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Listening to my OnlyMaster argue with His ex girl on the phone about business stuff, my, they are like cats&dogs! ~sighs (You bet it sounds awful to me hearing Him like that, never arguing with Him in the stressful sense, and He isn't like
Listening to my OnlyMaster argue with His ex girl on the phone about business stuff, my, they are like cats&dogs! ~sighs (You bet it sounds awful to me hearing Him like that, never arguing with Him in the stressful sense, and He isn't like that with ANYONE, other than her sometimes, disagreeing majorly - must be the blessing of a D/s relationship for U/us... ^^)
Note: the percentages include that the rest of your relationships had mighty awful kinds of arguments, like being VERY angry, even shouting and what not... ~smiles shy
Wait a second... Why is your boyfriend doing "business" with an ex anyway? Just curious. That's one thing (mixing EX's) that usually does go badly with lots of arguments. Hope you're doing okay and trying to keep as stress free as possible. I know how communicating with EX's can cause some stress.
You're asking how many relationships have we had that were filled with hostility. Me, I'd say one maybe?
I've never really had a relationship where fighting was big, but then again, I've had very few serious relationships since my partner and I got together when I was 15. I did have 2 very serious ones before him and 1 that was a tad serious, but going nowhere and it was an angry one.
So out of those, my "real" relationships really, I'd say none of them were filled with violence, a lot of anger or hostility. I don't recall fighting angrily with any of them. Some mini arguments, and a fight when we broke up probably. There was only one incident where an actual relationship became violent, and it ended that very day. Other violence I've dealt with was not with an actual boyfriend, not with someone I was in a relationship with.
My particular hostile relationship was with someone who was kind and never showed real anger towards me, until suddenly. I was used to him seeming to care about me, and then my best girlfriend and a couple friends, him and I were seeing each other at our local park.
Everything was fine until I lit a cigarrette! He'd known I smoked and hell, he smoked too! He slapped the cig. from my hand and threatened to leave me if I took one more hit, I was shocked and pissed. No way was I going to give a male control over me. I told him if he had come to me kindly and said "I'm concerned about your health, how about we both try to quit," I totally would've worked on quitting. But he didn't and when I asked why he was so intense and demanding over smoking when his dumbass smoked too, he gave me no answer. "Just because" that is not an answer. So to me, I basically got that he wanted to demand I give up something just to what? See how much control or power he has over me, a female? HA!
So when he produced no answers, but only hostility and what appeared to be a power trip, I picked my cigarette back up and smoked that S.O.B. He was furious! He stormed away and I was near the creek when he came looking for me. He picked me up and was trying to throw me into the creek! I was holding onto a rail and him and another guy pryed me loose and very shoved me into the creek, breaking my middle finger in the process, and the boyfriend at the time said "fuck you" when he turned loose of me. There's rocks and glass and God knows what else in that creek -- I'd had a horrid injury just walking in it barefoot and slipping once. Something cut into my toenail and really deep behind the nail. Months of infection and pain!
So all of us knowing how bad that creek is, and then him throwing me in like that was enough for me to break up with him, but he broke my finger in the process -- that was IT!
When I crawled out of the nasty creek and stuck as much of my headinto the sink to clean up, I went home without a single word to any of them, except the younger brother of a friend who helped me wash my hair of mud.
Then, another super long story cut somewhat short: 2 years later, while still in highschool and never speaking to the boyfriend since that day, I was having a lot of trouble with one girl, and eventually we got into a fight in the school hallway. He was there and I guess he took it as another chance to screw with me because while me and the girl were near the end of our fight, he grabbed me by the hair, pulled me down the hall way and still holding me by the back of my hair, repeatedly slammed my head into the floor! The HARD school floor! He permanently damaged my eyebrow bone, and the asshole didn't have any consequences, expect suspension for the rest of the day! I was suspended indefinitely unless I chose to go to "alternative" ; school. He was 17 years old, and I was 15! He could've been in real trouble for it. My dad took photos and we went to the sheriff's office in my town, but nothing came of it.
I never seen him after that except once less than a year ago. He showed up at MY parent's house looking for my sister. That was not pretty. Now, he's been in jail and will be for a looong time for all kinds of crazy charges.
So that was absolutely a horrible, hostile relationship, but I didn't allow it to go on further, even the first time he acted crazy toward me at the creek, but unfortunately, some people will behave that way any timme they're forced to be around you (school). Thankfully, that was the last of my school days due to the trouble with suspension as well as some really nasty thing I'd just started going through, so both of those made it hard for me to care anymore.
Other than that though, my relationships have been fairly peaceful. I mean, peaceful in terms of anger and fighting. Not peaceful and good and healthy by any means. Except my current one. We fight and I'll admit, we've really gotten down before. It happens, but it's rare. We are both pretty relaxed people and I don't do fighting well. I like love and peace! Lol. I don't even like arguments, so it's easy. There's never been anything hateful or abusive about us, and I wouldn't have that anyway. We respect each other immensely and I think when you have respect for your partner, you're less likely to hurt them or show major hostility toward them, and you at least won't do it on a regular basis.
Shouting isn't common for us. I raise my voice when I'm furious, but unless I'm pushed to a very extreme point (in which I'll always give warning first; okay, you're really pissing me off, you're pushing buttons that send me over the edge. Please stop or I will go off." Then if I'm pushed, I will yell F'ing stop to the top of my lungs. Lol. I'd say that's happened 2-3 times only though.