is this love?

pixxie87 pixxie87
only couple weeks in a new relationship, my partner is already saying that he loves me. i feel its too soon. after first starting with someone, how long did u feel "love" for them?
11/25/2011
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Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by pixxie87
only couple weeks in a new relationship, my partner is already saying that he loves me. i feel its too soon. after first starting with someone, how long did u feel "love" for them?
I have an odd relationship so this may not be the best to go off of, but we met online, and texted for a week before I drove 2 hours to see him in person. The day I met him, we started dating, and if I weren't afraid to chase him off I'd have said "I love you" that night! I did say it the following weekend, though, and he admitted he loved me too.

Over a year later we talked about that day, and wished we'd been more open with each other about those feelings when we first had them! 2 months after we'd begun dating he moved into my home, which people kept thinking was too soon, but for us, not soon enough!
11/25/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
Welcome to infatuation.
11/25/2011
indiglo indiglo
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Originally posted by Elnoa
Welcome to infatuation.
Yeah, pretty much this. ^^
11/25/2011
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
I believe there is truth in the phrase “Love at first sight”. Moreover, as the days, weeks, and maybe even months pass by, your heart grows fonder for the new relationship you have made. Let your heart speak to you; I believe you know when it is right. As a traditionalist myself, it took me 3 years of long distance romance before I got married; what can I say. It seems to me that today's generation moves too fast; maybe that's cause for the high rate of divorce. Just take it slow; isn’t SLOW better anyway? I did love the sex though before marrage!
11/25/2011
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Elnoa
Welcome to infatuation.
HA!

That honeymoon phase is great while it lasts.

I'd be nervous if someone said it the first day, but it all depends on the situation really.
11/25/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Elnoa
Welcome to infatuation.
That!
11/26/2011
indiglo indiglo
Not that there's anything wrong with infatuation, just as long as you know what it is.
11/26/2011
voenne voenne
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Originally posted by indiglo
Not that there's anything wrong with infatuation, just as long as you know what it is.
Yeah...

The longest relationship I've been in was a couple of years, so I am now aware of the switch from infatuation to love. When you are at the point where you've more or less been living with them, have had arguments/driven eachother crazy, know all their shortcomings and quirks, but still feel the warm fuzzies around them and deeply care, then that's sort of when the switch is noticeable. But takes a lot longer than a couple weeks, even several months.
11/26/2011
TheCleansing TheCleansing
Probably too soon. But you'll know when you know.
11/26/2011
pixxie87 pixxie87
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Originally posted by Peggi
I have an odd relationship so this may not be the best to go off of, but we met online, and texted for a week before I drove 2 hours to see him in person. The day I met him, we started dating, and if I weren't afraid to chase him off I'd ... More
awwww, thats such a cute story. "online dating" might not work for some, but for others its meant to be
11/26/2011
kendra30752 kendra30752
IMO you can't truly love (I mean real love) someone until you know every part of them, not just the fun good parts, I mean everything! The sick person, the angry person, the jealous, sad and lonely person. Everything! Then you'll be able to determine whether or not you can even love the person. That's not to say that he isn't FALLING in love with you and it very well could turn into real love and a life long relationship. He may be certain that you're the one, but it takes time. The most important part right now is getting to know each other in every way and take things slow. It could work out!
11/26/2011
Envy Envy
Love is a strong word. might be infatuation or obsession, but not love. Love, like trust, is earned, not given, at least in my opinion.
11/26/2011
Alura Une Alura Une
I've been wondering what love really is--more than a decade into a happy relationship. It's hard to understand. I think it basically means "strong attachment and affection", but, there are many kinds of love. Though I don't know you and the details of things, I think you could still very much in the beginning phase of love, and, like Goth says, the infatuation period? Or, at least your partner is. I would personally be hesitant to drop the "love" word a few weeks or even a few months into something. I might say, "I think I'm falling in love with you." That might give a little less discomfort somehow if the other person hasn't quite caught up. Everyone is different. I think too many people rush things. I don't know if you should tell your partner to slow down, though, unless you feel your partner is frustrated with where you are.
11/26/2011
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
Can I be honest? I knew the first time I met my husband. Just knew this was what people talked about. That real honest puppy love didn't hit until 3 weeks into the relationship, I thought for sure it was much too soon but that same feeling lasted a few years.. and then we got into a rough patch and the type of love changed- it thinned out a bit, it wasn't that full blown honeymoon love... and other emotions crept in and diluted it down.. and now as we've survived multiple deployments it's deepened. Matured, come to a completely whole new level. The type of love where you sacrifice anything to ensure your spouse is happy and satisfied. He sacrifices everything to provide for our family and I sacrifice him to do the same.

There are so many degrees of love but once you reach new levels you start to fully understand the complexity of it.
11/27/2011
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