Does your partner make you feel special? How?

js250 js250
I have noticed in many relationships that making a partner feel special is often tossed aside.
--Has this happened in your relationship?
--How did you get it back?
--How does your partner make you feel special?
--How do you make your partner feel special?
04/25/2013
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bayosgirl bayosgirl
My husband makes me feel special by giving me foot rubs, taking walks with me, snuggling, and numerous other little things I can't even begin to list.
04/25/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
A person's happiness needs to be grounded in their own life - dependency is dangerous. However, relationships work best when there is a lot of giving by both parties.

No specific reciprocity is expected - but by the same token, because we value each other - there is a constant stream of dialog, kisses, caresses, jokes, massages - both quick and prolonged.

So in this scenario there is no score card - only an ongoing affirmation of the love we share.

Unfortunately you can't 'make' someone want to do this. If it doesn't come naturally - it'll will be contrived. You'll know its contrived - and they'll know it's contrived - and therefore doomed to fail.

To me this natural give-give idea is the essence of a truly loving relationship.
04/26/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I have noticed in many relationships that making a partner feel special is often tossed aside.
--Has this happened in your relationship?
--How did you get it back?
--How does your partner make you feel special?
--How do you make your ... More
Oh, so special. Nobody has made me feel as special as he does. It's sad that making your partner feel special is tossed aside in relationships. I always try to remember to voice my feelings when I am thinking something nice about him, that way instead of me just thinking it, I can say it & it even makes him feel good. I love to make him feel cared about, special, loved & like the most amazing person in the world. I love for him to know that he's my one & only. And he never hesitates to make me feel it too!

Things I do to make him feel special: Let's see, well. I love let him know how much he means to me, that he's very wanted & an amazing person. I like to tell him these things, remind him of his awesome skills & how amazing he is at certain things. Ahem... Ahem.. LOL. Kidding. Sort of. I compliment him anytime I can, I force-feed him seabuckthorn oil (hey, it's healthy for him, so this is something that should make him feel special. Lol.) As far as surprising him like he does me, I have to get creative so I'll get him something he really loves like fun energy drinks (and hey, I can't resist them myself). Other things I know he likes, especially when it's unexpected. He's really hard to surprise, though. Leave him little notes about how I feel about him -- he likes those. If there's ever anything he can use my help with, I'm quick to try and give it. Although it's pretty rare if he needs my help opening the pickle jar & I'm pretty sure he wouldn't feel extremely special if I did it for him. LOL. He does like small gestures though like making him coffee while he makes mine. Ha Ha. We make each others. He makes mine better tasting than I make it & he says I make his delicious. The secret key? A shit-load of coffee! Ha.

I think the things that make him feel most special is when I show him that I want him and stuff, which is one of the things that make me feel most speical too. I like him to know how much I enjoy him... and other parts of him. Ha Ha.

Mostly, it's the things he says that makes me feel special. He tells me kind things every day. He tells me I'm important to him, that he loves me, how highly he thinks of me & even compliments me on outer appearance! Even on days like today when I didn't even wash my hair, sweated like a pig in the tanning bed and probably smelled like burned skin. LOL. And he says & does things that make me feel special. One thing that comes to mind was when he put a tiny love-letter in my cig. pack! LOL. I know, I know, but it was sweet! When I went to get one, I seen the hidden note. Very cute surprise. He's always telling me how I'm his one & only everything, how devoted he is to me, how he'd do anything for me, how kind he thinks I am. He frequently tells me I'm the best/kindest person he knows. Now that's one I have to beg to differ on! He says things like "you should think about yourself for a change. You're always thinking of other people" and then tries to convince me to do "just one thing" for myself right now. "So what is it? If you could do anything for you and only you right now..." This is what he did yesterday and we ended up going out for the night. It was really special. But I do think about me! Lol.

Well he also listens. Sometimes. Ha Ha. There are times when he asks what's going on in my life -- school, etc. Just my own crap that's boring, but that I can often rant about. Lol. He cares to know if I'm not doing well. He's eager to help me in everything without ever complaining. He's never huffed and puffed over doing anything for me & I know that takes some real strength!

Then there's the surprises. He loves to surprise me. This is one thing that drew me to him so much in the beginning -- he asbolutely loves doing things for people & when we first met, I seen him helping other people. I mean really going out of his way to do so & did it happily! It's one thing that drew me to him. And even after 7 years, he feels happy to do things for me when most people wouldn't want to bother thinking of someone else. Not him. It's pretty common for him to come in with some random thing like my favorite candy or a crap load of my favorite junk food (did that last week & I swear I've been bloated ever since! LOL) & then tonight he got in my closet to look at a new skirt I got, but didn't have a top to match it & when I asked him what he was doing with my skirt he said he wanted to see the color so that he can find me a top that matches.. LOL. Now THAT is special. When your man will shop for you and not only that, but pick out kick-ass, very stylish items! I'm telling you, when he shops for me, I end up with the cutest stuff. For instance, adorable heels, awesome zebra dress & a ruched, silk orange dress with these little strappy bandages in the back. This man knows style! Lol. So anyways, he's on a mission to find me a cute owl shirt that matches this skirt. Ha Ha. I don't think he's ever surprised me with something that wasn't really cute. What makes me feel so special about it is that he knows me so well that he knows exactly my style & I know that is not an easy task for a guy. Lol.

Cut up my aloe vera plant, remove the outer part, wash it and bring it to me to eat. Lol. He even removes all the slimey stuff off it! Ha Ha.

I seriously don't know why he's so good to me.

Welp, there's a whole book for the day. LOL. I get chatty.
04/26/2013
Hummingbird Hummingbird
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I have noticed in many relationships that making a partner feel special is often tossed aside.
--Has this happened in your relationship?
--How did you get it back?
--How does your partner make you feel special?
--How do you make your ... More
Has happened to me and still trying to get it back. My partner is kind, considerate, thoughtful, caring, honest with everyone, I feel sometimes like another piece of the pie, granted a piece with whipped topping that gets a little more tenderness but beyond that? Is there more?
04/26/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Umm, I honestly can't think of anything. He isn't someone that goes out of his way to make me feel good. It's hard to come up with anything.
04/26/2013
pixiedustVixen pixiedustVixen
No he doesnt really but i can do it all for him.. figures
04/26/2013
rosythorn rosythorn
Yea sometimes he does small things he buys food that he knows that I like without asking. That is a big thing for me
04/26/2013
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