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Do you think it is a good idea to set times/dates for intimacy/sex. And why?
Although we have a lot of spontaneous fun, on the week days, with work and responsibilities, it makes life FAR less stressful when we have a scheduled time for things. For instance, on Wed, we have a set rule. While bedtime is normally about midnight for us (we wake at 5 AM), on Wed we go to bed at 9 pm.
Rather then watch TV, we usually will have some porn video in, and we KNOW that is a night for sex and fun play. Sometimes we cuddle and talk, and sometimes we simply screw like bunnies, but we can PREPARE as well. Toys we want put out, and charged. Video cam out if we are making our own "home movie"...whatever. NO fumbling and NO stress...time to think, prepare, anticipate and then RELAX and have fun.
We can SEE and THINK about the things the other is "preparing" for the evening as well....thus getting us hot and bothered all evening long.
It is a GREAT idea.
We have "date night" on Friday with our friends, and on Sunday we always have DATE NIGHT of just the two of us, and that is almost always fronted by Sunday Morning, wake up sex and Sunday Night leisure sex...and so those planned times work great too.
YES, planning is a GREAT thing.