Perfect age for starting a family

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Perfect age for starting a family

Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
I'm a really sexual person, and I'm scared of losing it. Not losing it in a way as sexual ability but in the way of never having any time. I want a family, I personally plan on having a large family. I'd love about 5-6 kids or more (some adopted) I was raised in a big family (I'm the oldest of 5) so what is the perfect age. (we are 21 and 22, he thinks 25-26 will be the perfect age to start a family)
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18-21
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22-25
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11  (16%)
26-30
Rossie , MN58 , DeliciousSurprise , Kissaki , Anjulie , married with children , MaryExy , Sir , Dusk , That Man from Mars , slynch , zracer , SiNn , Carolinagirl08 , Sinfully , lovemuscle n cookie , Lio , Lummox , The Curious Couple , toxie m , pixieluv , ichigostrawberry , Darling Jen , ThoughtsAblaze , Jazz , angel142stx , REDRUM , LittleBird , jeangel246 , Pink Jewel , Gunsmoke , arewehavingfun? , ellejay , Illumin8 , potstickers , gsfanatic , pyratess , glasskitten , Andrey2052 , mjtheprincess , *Camoprincess* , hhh , SaiDiscordia , AliMc , LaSchwartz
45  (67%)
31-35
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10  (15%)
Total votes: 67
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06/10/2011
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kelaaa33wish kelaaa33wish
I think it all depends on the 2 people involved and not so much age.
06/10/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Age has nothing to do with the maturity to take responsibility. Make sure you BOTH are READY - emotionally, financially, and spiritually - to be able to take on such a responsibility.

Good luck.
06/10/2011
Rossie Rossie
I think age is important in starting a family. Younger couples might like to have fun going out with friends rather than being stuck at home with babies. I believe it is important for young couples to play as much as they can, then after a few years when they think they're ready to settle down, then get the family started.
06/10/2011
MN58 MN58
26-30. Im 26 and we are planning on having kids soon because we have enjoyed our sex life (we've been together since we were 15) and we feel ready to now.
06/10/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Nessa
I'm a really sexual person, and I'm scared of losing it. Not losing it in a way as sexual ability but in the way of never having any time. I want a family, I personally plan on having a large family. I'd love about 5-6 kids or more (some ...
The perfect time is when you feel ready...the reality is you will feel ready right up until a few weeks before you give birth and then you will realize that you are no where NEAR ready! This happens regardless of parental age, btw...
06/10/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I agree with Chilipepper and Airen.

My husband and I got married when we were 19/21, we started a family 2 years later. We discussed it; we didn't want to wait too long and we wanted our kids to be out of the house (or well on their way toward their own life) long before we retired. It is nice to be pushing 40 knowing in only 2 years we will have our house to ourselves again. We are looking forward to that. Don't get me wrong, we love our son, but we truly enjoy each other too and our alone time. We look forward to the day when our kiddo decides to spread his wings and fly.

However, deciding when to start a family all depends on the people involved! What is right for us, certainly is not right for everyone. You both need to be on the same page when you make that decision!
06/10/2011
shentel shentel
Whenever you are ready to start a family start one I really don't think you should put an age on it. Just don't start a family too early if you are not ready.
06/10/2011
mandiegk mandiegk
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
The perfect time is when you feel ready...the reality is you will feel ready right up until a few weeks before you give birth and then you will realize that you are no where NEAR ready! This happens regardless of parental age, btw...
I agree with this. I am 25 and I couldn't imagine starting a family in the near future because I want to travel and focus on my career before that happens, but I also have a lot of friends who are pregnant or planning to have children in the next year or two. It all depends on the couple.
06/10/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
Quote:
Originally posted by kelaaa33wish
I think it all depends on the 2 people involved and not so much age.
Agreed, for me it would prob be around 30.
06/10/2011
Annemarie Annemarie
It really depends. My significant other and I are 40 and 22, respectively, and we're starting in a year or two. He's not getting any younger and would like to be done with having kids around 45 or 50.
06/10/2011
married with children married with children
I would have to say it is not about the age, but about the financial arrangement. If you cant feed them, dont breed them. Thats what my dad taught me. My wife and I waited until we had purchased a house, was driving a safe car, and could financialy provide for their needs. Kids are very expensive.
06/10/2011
Sir Sir
There is no perfect age. When you are ready is when you are ready.
06/10/2011
big b big b
im giad to be a younger grandpa we started at 24
06/11/2011
Ajax Ajax
I don't think there is a perfect age. What ever is right for you is the perfect age...for you.

