Long term relationships and your sex drive...a question?

It's definitely had changes over the almost 7 years we've been together because we've had changes. There are stressful times and different things that cause our sex drives to vary. At one point, it was horrible because I was severely ill for a few years (very long time to be ill. I thought I was dying. Really!) and it was hard because even sex was tough when I was that sick, but we'd still do it. It always ended with me being worse sick though.

For the most part though, it's stayed pretty high for the both of us besides when we're going through something really crazy and don't have time or energy. We did have sex multiple times a day when we first got together, but we were teens then & I didn't work or go to school at that time, we didn't have children on our hands, so we had plenty of time for it. That has definitely changed. It's rare if we do it more than once a day, but I usually can't handle it anymore because I get terribly sore, swollen and have quite a bit of pain from just a really rough session Bummer, but worth it! I would definitely still consider our sex drive to be high though. We hardly ever do it less than twice a week and are always playing with each other, so I am happy that we've kept a steady sex drive & I hope like hell it doesn't change. I know it won't for me, but he did just have a birthday on the 15th & everybody says men lose a lot of their sex drive after 25 & this scares the daylights outta me!

It has changed a lot over the ten years we've been together. Since then we've been married and had our daughter who is now two. A baby sure changes your sex life! Not how you would think though. Our sex life is better now than it was before. We are more in tune with each other.

Ours has varied over the years to the extreme and I can target it almost to the day we married. Loving was a whole lot more fun back then before the vows were taken. Through our time together (25+ years) we were often want to/don't want to and visa versa meeting only occasionally I between. It seems though we're finally of the same mind on this now both wanting to and I thank EF and the community for it.

It has had its ups and downs. When we first got together to about the two year mark we could not stay out of bed. Then we had some issues that changed my feelings and it slacked off a bit. About 8-9 years ago the kids became teens and we found our drive again...and now it is worse than when we were first together...in a good way!! We have high drives and our sex life has become a priority...

Mine hasn't much changed yet.

When we were first together we had sex almost everyday, sometimes more than once a day. For about two years we didn't see each other for weeks and months at a time though, so when we were together we had to make up for lost time. Now, over ten years later, we live together and have routine lives. We have sex several times a week on average and it is of a much higher quality than in our early years together. We know what each other likes and have built trust to try new things.