Long Term Relationships and Bathroom Door etiquette

Bignuf Bignuf
Our little "sit around and talk" group are all married quite a while now, but several have children of "serious" dating/marrying age. We talk among ourselves, but sure would never ask THEM this question...(who knows, they may be on here???), anyway, when WE were all dating, no one would ever have thought to leave the bathroom door open...ever, for anything. However, we think about it now, and it almost seems silly. You just spent the evening with someone who had their tongue and nose in your crotch..someone who knows you more intimately and with a closer view then any GYN,Urologist,and perhaps Proctocologist will ever know you, but you have to pee and SLAM, there goes the bathroom door???!!!!
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I just posted this same question in the dating section to see what people in NEW relationships feel about this. How about others in LONG TERM relationships? Did it start one way and change to another for you? The moms in the group note that a lot of that "bathroom modesty" disappeared for them with toddlers skittering in and out on them, regardless of what is going on in the bathroom!!!

We also notice more and more houses have gone back to what was common in 40's and 50's houses, which is instead of having a separate toilet "room", the shower, bath, toilet, main sinks are all in the same open room. True, in the 50's home, that room was 10 square feet with an eight foot ceiling, and today it is 800 square feet, with a 24 foot ceiling, but the same question applies. Would you walk in and use the shower, while your long term lover is using the toilet? Or if a long term lover is in the shower, are you walking in and using the toilet?

What's the groups take on all this?
06/20/2011
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Jul!a Jul!a
It has never bothered me to do one while my partner was doing the other. If he's on the toilet I can wait to take a shower, a few minutes really isn't going to make a big difference. If he's in the shower, I'll come in and use the toilet but I won't flush until he's out of the shower so that he doesn't get scalded in the process. If I'm on the toilet, he'll wait until I'm done to shower and if I'm in the shower he'll do the same thing I do with the toilet. We both hate being scalded in the shower.
06/20/2011
ss143 ss143
After being together for so long and two little kids later unless one of us is having serious stomach issues either of us are welcome to shower brush our teeth etc while the other is on the toilet. We don't see a big deal with it
06/20/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Our little "sit around and talk" group are all married quite a while now, but several have children of "serious" dating/marrying age. We talk among ourselves, but sure would never ask THEM this question...(who knows, they may be ... More
It doesn't bother me, except for one thing: pooping. He absolutely will not stop talking, and I can't relax enough to expel everything.

So if I'm pooping, I tell him, "I want to poop alone."

Vice versa, he doesn't want me to watch him. He has a lot of trouble starting up a stream of urine if I do, and he can never poop in front of me unless he has diarrhea.
06/20/2011
lovemuscle n cookie lovemuscle n cookie
A few months after moving in together we stopped shutting doors when peeing, but still close the door for pooping.
06/21/2011
indiglo indiglo
We also do the same thing - peeing is fine with the door open/other person there, but we both prefer to poop in privacy. We even talk about it sometimes, but we're both still on the same page with pooping in privacy.
06/22/2011
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