For me personally I think 23 is a great age to start a family (it's what I'm aiming for), but if I'm not financially ready to take care of a family at 23 then it's not gonna happen, perfect age or not :p
06/11/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
I think it depends on the person! My parents were 40-ish when they had me, and they're awesome parents. I think it's just best to have them when you feel you have a stable environment for a kid (financially sound, loving, etc.) Personally, I think I'll be waiting until I'm out of school to have kids (30s and up if I do the medical examiner thing and have to complete a residency.)
06/11/2011
Dusk Dusk
I also think it depends on you and your lifestyle - I don't want kids until I'm 30, but I'm 21 and I have friends who have 3-yrs olds and friends who probably won't have kids until they're 40.
06/11/2011
That Man from Mars That Man from Mars
I think it depends on how financially secure you are, and how much time you'll have to care for the children. Generally around late 20's to early 30's. I only suggest that age because that seems to be when people are most settled down, though. Depends on the person.
06/11/2011
froggiemoma froggiemoma
when you and your partener are ready
06/11/2011
ToyBoy ToyBoy
It all depends on your maturity level and when you met your partner. My parents were both 43 when I was born, but I plan on waiting till about 30. I want to have fun in my youth and be mature and financially strong before I have kids.
06/11/2011
Maeby Maeby
I have to second the notion that there is no perfect age, but that you and your partner should have a stable home (including finances) and feel ready. If the hubs and I decide to have kids, we'll probably try to have our first child when we're 30-ish. I want to have a few more years of just us
06/11/2011
ID42 ID42
While I really don't think there is a perfect age for starting a family, I will say that we weren't a financially stable family until we started getting into our 30's and working on our debt. We didn't plan to start having children until this year actually. We had talked about me being about 32 when we started trying. Our bodies decided differently and we already have our two. 7yrs old and the other is almost 2. I will add this though... If you wait UNTIL you are financially set/stable or until you "have enough money", you will never get there and never have what you think is enough to have a child. You can control the when, just don't micro manage it.
06/11/2011
Yoda Yoda
If I could go back in time, I would have started years sooner. Instead, I bought into the "follow your dreams first" crap. Now my wife and I are going through huge problems just getting pregnant. The fertility specialist says its not impossible, but we've missed our prime, and were only in our 30s.
06/11/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I think I'd like to start a family a few years after I finish college.
06/11/2011
pixieluv pixieluv
I started having children at age 33. I think it was a good age to start, but now that I am 40 years old and 2 kids later, I wish I had been a little bit younger. I can still have another child now, but it becomes more risky, especially after having c-sections. If you plan on a big family, my 2-cents is start around the mid to late twenties to give yourself some breathing room between children.
06/12/2011
zeebot zeebot
It really depends on the people and their situation, I know some 30 year olds I wouldn't trust with children, and some 21 years olds I would.
06/12/2011
ichigostrawberry ichigostrawberry
I think it depends if both people have stable jobs and a stable lifestyle to support a child. Sometimes it happens early,and sometimes it is later. I voted 26-30 assuming the person got married in their early 20s and were established by their late 20s.
06/12/2011
deletedacct deletedacct
It's all up to the individual and what works for their lifestyle.
06/12/2011
Hardware Hardware
Quote:
Originally posted by Miss Nessa
I'm a really sexual person, and I'm scared of losing it. Not losing it in a way as sexual ability but in the way of never having any time. I want a family, I personally plan on having a large family. I'd love about 5-6 kids or more (some ...
Ive seen plenty of people get married young and they all get divorced. Very late 20's to early 30's for me. And ill be 100% sure shes the one when i take that step.
06/12/2011
Inwitari Inwitari
Depends on the individual. I've known people that were older (in their 30s) and still are not ready to start a family. But some younger people start having children as soon as they leave high school and it's worked out just fine.
06/12/2011
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