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This may not mean much to anyone but me, as it's just been my experience but guys don't like to plan (I say guys because I'm a cisfemale in a hetero relationship) so if an opportunity comes up to do something they want to do, the instant
This may not mean much to anyone but me, as it's just been my experience but guys don't like to plan (I say guys because I'm a cisfemale in a hetero relationship) so if an opportunity comes up to do something they want to do, the instant gratification area of the "rewards" part of the brain lights up and off they go. It sucks, but it's nothing to really hold a grudge over unless it's something huge like going to see your favorite band or a theme park or something that really takes actual planning to make happen. Going to see a movie, or eat at the restaurant you two talked about? Nothing to get really bent out of shape over.
I'd say it's the guys you have been exposed to. I'm an obsessive planner, but this may also come from years of training as I was a boy scout, outdoor leader, etc. When you go into the wilderness you need to adequately plan or you won't be prepared for weather, terrain, etc.
I plan for traffic when driving somewhere, which usually results in me getting there excessively early. As an example I used public transit to get to the airport and factored in traffic, the bus breaking down, time to get on a second bus or call a cab, etc... so I would get to the airport 5 hours early.
I'm going backpacking in over a month and have already begun planning the gear needs, transport, food, etc for an overnight trip...
But anyway I would be upset if I had made plans w/ my SO and they ignore them and go out and do them with others instead. Especially if they didn't ask me first if it was okay or invite me to join them.