Long distance relationships. Do they work?

Contributor: EdenG EdenG
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Originally posted by Princess-Kayla ♥
It worked for me, and a few other people.
But it doesn't work for everyone. It just depends on who the people are.
I voted yes though, because they CAN work.
Yes I agree. My partner and I now live together, but we started out long distance, so it can work! For us it worked because we knew the long distance part of the relationship was just a temporary chapter. Now that we are together, I am grateful we both invested so much to make it work.
12/07/2012
Contributor: amazon amazon
Entirely dependent upon the two people, and other factors
12/07/2012
Contributor: Aishiteru Aishiteru
It depends on the people involved.
12/07/2012
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
This depends on so many factors. It depends on the individuals involved, the compatibility, how far is the distance, how often they can see each other..

For me, I really need to see, touch, and feel. So unless we're gonna be open or see each other no less than 2 times a month, it doesn't really work well for me.
12/07/2012
Contributor: Rraine Rraine
My fiance and I met 8 years ago online; We were in a long distance relationship for a while. Now we are living together and we are as happy as the first day that we met.
12/07/2012
Contributor: kdlt kdlt
If you have similar goals, plan to move to real-time within a reasonable amount of time, or can see each other on a schedule, I definitely think they work and are strong relationships!
12/07/2012
Contributor: Suzie Cue Suzie Cue
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Originally posted by authorzero
I'm in one right now. It's been kind of a messed up situation, but I care about her and want to make it work.

Obviously it depends greatly on the situation. Just curious how others feel.
Personally, for me, long distances do not work at all, never have and I've almost given up on it. However a close friend of mine, met a man over Xbox live, they dated long distance for almost a year, when finally they met in person, then continued long distance, and now they're living together, and it seems to be going well for them, so I can't say it doesn't work at all, just depends on the people, and the circumstances.
12/07/2012
Contributor: EverlastingPandora EverlastingPandora
I have been in a number of long distance relationships. It is all about the people involved. My longest was four years. I think that you have to be dedicated.
12/07/2012
Contributor: nikki0668 nikki0668
I have never had one work yet.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Geography Geography
I think it depends on the situation. They aren't going to work if you plan on doing long distance forever. You have to be working towards an end to the long distance. Mine has worked because we know it will be ending and we know exactly when it will be back to regular distance.
12/16/2012
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by authorzero
I'm in one right now. It's been kind of a messed up situation, but I care about her and want to make it work.

Obviously it depends greatly on the situation. Just curious how others feel.
Depends on the people in the relationship.
12/16/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
It depends. we've done it and lived to tell the tale, so it's definitely possible.
12/16/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
It depends. we've done it and lived to tell the tale, so it's definitely possible.
12/16/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
It depends. we've done it and lived to tell the tale, so it's definitely possible.
12/16/2012
Contributor: Pandwhora Pandwhora
Depends on the individuals in situation. What might work for one couple may not work for other couples.
12/16/2012
Contributor: TrenchcoatHunters TrenchcoatHunters
Quote:
Originally posted by authorzero
I'm in one right now. It's been kind of a messed up situation, but I care about her and want to make it work.

Obviously it depends greatly on the situation. Just curious how others feel.
No they dont
12/17/2012
Contributor: Trixxxy Trixxxy
Boyfriend lives over 2,000 miles away and we have been doing long distance for over a year. No big deal, really. But then again, I'm a student and he doesn;t have a job so he can see me every other month
01/01/2013
Contributor: falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by authorzero
I'm in one right now. It's been kind of a messed up situation, but I care about her and want to make it work.

Obviously it depends greatly on the situation. Just curious how others feel.
for us, it almost didnt work. but i was really busy with school and work while he wanted to talk on the phone all the time. it just depends on each person in the relationship.
01/01/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
ours did. 2 years at 800 miles away, now together...and still strong.
01/01/2013
Contributor: noway noway
Realistically very difficult.
01/01/2013
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
It can
01/01/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I would say usually not. But obviously it depends on the people. I was in a LDR for years but it didn't work for us because we were young (in college) so we both changed and wanted different things. I think that is pretty common.

They do work for some people though.
02/25/2013
Contributor: Cat E. Cat E.
Yes, they can work.
02/25/2013
Contributor: Qozt Qozt
Like most people said, it really does depend on the people involved. I'm in an LDR and while it is tough sometimes, it works. We aren't able to see each other as often as we'd like (he's in NY, I'm in MN) but we're able to see each other every two or three months, usually for about 10 days at a time, and that's enough for us. We'll be able to see each other more during the summer so we're looking forward to that.

And thank god for skype! I don't think I could survive an LDR without it.
02/28/2013
Contributor: bootyscoops bootyscoops
I feel Qozt. I'm in a LDR where he's in MN and I'm in CA and it's not easy sometimes. We get to see each other at least once a month usually (we're really lucky in this regard) and we skype constantly. But we both really want to make it work and really need each other emotionally, so we're just feeling it out for now.
03/05/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I have seen a lot of long distance couples never work out..except for one but they broke up a couple months of living with each other after the long distance.
03/05/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
Worked for my boyfriend and me. It really depends on the people.
03/15/2013
Contributor: Haito Haito
Absolutely they can! It takes a lot of trust and a lot of compensating time together with as close as you can get to time 'together'. Skype, instant messaging and phone time are so key. Jumping on any opportunity you have to spend together shows that you're still invested while also allowing your partner to have a life outside your relationship just as you would if you lived next door to eachother or even with one another. Honesty is key and you're not afforded the luxury of parting on bad terms. Regardless of how bad a fight can be and how frustrating it can be that you're not standing face to face, you have to end discussions as amiable as possible. I ALWAYS end every discussion I have with my fiance with telling her how important she is to me and how much I love her, even if we're cut off, she still gets a text telling her afterward.
03/18/2013
Contributor: jessi2 jessi2
I would not post unless I had personal experience. It was a long distance lesbian relationship and it was very difficult. My gf lived over 2.5 hours away and I was the only one with a car at the time. I was constantly driving up to visit her in her dorm when ever I had the chance. I dedicated a lot of time to talking on skype and testing her when she needed me to. I sent flowers and gifts as I felt she needed things.

Unfortunately, it was a very one sided relationship and I felt like a doormat. I am glad that I caught on before I went totally broke!
04/15/2013
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
It's highly dependent on the people involved, I think. I've never had one work for me, because I ALWAYS find them far too painful and sad for me to be able to enjoy it, and I'm much too physical to be apart from my partner for long stretches of time But I know there are people for whom it works out well! So it's all a matter of individuals.
04/16/2013