Realistic plan or idealistic fantasy?

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Realistic plan or idealistic fantasy?

bayosgirl bayosgirl
Hi fellow Edenities, something's been on my mind lately and I'd love your unbiased input.

So, ever since the loss of my pregnancy last month, I've been longing to get pregnant again. Hubby and I decided to give it four months, to allow me to recover as well as try and get his legal immigration papers through. However, one thing I've been wanting to do that there won't be enough time for in that timeframe, is finish school. I have about a year, year and a half ahead of me. The degree that I'm after is a Physical Therapist Asst. certificate, so I would be attending a community college. I know the most logical thing to do is get the degree and be somewhat job-secure FIRST, then get pregnant. But realistically it could be two years before that happens (we first have to relocate, which is its own bag of worms.) The idea I had is that we could arrange his work schedule so he could stay home with the baby during my classes, and of course I would study at home. I know the program also involves hands-on work in various hospitals and clinics, but those projects are at most half a day, and don't occur all the time. I think it's definitely doable, and my husband has agreed to it. My parents don't like the idea, however. They want me to finish school before I even think about babies. Then again, they didn't support my marriage in the first place, so it's no wonder. What do you guys think? Has anyone done this/planning to do it? Do you think I'm crazy?
04/06/2012
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
Hi fellow Edenities, something's been on my mind lately and I'd love your unbiased input.

So, ever since the loss of my pregnancy last month, I've been longing to get pregnant again. Hubby and I decided to give it four months, to ...
I don't think you're crazy.

In my experience, there was never going to be a good time to decide to get pregnant. There's always going to be something going on - work, school, too many bills, etc. I got pregnant unexpectedly, but we worked it out, and it was easier to work things out than I would have originally thought.

Since you have the opportunity to plan, I do recommend that you figure out whether you can afford appropriate childcare while you're still in school. I know you said you can rearrange schedules, but it is always good to have a backup plan. If you can't work out the finances, then it might be better to wait until you're out of school and bringing in an additional income.

Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will work out for you. I wish you the best of luck!
04/06/2012
underHim underHim
I think it will not be easy but certainly enough people have done it before and I assume you probably can too, you sound determined. However take how stressful you think it will be and probably multiply that by at least two.
04/06/2012
InNeedOfABuzzzz InNeedOfABuzzzz
You're not crazy. My bestie lost a baby her first year in college. She got married in her second year (right after the baby) and then immediately got pregnant. She had a beautiful baby girl and because her hubby supported her so much, changed his work schedule around to help her finish school and take care of the baby. As long as you're mind is set, you can totally do it. There's NEVER a perfect time financially to have a baby. So when you are ready in your heart, you're ready!
04/06/2012
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