Ladies, what would be your reaction if you started dating a guy you really liked and had a future with if he told you he had experimented with guys a little after college?

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Ladies, what would be your reaction if you started dating a guy you really liked and had a future with if he told you he had experimented with guys a little after college?

Trillian Trillian
Just curious about what women think about this topic as it might effect them personally
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Turned-on
52
Turned-off
27
It was in the past, no big deal
90
Total votes: 169 (149 voters)
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06/14/2011
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MN58 MN58
Well I think I would be upset at first because if I could see a future between us I would have expected to know that before. I would get over it if he really just did it for fun and meant no seriousness in it. Although it would bother me from time to time just thinking about it.
06/14/2011
daniel and frances daniel and frances
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Originally posted by Trillian
Just curious about what women think about this topic as it might effect them personally
Doesn't bother me.
06/14/2011
clp clp
What difference does that make? I'd assume it is just as flippant as when girls 'experiment' with other girls. Previous experience has nothing to do with present decisions.
06/14/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Trillian
Just curious about what women think about this topic as it might effect them personally
Ummmm the 'college girlfriend experience' is almost a given for women so why would it be horrible for a guy to do the same thing? I want a guy who is secure enough to know what he wants...and adventurous enough to try things. SO long as he loves me and wants to be with me whatever happened in college is a great story but irrelevant if his health is clean.
06/14/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I'd be a little turned off by it. Nothing is really wrong with it per say, it's just not something that I'm attracted to.
06/14/2011
alliegator alliegator
I'd be turned on, as long as he didn't view it as a terrible experience which squicked him.
06/14/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I'd be turned off by it, but the past is the past.
06/14/2011
tesseract tesseract
Experimentation and curiosity are a healthy part of growing up. I may be curious about his experiences though.
06/15/2011
CajunErin CajunErin
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Originally posted by Trillian
Just curious about what women think about this topic as it might effect them personally
I think that would indicate an open-minded man who would not be offended should I want to try a little something taboo. Also, I am huge on honesty and it takes a lot for a man to admit something like that. Lastly, me being a hedonist and completely non judgmental, his willingness to go outside the box would appeal to me.
06/15/2011
Linga Linga
I would be turned on and who cares really. Unless he wanted to cheat on me with guys now then i couldn't care less
06/15/2011
ss143 ss143
As long as he was honest about it and his health was clean I don't see it bothering me. Its excepted that girls would experiment as Airen wolf said so why should it be less accepted for the guys who have done the same.
06/15/2011
iveversxe iveversxe
I'd be okay with it. There's no reason to be threatened since he would be currently dating me. However, I would ask him if he wants an open relationship or if he wants to have threesomes or enjoys pegging to make sure he's fully satisfied (since I'm lacking in the dick department). Not a big deal at all.
06/15/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Doesn't matter to me. Mulder admitted to me (after we began our relationship) that he'd done it in high school and I felt completely neutral about the whole thing. "Yeah ... and ... ?" He was surprised that I had no opinion on it. He said his estranged wife NEVER let him forget and hung it over him after they separated (in fact, she accused whomever he was with [me] of being a dude) (I was more offended of being accused of being a guy than what he did in his past).

It really just does not matter to me.
06/15/2011
Liz2 Liz2
Not a big deal as long as he is interested in me. I have been with women but I know I will always need a man in my life.
06/15/2011
NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
I would be really curious but slightly put off. What did he do, why etc. It would not change our relationship dynamic but it would be a little strange to process at first.
06/15/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by clp
What difference does that make? I'd assume it is just as flippant as when girls 'experiment' with other girls. Previous experience has nothing to do with present decisions.
It is this way exactly that I see it too.

I had experiences with girls and my guy never was upset, why would I get upset for things he did in the past that have nothing to do with today.
06/15/2011
Ansley Ansley
I'd be turned on as hell and ask him if he'd be willing to do it again so I can watch!
06/15/2011
jjdd jjdd
If he is honest about it, I won't be upset. Before getting really serious, I would want to know if it was something that would remain in the past or that he wanted to do again. I'm not into sharing my partner with anybody so I don't think I could get serious with someone who wanted to have sex outside of our relationship.
06/17/2011
Pixel Pixel
My Master is pansexual, and as we have an open relationship, I wouldn't be upset. Hell, if he finds a male lover, I would be happy for him. (and also ask if I could watch. )
06/17/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
Turned on. Hugely! In fact, this is my dream
06/18/2011
bunny love bunny love
I'd be fine with it. I'm bisexual, so it would be pretty damn hypocritical for me to look down on a partner for having a same sex relationship.
06/20/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
im a bit bi and it would totally turn me on to know my boy was this open. could open up our sex life to incorporate anal-stimulating toys and bring us closer together through anal. also through sharing info about our past.


*tell her!

06/23/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
it would be a bit of a turn off for me
06/29/2011
tickle me pink tickle me pink
That would be a huge turn on for me!
07/04/2011
Destri Destri
My husband experimented with guys in the past. The past is the past. Only thing that matters is today.
07/05/2011
Owl Identified Owl Identified
My current partner has in the past and continues to have sex with men (we have an open relationship) and I don't care either way, really. Doesn't turn me on or off, per se.
07/05/2011
lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
I wouldn't mind since it happened in the past.
07/05/2011
zeebot zeebot
Guy on guy is hot That's a surprise I'd like.
07/05/2011
Beck Beck
should not be a big deal i do not think id be with a man how has though. if you are a blood donor that is a question they ask women have you ever been with a man who has been with another man and if u answer yes and u should answer truthfully then u can not donate! if u r a man they just ask if u had sex with another man. i have experimented with women i like it very much but with 2 women it is just touching and licking with 2men its way more than that and i dont think i would like that idea!
07/05/2011
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Unique posters: 67