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I am all for having sooner. Not 14 soon, but I hate my first pregnancy at 18. I want my children grown when I am 40+. There is rarely anyone who is financially stable even at 30. Also financially stability is not something that happens unless you ...
That's a good point. Having the kids out when you are in your 40s sounds like a good idea. I usually don't think of that aspect but who really wants their kids in the house when they are ready to retire??
04/08/2012
Beck Beck
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
That's a good point. Having the kids out when you are in your 40s sounds like a good idea. I usually don't think of that aspect but who really wants their kids in the house when they are ready to retire??
Exactly! This is my thought behind it too. I will be young enough to enjoy it! My hubby is 42 and has 2 children with me that are 3 and 1, well they will be graduating when he is 57 and 60, if they are on time. It is about what you want your life to be about.
04/08/2012
MissMandii MissMandii
I don't think its the age that matters... its your maturity level. I was just as good of a mother at 17 as I am now at 21. Yes, I had my son early, but I was ready to be a mother, I needed my son in my life. My sister on the other hand is 19... and a horrible mother, partying every weekend, a new guy ever other week... and I know some older women who are the same way. It's really all on you. I'd say if you're old enough to be thinking responsibly about having a child... chances are you are as ready as you ever will be. You will NEVER EVER be completely ready.
04/09/2012
Khanner Khanner
Biologically speaking, the younger the better because you're healthier and have more energy. As long as your pelvis is fully formed, and usually that happens at 16-19 years old.

Otherwise, it's your choice, as long as you can support it. Unfortunately the age range for mental maturity is much wider than the age range for physical maturity.
04/12/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Below mid 20's your body is not fully mature. After late 30's there are medical issues involved. This has nothing to do with preference, but pure, unmitigated physiology. Statistics show that babies born in the late 20's to early 30's ...
Actually, most women are not only fully sexually and reproductively mature at between 16 and 18, but fertility peaks in the late teens and early 20s.

What does "simply do better" mean? Emotionally? Intellectually? Financially? When I studied Child Development I never saw anything that said this. And in practice (as I work in Maternal Infant Care) I have seen some 18 year old mothers who are fantastic and some mothers in their 30s and 40s who are just.... terrible. And visa versa.

It depends on the person. You're always going to "have bills." My Man and I have NEVER not "had bills" and have never NOT been in some kind of debt (home, school loans etc.) We had kids anyway, and the first two were when I was fairly young, just out of college. They did pretty well. (The oldest one is running her own day care business and an other business with her partner and the middle one is in Grad School)

Everyone has a different life, yes, one should be financially stable, but in this day and age, not having debt is a rarity reserved for the upper classes.

I had my first two kids younger because I was afraid of infertility. (My mother had terrible fertility issues, and I was afraid I might inherit them.) Also, I wanted babies asap, before I got too old, or my fertility waned. For us "the biology" as well the desire to have babies was very important and "baby need" hit me in my teens and I had to fight it until I was finished with college.

Everyone has a different life, some stability is necessary. A partner with a decent job, some education, a place to live, no food issues is important.

But, I don't think there is one "right age" for everyone.
04/12/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
Exactly! This is my thought behind it too. I will be young enough to enjoy it! My hubby is 42 and has 2 children with me that are 3 and 1, well they will be graduating when he is 57 and 60, if they are on time. It is about what you want your life to ...
Yep. My husband is older and will be... near retirement age when our youngest is in college. (He was about your husband's age when our youngest was born.) He will probably have to work longer than if we hadn't had her when we did. But, when we had our 2nd child, I had a major depressive episode when she weaned, so we thought we were done having kids. Some years later, "baby need" hit me again, and we took ONE chance (I "thought" I was in my "safe time" and... there she was...) and I got pregnant with her.

I found I had more patience being a little older, but less stamina and energy. My husband had a LOT more patience with the 3rd one when she was a baby (he didn't understand babies and why they cry so much when our first one was born. He had never been around a baby before. He learned quickly) but being in his 50s with a preteen (soon to be a teen) is grating on him some, he doesn't have the patience I have.... but he isn't the Mama.

But, it is interesting to see how it works out anyway. I think wanting a child or children is more important than when you have them, as long as you want them for the right reasons. Having a baby so "someone will always love you" isn't going to work (especially when they turn 3 and then 10 or 12) having children because you feel you have something to offer by adding your stock to the population and know you will be a good parent and most likely turn out good kids is a good reason to have kids... within reason.
04/12/2012
corsetsaurus rex corsetsaurus rex
I think wanting the kid for the right reasons (as P'gell pointed out) and financial stability are more important factors than age.

If you have the income and stationary life to raise a kid at 18 and you're absolutely positive that's what you want, more power to you, go for it.

On the other hand I know my mate and I are barely able to support ourselves, let alone kids, we end up moving often depending on jobs/leases/room mates, and I am still in college. On top of that I'm not sure I really want kids at all, so we will have to wait and see if and when I am emotionally ready. In short, even though D. and I are significantly older than 18, we would be far less suitable for babies than the hypothetical kiddie above, or even many other people our own age.
04/12/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by <3BF
Do you think there is a 'best' age for a first pregnancy? If not, what circumstances are important to you and/or your significant other?
Whenever you are ready to be pregnant.
04/12/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
26-29 years old is probably good for most people. But everyone matures at different ages.
04/12/2012
dragonn dragonn
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Originally posted by JG24FanUK
I think that a good age is between 26-29 yrs old. By then you should be financially stable with a job and have matured to understand the outside world and how to tend for a family. You may have those things earlier in life, so maybe you can have a ...
Agree with this here. Financial stability and just stability in general is what I aim for before I feel ready to raise a family.
04/13/2012
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