I believe anyone can change. People who cheat, and don't see anything wrong with it, will not change if they don't see the reason. On the flip side, people who cheat for any reason related to a breakdown of communication or unhappiness in their relationship, might have just done it circumstantially to gain something that they aren't getting (e.g emotional connection/affection), so it could truly be a one-off, and not something they particularly enjoy doing as a 'sport'. I think we should refer to it as cheatING rather than labelling someone a cheater.
Once a cheater always a cheater? Is this statement True of False
04/16/2012
If it truly was a one-time deal and a loss of control, and the cheater is truly apologetic, they will never do it again. A second-time offender is definitely harder to deal with, though.
04/21/2012
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I think that in some cases this could be a false statement. My wife's exhusband cheated on her with her cousin. he has a porn addiction to beat all hell. or did anyways. It basically ruined his marriage, tore their family apart and they divorced (obviously lol). He has hit rock bottom after she left, lost his job and lost the house. things went to hell in a hand basket and he has since taken up going back to church and being more active within the church community. hes a youth group leader there now and casually dates. He has been honest (from what he tells my wife) to all the girls that he has dated why their marriage ended and swears up and down it will never happen again. I think he just got caught up in the moment and the disease of being obsessed with the porn and it got him right in the ass. I would say that he learned his lesson. As for some of the others that I know that have cheated-the statement holds true. you have to WANT to change tho, and do it for yourself, not for anyone else. it all depends on their level of commitment to doing so.
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mnc5051
Can people really change?
04/22/2012
I think that once the person has cheated than he or she is always a cheater in the sense that he or she HAS already cheated, sort of like how someone who has killed before becomes an undeniable killer. But in the sense that the person is likely to do it again, I don't think that one action can define an entire person's future especially if he or she is making a conscious effort to change.
04/22/2012
I think it's mostly true. I wouldn't personally be with someone who had ever cheated, but I understand it's theoretically possible for someone to change.
04/22/2012
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I do not think people can really change, no. I selected "partially true", because I guess that it's possible, but I wouldn't put my money on it.
Originally posted by
mnc5051
Can people really change?
04/22/2012
It depends on the situation, and it can be very telling of character. People do grow and change, though.
04/22/2012
I think in most cases a cheater will always be one but there are very rare exceptions to every rule.
09/17/2012
A person can change if they want to change, or if they meet a person they feel their worth changing for.
09/17/2012
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People MIGHT change, but TRUST would be gone for me,and I am all about TRUST. One strike and you are out. It takes TOO MANY points, all of which you could have said "NO" to get to that point of cheating, so after that, in my book, it's over. MY feeling would be..."Take your sorry ass story elsewhere,thnk you very much".
Originally posted by
mnc5051
Can people really change?
09/17/2012
I think in most cases, "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true.
09/19/2012