It can definitely work with mutual trust, understanding and effort. Distance, plus lack of communication can create insecurity, jealousy and all sorts, but if both parties are mature enough to understand that they need to go above and beyond in making amends/treating the other person with respect, making them happy (as well as themselves), things may work out just fine. Communication is key, and really depends how committed you each are
Long term and long distance, can it work?
01/27/2011
Yea it can work. J and I were long distance for the first five years of our relationship. It was hard but we made it work with lots of love, patience, and communication.
01/27/2011
I think if you are determined enough.
01/28/2011
I'm rooting for ya!
01/28/2011
Everyone, this is great inspiring feedback. I'm looking into moving 5 states away to finish school and it's nice to hear success stories like these. But how long were you together before you became long distance? Does it make a difference? Were you young?
01/29/2011
I think yes it can work, but I agree that it's a pretty slim chance that it will work in the long term unless you have plans to live locally eventually. After being away from someone for a year, two years, that person is not even the same individual anymore. So many things happen in a year or two that if you're not alongside that person, growing week to week with them? You grow apart. Or realize the person you love doesn't really exist.
01/29/2011
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My boyfriend and I were together a little less than a year before we went long distance.
Originally posted by
teeny <3
Everyone, this is great inspiring feedback. I'm looking into moving 5 states away to finish school and it's nice to hear success stories like these. But how long were you together before you became long distance? Does it make a difference?
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Everyone, this is great inspiring feedback. I'm looking into moving 5 states away to finish school and it's nice to hear success stories like these. But how long were you together before you became long distance? Does it make a difference? Were you young?
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I'm 23 now and we've been together for over three years.
01/29/2011
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Thank you!
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Illusional
I'm rooting for ya!
01/29/2011
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I just turned 37, though my girlfriend is somewhat younger. We do have plans to live together eventually, they just aren't firm plans.
Originally posted by
teeny <3
Everyone, this is great inspiring feedback. I'm looking into moving 5 states away to finish school and it's nice to hear success stories like these. But how long were you together before you became long distance? Does it make a difference?
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Everyone, this is great inspiring feedback. I'm looking into moving 5 states away to finish school and it's nice to hear success stories like these. But how long were you together before you became long distance? Does it make a difference? Were you young?
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She's caring for her elderly grandmother, and I'm finishing school.
The success stories give me hope!
01/29/2011
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I think this can happen even with someone you see every day. I don't think it sucks less, either way.
Originally posted by
Owl Identified
I think yes it can work, but I agree that it's a pretty slim chance that it will work in the long term unless you have plans to live locally eventually. After being away from someone for a year, two years, that person is not even the same
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I think yes it can work, but I agree that it's a pretty slim chance that it will work in the long term unless you have plans to live locally eventually. After being away from someone for a year, two years, that person is not even the same individual anymore. So many things happen in a year or two that if you're not alongside that person, growing week to week with them? You grow apart. Or realize the person you love doesn't really exist.
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01/29/2011
Trust is key, and you have to know what you are getting into! It worked for me for quite sometime!
02/02/2011
im living proof - we're in college, have been dating for 3 years, and she just proposed
02/04/2011
I'm a transgendered male.
My gf is straight but accepts it.
I am going to see her for the first time after 7 months of dating next month.
I even ordered a goodfella and some other equipment that i didnt have before for us.
Its gona be a intresting turnout.
Well actualy.. im kinda going out there to see if she can handle me being transgendered... But i mean its like dating a cis guy.. just that diffrence we know what womens cramps feel like
My gf is straight but accepts it.
I am going to see her for the first time after 7 months of dating next month.
I even ordered a goodfella and some other equipment that i didnt have before for us.
Its gona be a intresting turnout.
Well actualy.. im kinda going out there to see if she can handle me being transgendered... But i mean its like dating a cis guy.. just that diffrence we know what womens cramps feel like
02/05/2011
I met my fiance over the internet, we were over 900 miles away from one another, and we were both still young so there wasn't much we could do about it. But we are happily living together now and about to celebrate our 3rd year anniversary as lovers.
02/09/2011
There is a quote that says "Distance is a test to see how far love can travel" I truly believe this. I also believe, if it is a true, mutual love, firmly based on trust, distance means nothing...(except maybe lonely genitals ) Love goes way beyond physical intimacy and if the couple cannot properly maintain the relationship in a circumstance as depth-less (personal opinion) as physical separation, the participants in the relationship likely could not endure the more difficult circumstances that often plague relationships.
02/09/2011
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Exactly what I think and feel!
Originally posted by
BeautiFullFigured
There is a quote that says "Distance is a test to see how far love can travel" I truly believe this. I also believe, if it is a true, mutual love, firmly based on trust, distance means nothing...(except maybe lonely genitals ) Love goes way
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There is a quote that says "Distance is a test to see how far love can travel" I truly believe this. I also believe, if it is a true, mutual love, firmly based on trust, distance means nothing...(except maybe lonely genitals ) Love goes way beyond physical intimacy and if the couple cannot properly maintain the relationship in a circumstance as depth-less (personal opinion) as physical separation, the participants in the relationship likely could not endure the more difficult circumstances that often plague relationships.
