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i WANT TO KNOW IF SOMEONE CAN STOP LOVING SOMEONE SO QUICK?
I know you're upset, but we've been answering your question. I'm sorry if the way we've worded our responses are not what you're looking for, but people, love, relationships and how people react in situations like this are rarely so simple. And in any case, none of us are him. We can't tell you how he really feels. What we can tell you, is that a person who behaves the way that he is behaving, and treats you the way he is treating you, is not worth asking this kind of question.
Sometimes people say and do really hurtful things to the people they love, because they are selfish, they are hurt, and they are acting out in order to protect themselves. It's a cowardly, shitty way to express love towards another person, and it's not worth your time or emotional investment to allow him to get under your skin. Ultimately, his "love" is poisonous to you. You're asking a question as though, if you get the response you don't want to hear, then you'll only end up hurting worse, assuming yourself unworthy when in reality, he's the one who is not worthy. And if you do get the response you want to hear, that it's not possible to stop loving someone so quickly, then that will leave open the door enough for you to cling to a glimmer of hope that he'll come back to you. Either way you cut it, you're only hurting yourself by asking such a question. And either way you cut it, in the long run, it doesn't matter. A person who is mature enough, human enough, brave enough and decent enough to treat the people they love with enough decency to not behave like a scared little boy even when things are at their worse, is not the person in question, based on the situation you are describing.
My ex told me awful things when we broke up. He told me that I was a waste of seven and a half years of his life. That hurt like hell at first, but I then came to realize that he only said it out of his own pain and fear, and emotional confusion with the situation. But did it matter if he loved still? No. It didn't change anything. And whatever he felt was his own business. I couldn't continue to obsess over what he "really" felt, because the more I did that, the less I took care of myself, the less I realized my own self worth, and the less I paid attention to the good people in my life, whose love I could take for granted, because they are decent enough people to never treat me that way.
I know it's hard right now...but think about it. Why are you asking this question? Why does it matter so much to you, ultimately? What will it change if one person says yes or another person says no? I'm not trying to be cruel...I feel for you, I really do. But you are not doing yourself any good by worrying about this question, because what you are really asking, is does he still love you. Nobody here can answer that for you...all we can do is give you support and advice, because it would cruel to do otherwise.