Planned Intimacy. Do you think it is a good idea?

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Planned Intimacy. Do you think it is a good idea?

Zandrock Zandrock
Do you think it is a good idea to set times/dates for intimacy/sex. And why?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
Zandrock , - Kira - , humpday , Gunsmoke , Terri69 , AlianneCimorene , Bex1331 , Kindred , indiglo , unfulfilled , Bignuf , Mamastoys , Kitka , ToyTimeTim , Mr. E , amazon , AriaRN , KrissyNovacaine , BoobCopter , Missmarc , gsfanatic , DeliciousSurprise , ghalik , MissCandyland , auplette , luisss , Gone (LD29) , Rawr4483 , EdenUser , QP , LunaLuthor , abbylover , LaSchwartz , Modern^Spank^Anthem , JKS , Gina RPG Geek , ace.eric.pollen , Hallmar82 , robertk2380 , Ivy Wilde , TigerLily9 , Trysexual , alayamae , Rory , SavingMyself , MK434 , JennSenn , meitman , AwesomeAmanda , novanilla , jr2012 , nikki0668 , SMichelle
53  (75%)
No
deltalima , MistressDandelion , panthercat23 , Undecided , woodsdragon , nova2014
6  (8%)
Not Sure
bayosgirl , LavenderSkies , Boyfriend , Falsepast , meluaz69 , Alura Une , sktb0007 , Mistress Sassy , Mrs. Tickle and Giggle , brevado , Incendiaire , Mrs.Tee
12  (17%)
Total votes: 71
Poll is closed
07/14/2012
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Zandrock Zandrock
I like to set aside time for intimacy. Even though spontaneous is fun. I also like to plan it sometimes. Set aside time for each other and sex. Some people think it is forced, but I think there is something luxurious about setting aside a couple hours of your day to just cuddle in bed and have sex, and grope, and fondle, and love your partner
07/14/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
We've done this, especially when our son was a baby and we never had time unless it was planned. Not quite as fun as spontaneous sex, but better than not having any!
07/14/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Yes - and we should have done it long ago. The good part is now the spontaneous sessions are added to the planned ones - instead of just waiting to see if things happen - everyone wins!
07/14/2012
Terri69 Terri69
Yes, I think it is a good idea but also have some spontaneous times too
07/14/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
Yes because life is busy but you want to make sure no one feels forced to do it because it was "planned" even if theyre not in the mood
07/14/2012
indiglo indiglo
Definitely! We both enjoy having a specific day & time to look forward to. Like Gunsmoke said, we also can add in any spontaneous time we just want to, but we're guaranteed at least the planned occasions.
07/14/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Yes, when you have kids it becomes a necessity and if a spontaneous occasion arises then great, if not you still have your planned intimacy.
07/14/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Do you think it is a good idea to set times/dates for intimacy/sex. And why?
Although we have a lot of spontaneous fun, on the week days, with work and responsibilities, it makes life FAR less stressful when we have a scheduled time for things. For instance, on Wed, we have a set rule. While bedtime is normally about midnight for us (we wake at 5 AM), on Wed we go to bed at 9 pm.

Rather then watch TV, we usually will have some porn video in, and we KNOW that is a night for sex and fun play. Sometimes we cuddle and talk, and sometimes we simply screw like bunnies, but we can PREPARE as well. Toys we want put out, and charged. Video cam out if we are making our own "home movie"...whatever. NO fumbling and NO stress...time to think, prepare, anticipate and then RELAX and have fun.

We can SEE and THINK about the things the other is "preparing" for the evening as well....thus getting us hot and bothered all evening long.

It is a GREAT idea.

We have "date night" on Friday with our friends, and on Sunday we always have DATE NIGHT of just the two of us, and that is almost always fronted by Sunday Morning, wake up sex and Sunday Night leisure sex...and so those planned times work great too.

YES, planning is a GREAT thing.
07/14/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Terri69
Yes, I think it is a good idea but also have some spontaneous times too
BINGO.
07/14/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Although we have a lot of spontaneous fun, on the week days, with work and responsibilities, it makes life FAR less stressful when we have a scheduled time for things. For instance, on Wed, we have a set rule. While bedtime is normally about midnight ...
...OH...planning does not mean he cannot come up behind me in the kitchen when I am doing something and hike up my leg and pop it to me, as he did this morning, while preparing the dogs breakfasts, or bend me over the dryer, as he did during the week. I LOVE that too, thank you very much.
07/14/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
We've done this, especially when our son was a baby and we never had time unless it was planned. Not quite as fun as spontaneous sex, but better than not having any!
For US the SEX part can be all kinds of exciting. It is the TIME we plan out and that gives us time to imagine all kinds of exciting play and get everything ready for it. Be it a hot bubble bath or a dozen charged toys to choose from.
07/14/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
Yes. It's a great idea.
07/14/2012
Mamastoys Mamastoys
In our busy lives, we need to plan time to spend together and then if any other free time is a plus!
07/14/2012
Kitka Kitka
With kids and hectic schedules sometimes it's the only kind of sex you can have.
07/14/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
We make plans quite often but they do not always work out. When they do it is great because of the arousal leading up to the time. Spontaneous is great too bt it happens less frequently.
07/14/2012
amazon amazon
I think if lack of a spontaneous sex life is an issue, then absolutely plan it out!
07/14/2012
Mr. E Mr. E
We frequently plan it, but we seize every opportunity for spontaneous fun time.
07/14/2012
AriaRN AriaRN
I love spontaneous sex too but sometimes, if you don't plan sex, it might not happen and it's necessary for every strong relationship.
07/14/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
when things are crazy planning it is a must to make sure it happens. Once things slow down I don't think it is as important
07/14/2012
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Do you think it is a good idea to set times/dates for intimacy/sex. And why?
Not sure, I don't like to see it as a routine.
07/14/2012
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Do you think it is a good idea to set times/dates for intimacy/sex. And why?
Kind of beats the purpose for me.
07/14/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by Zandrock
Do you think it is a good idea to set times/dates for intimacy/sex. And why?
Well, sometimes people get too busy and they forget to be intimate. Planning can help
07/14/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, having at least some events planned ahead of time are good, since you can plan for them. Having some minor spontaneity is still wise though
07/15/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
I think it can be a good idea.
07/15/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Thanks for the information. As a young couple in a new relationship this advice is appreciated.
07/15/2012
Falsepast Falsepast
Not sure about it. Still a virgin
07/15/2012
EdenUser EdenUser
Yes.
07/20/2012
meluaz69 meluaz69
I cant say either way I suppose it is but i think flying by the seat of your pants is great too
07/23/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
I guess if your life is really busy then it can be good to schedule sex but I prefer sex to be more "spur of the moment."
07/23/2012
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