Living Will - This was a surprise!

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Living Will - This was a surprise!

Hummingbird Hummingbird
Years ago (at least a decade) my husband and I tossed this subject around asking each what we preferred. Today I see him with a manilla folder in his hand and ask him what it is and was floored he said it was a living will, already with one witness signature.

I was both shocked and floored after not discussing it for years. Logically I know its a good idea to have this written in case of emergency but to have it sprung out of the blue like that? How would you react?

Just a little background, my husband is 8 years older than I and I'm turning 60 this year, he told me it was under doctor recommendation because of his age which only stilled me to silence deep inside. Okay, he is taking high blood pressure medication... but still... to do this now?
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eri86 eri86
My father has one. I'm third on the list. It's a sobering thing, but a necessary one, even with my father being in very good health.
05/11/2013
js250 js250
I have had my living will, Last Will & Testament, funeral paid and planned for many years now--since I had cancer. I update my will every year or two and add codicils when something important is purchased or sold. I believe in being prepared, leaving your family with the least amount of work and knowing it is all taken care of financially is a great burden lifted!
05/11/2013
talon4196 talon4196
We have something small. She doesn't want a religious service but hasn't told her family. She wants to get it done officially. Then I won't be seen as the evil one.
05/11/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
My mother had me type up her living will (at least I got one use out of my legal administration degree) because she firmly believes in not prolonging her life anymore than necessary. I've been hearing it from her for years to not put her on life support when she can no longer take care of herself or when she's a vegetable, so we had to get it done. I understand and will follow her wishes (since I'll be legal executrix, being her eldest child and she isn't married), but we just needed the paperwork done so I won't be under suspicion of the courts for pulling the plug on my little frail mother.

(Though I doubt I will be ... the only things I'll inherit are her debts.)

C and I haven't discussed it yet (we're both in our mid-30's). However, I'll likely get the discussion going when we get the legal matters of the marriage worked on.
05/12/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
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Originally posted by Hummingbird
Years ago (at least a decade) my husband and I tossed this subject around asking each what we preferred. Today I see him with a manilla folder in his hand and ask him what it is and was floored he said it was a living will, already with one witness ...
Thank you all, yes it is a sobering and realistic part of our lives. I was just surprised that all of a sudden he already had the paperwork without my knowledge and one witness signature. Our Last Will and Testament is next, most likely just a simple will I'm guessing though we still need to discuss it as well and reserver cemetery plots.
05/12/2013
spiced spiced
I think it's a good idea, at any age.

Things do happen and it can get unnecessarily messy and/or stressful if there's no clear guidance. Hell, it still gets messy and stressful, regardless — but having the guidance does help a little.
05/13/2013
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
We need to do this and we are 25, 30, & 30. (polyamorous) Our situation means that wills, living wills, etc are the only way we get to have a say when we can't all marry each other.
05/13/2013
QueenBitch QueenBitch
They are important at any age. If you want something and it's not in writing...it might not happen.
05/13/2013
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I'm only 25 and I would do it. I need more information, though. Do I need a lawyer, or can I just type it up and put it someplace safe?
05/13/2013
Kodie Kodie
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
My mother had me type up her living will (at least I got one use out of my legal administration degree) because she firmly believes in not prolonging her life anymore than necessary. I've been hearing it from her for years to not put her on life ...
I work in healthcare and this is super important.
06/23/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
Out of the blue was not the best way to bring it up but it is a good idea for everyone to have even if you are younger.
07/15/2013
MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
I'm only 25 and I would do it. I need more information, though. Do I need a lawyer, or can I just type it up and put it someplace safe?
I'm not a lawyer, though could easily seek advice of one... probably should on this topic, but my understanding is as long as you have written something up, signed it in the presence of witnesses and had them sign it too... it should be honored upon your death.

If your estate/holdings/etc are substantial then you should really seek a lawyer to help you plan your estate as it might also necessitate different things depending on a number of factors. I know my grandfather was an estate planning lawyer and began distributing his estate in the form of the maximum non-taxable gift annually to reduce the potential tax burden from an inheritance tax in the advent of his death. He's thankfully still alive; however, not doing as good as he once was.

Going to double check if a lawyer is needed, but worst case think this is something you could do on like LegalZoom for a small fee if needed.
May 29, 9:34 pm
MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by MrClark
I'm not a lawyer, though could easily seek advice of one... probably should on this topic, but my understanding is as long as you have written something up, signed it in the presence of witnesses and had them sign it too... it should be honored ...
Followed up with a cousin who is a lawyer, seems to differ state to state, best to find out if you require a lawyer where you live. But to make sure everything is legal/is followed best to get a lawyer involved... should be reasonably inexpensive/quick to accomplish for a simple will.
May 30, 11:08 am
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Hummingbird
Years ago (at least a decade) my husband and I tossed this subject around asking each what we preferred. Today I see him with a manilla folder in his hand and ask him what it is and was floored he said it was a living will, already with one witness ...
I'd actually like to take care of mine. I've been looking at working on it for over a year now, I just haven't had the time or energy to put into it.
Jun 1, 2:48 pm
MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by Lvstoplay
I'd actually like to take care of mine. I've been looking at working on it for over a year now, I just haven't had the time or energy to put into it.
You should see what the requirements are for your state. I know for California they have a reasonably straight forward Will Form you can fill out with two witnesses. But seems it is more involved potentially in other states.
Jun 1, 5:20 pm
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by MrClark
You should see what the requirements are for your state. I know for California they have a reasonably straight forward Will Form you can fill out with two witnesses. But seems it is more involved potentially in other states. ...
Thanks!
Jun 6, 3:57 am
MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by Lvstoplay
Thanks!
You're welcome!
Jun 11, 1:43 pm
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