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I have been divorced for a couple of years now. I have been seeing someone and things are going well. But I recently received a birthday message from my ex-husband and don't know if I should say anything to my boyfriend. The note didn't
I have been divorced for a couple of years now. I have been seeing someone and things are going well. But I recently received a birthday message from my ex-husband and don't know if I should say anything to my boyfriend. The note didn't mean anything to me - I thanked my ex, but said nothing to my boyfriend. Now I feel dishonest and am afraid if he finds out, it'll look like I was hiding more than I meant - I just didn't want my boyfriend to worry or whatever. It sucks even more that I'm pretty sure my ex-husband doesn't tell his girlfriend that he still contacts me like this. So... do I come clean, saying it's no big deal and apologize for not telling him sooner, or keep my mouth shut and hope he doesn't find out?
If it were me-and this is only my opinion- I would tell my boyfriend. You're right that it might look a little out of place if he DOES find out later on down the road. What happens if you run into the hubby and he says something about his birthday wishes to you in front of this new guy? Not sure what the situation is with you guys, how it ended, etc etc, but I would tell him. Let him know that it didn't lead to anything or mean anything to you. Maybe tell your ex that it is inappropriate to do this sort of thing?
I have an exhusband that does stuff like this, but my current husband knows that I was with this man for 10 years and his family still take me in as their own. he isn't threatened by it though because he knwos full well my intentions or the lack thereof, with the ex. He also knows that since my ex and I have children together, contact is going to be ineveitable. So, its up to you. If this boyfriend of yours cannot take you being honest and open with him, then I would say that things aren't going as well as you might think. He should thank you for being open with him about it. good luck either way you go!