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02/09/2011
For me - I couldn't do the long distance thing for too long. I need the regular in-person stuff!
The rest of the time I'd feel like I was just single with some online and txt fun. I require more than that if I'm suppose to be in a relationship with someone.
Fortunately we are all different.
The rest of the time I'd feel like I was just single with some online and txt fun. I require more than that if I'm suppose to be in a relationship with someone.
Fortunately we are all different.
02/10/2011
Relationships don't work on their own, the people make it work. So I am sure if the 2 ppl involved wanted to make it work, then yes it could work. But I think it's based individually. Like Shellz said, we are all different.
Myself, personally, I don't think it would for me. But I can't say it wouldn't work for someone else.
Myself, personally, I don't think it would for me. But I can't say it wouldn't work for someone else.
02/10/2011
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It takes a heck of a lot of love, patience and understanding for it to work.
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inbarati
If you're in a long term relationship, and you come to a point where there's a state line or two (or four) between you, can it still work out?
02/10/2011
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My boyfriend is in Arizona and I'm in New York... it's been like that for a few years now and we're still going strong!!! Thankfully the distance is almost over but it can work, just takes effort from both sides and lots of patience!! Waiting is definitely worth it though.
Originally posted by
inbarati
If you're in a long term relationship, and you come to a point where there's a state line or two (or four) between you, can it still work out?
02/13/2011
Sure it can work, as long as both parties are truly invested. My SO and I are currently living apart, but it's only an hour drive so we see each other almost every weekend. Still, it is really hard. I can't imagine being any further away as this is hard enough, but if you both think it's worth it you will make it work.
02/13/2011
i can work. if both parties have complete trust in one another and love each and want to make the relationship work then anything is possible.
02/23/2011
I hope you all are right in your optimism. I just got an acceptance letter yesterday from a school 929 miles away (according to google maps) offering full scholarship for 3 years. The boyfriend and I are having so many emotions right now. It's hard to celebrate the achievement when we know the hardship that's going to come with it.
02/23/2011
It all depends on the people involved and the level of trust and honesty they have in their relationship.
03/25/2011
Partner and I have been 6 hours apart for 9 months now, still going strong. In fact I think it has improved our communication. We skype every evening and text randomly throughout the day.
03/25/2011
My boyfriend and I will have been together 2 years in July.
We met while taking a summer class together. We weren't sure if it would work out, but we get along so well that we decided to give it a chance. We trust each other a lot, and make a point to be understanding when one person isn't available. It takes a lot of trust.
He's currently at a school that's about 6 to 8 hours away from me depending on traffic.
We met while taking a summer class together. We weren't sure if it would work out, but we get along so well that we decided to give it a chance. We trust each other a lot, and make a point to be understanding when one person isn't available. It takes a lot of trust.
He's currently at a school that's about 6 to 8 hours away from me depending on traffic.
03/25/2011
My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years, 1 year has been long distance. We met while I was studying abroad. Our biggest issue, other than the distance, is the 6 hour time difference. We have to do a lot of planning just to skype. We only get to see each other every 6 months or so because transatlantic flights aren't exactly cheap.
You definitely have to have a lot of trust or it is just not going to work. It gets very lonely sometimes, but it is worth the effort.
You definitely have to have a lot of trust or it is just not going to work. It gets very lonely sometimes, but it is worth the effort.
03/26/2011
Absolutely! When my husband and I were first dating we spent the first year of our relationship three states apart. Not that it wasn't extremely hard, but I honestly think it was better that it started long distance. We really got to know each other so we were able to get a deep emotional connection before we did anything physical, which isn't necessarily important to some people but it was very important to the two of us.
03/26/2011
My husband and I dated over three years being more than 1,000 miles apart. We even were apart after the wedding. Now we're together and I really couldn't be happier. I'm completely positive that we're meant for each other.
03/27/2011
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Totally agree 100%. Very well said. Captured my thoughts exactly!
Originally posted by
PussyGalore
Absolutely, if both people are willing to make it work and they do things to keep the connection tight. Webcam chats, little emails, notes, pictures, etc are great ways to say hey I'm thinking of you even if we can't be together right
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Absolutely, if both people are willing to make it work and they do things to keep the connection tight. Webcam chats, little emails, notes, pictures, etc are great ways to say hey I'm thinking of you even if we can't be together right now.
The hardest part about a LDR-LTR is what happens when you finally come together under the same roof. Real life is drastically different than an email or a webchat. With the aforementioned forms of communication, one has time to cull the proper words instead of just reacting to a situation or statement the other has made in real time. less
The hardest part about a LDR-LTR is what happens when you finally come together under the same roof. Real life is drastically different than an email or a webchat. With the aforementioned forms of communication, one has time to cull the proper words instead of just reacting to a situation or statement the other has made in real time. less
03/28/2011