long term relationship, love life dwindling?

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long term relationship, love life dwindling?

kcordie kcordie
my boyfriend and i are almost at the 2 year mark for our relationship. at the beginning we couldnt keep our hands off eachother, and now we're lucky to have sex once or twice a week. I find my sex drive dwindling and im not happy about it. what are some tips to spice it up?
08/25/2010
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Envy Envy
Try new positions, new locations, new toys, etc. Talk more. Share your deepest fantasies. Role play, etc. The possibilities are endless. You just need to communicate.

Also, if your drive is dwindling, try to find out why, and then go from there.
08/25/2010
Blinker Blinker
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Originally posted by Envy
Try new positions, new locations, new toys, etc. Talk more. Share your deepest fantasies. Role play, etc. The possibilities are endless. You just need to communicate.

Also, if your drive is dwindling, try to find out why, and then go from there.
Yep. Goth pretty much says it all. Relationships go through that. There's the "honeymoon" phase then you kind of become part of each other's integral existence and co-habitiate and sex slides off the schedule. You have to work at it.
08/25/2010
Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by kcordie
my boyfriend and i are almost at the 2 year mark for our relationship. at the beginning we couldnt keep our hands off eachother, and now we're lucky to have sex once or twice a week. I find my sex drive dwindling and im not happy about it. what ...
Yep, that happens. I agree with trying new things..positions, toys, fantasies, etc. You know I actually find that now after being with my husband for 9 years it seems that every 2-3 years we go through a slight slump. We get used to things and things seem "same old, same old" for a few months, and then we discover something new and it refreshes our sex life. So, don't worry it's natural and it doesn't need to be permanent. You can easily get the spice back. Lately what we've found works is erotic massages and more sensual talking with each other.
08/25/2010
Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
Every relationship goes through its "boring" moments. My husband and I have been together for ten years now, and we definitely have those moments. Spice things up, try new toys, positions, locations. Pick a week where neither of you will be busy and try abstaining from sex, while at the same time going out on dates and to the movies. Allow yourselves to kiss and make out, but not go any farther... you'd be surprised at how well this works at driving both of you wild!
08/26/2010
Phoenix713 Phoenix713
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
Try new positions, new locations, new toys, etc. Talk more. Share your deepest fantasies. Role play, etc. The possibilities are endless. You just need to communicate.

Also, if your drive is dwindling, try to find out why, and then go from there.
Goth really knows what she's talking about! Definitely listen to her.
11/06/2010
minny minny
try different things, go about what you do differently, and don't be afraid to change... its normal to not like things you once did in your past. spice up things in the bed room
11/08/2010
Harlequin Harlequin
thats nothing! to me thats ALOT
12/11/2010
nerdgirl nerdgirl
I've been going through something similar with my boyfriend right now, and I've been spicing things up with some new toys and just generally coming onto him stronger... And it's definitely been working. Most of the slump is my fault, though, because I've been stressed and not in the mood as often. I mostly am just needing to give the kickstart to myself, since he's almost always ready and willing.
12/19/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
All relationships go though slow patches. Try new things, take a getaway weekend, etc.
12/20/2010
Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
Quote:
Originally posted by kcordie
my boyfriend and i are almost at the 2 year mark for our relationship. at the beginning we couldnt keep our hands off eachother, and now we're lucky to have sex once or twice a week. I find my sex drive dwindling and im not happy about it. what ...
I'm a guy, and even I go through this sometimes. To the point I just want to cry, no shit. One of my fears is ending up like my parents, where we are to the point that we don't even talk to eachother anymore. I first started freaking out when I noticed that we were not kissing during sex anymore. It took me a few months to even notice. Then sex became routine. Just the same four positions and blamo! It had no feeling, no passion, nothing. So i got sick of it and threw a vibrator into the mix. It was slow at first but once we started talking more about it and played with a few of them until we finnaly found one we loved sex became an all out romper room of passion. My point is, if you truly love each other, the passion is still there, you just have to light the fire, anyway you can!
12/29/2011
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