When your significant other talks about your private information in front of his friends..

nova2014 nova2014
Do you get offended or do you not care? What if it's something you're really insecure about? What if it's just stuff you don't want them to know about you since you're not their friends? What would you do if this happens to you and do you do it to your significant other?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Offended
20
Don't care
7
Just uncomfortable with the situation
14
Total votes: 41 (37 voters)
Poll is closed
01/22/2013
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Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
Do you get offended or do you not care? What if it's something you're really insecure about? What if it's just stuff you don't want them to know about you since you're not their friends? What would you do if this happens to you ... More
My ex husband use to do this to me he would tell anyone and everyone he could about my medical problems which pissed me off. If I wanted everyone to know I would have told them myself. After I left him for other reasons he posted publicly on his Facebook about my medical issues where the WHOLE world could see. Needless to say I freaked on him over it all. He knew I wanted no one close to me knowing them but he didn't seem to care. No I watch who I tell what, he was my husband he was suppose to be trusted yeah wrong!
01/22/2013
Gdom Gdom
My SO and I haven't explicitly discussed our boundaries with respect to this, but my general policy is not to discuss the details of our relationship with friends until we've both agreed that this is okay. That said, if I found out that my SO had been talking about our "private information," as you put it, I don't think I could be terribly upset (although I might feel a little awkward and not-so-happy that they didn't check with me first), precisely because we haven't set those boundaries yet.
01/22/2013
toy review man toy review man
I am blessed with a wife who keeps things private. She doesn't share personal info about me with anyone unless I bring it up first.
01/22/2013
js250 js250
He told everyone about almost everything. I am more private and keep things to myself...It upset me but I now realize it makes him look untrustworthy and like a big gossip.
01/23/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
My husband is very courteous and mentions nothing personal about me to anyone else without my permission.
01/23/2013
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
Do you get offended or do you not care? What if it's something you're really insecure about? What if it's just stuff you don't want them to know about you since you're not their friends? What would you do if this happens to you ... More
Definitely offended. That is not cool to me.
01/23/2013
Ansley Ansley
I made a comment to my husband about something my SIL did, the next time we saw her he was all, "Stormy mentioned yadda yadda yadda". I was like not cool, bro. I just felt super uncomfortable.
01/23/2013
tortilla tortilla
I wouldn't be too kosher with that
01/23/2013
Trysexual Trysexual
Wouldn't happen with my GF.
01/23/2013
KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
he respects me too much to do that but in the event that it did happen, it made me super uncomfortable..
01/23/2013
kkizzee05 kkizzee05
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
Do you get offended or do you not care? What if it's something you're really insecure about? What if it's just stuff you don't want them to know about you since you're not their friends? What would you do if this happens to you ... More
I would not be offended, but I might be upset about it later and tell him about it. I would never make a scene in front of his friends however. I would never want that form him so I wouldn't do that to him.
01/23/2013
srexom srexom
not cool
01/23/2013
Jennifer87 Jennifer87
I don't think i would be offended but more uncofortable
01/23/2013
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It's happened a couple times and makes me feel really uncomfortable, but I wait until later to talk with him about it so that it doesn't cause a scene.
01/23/2013
mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
I don't like to make scenes in public either. I usually am just uncomfortable, laugh it off, make it less awkward for everyone, and then talk to him about it later politely after I am not feeling uncomfortable about it. It usually something insignificant that he brings up, and it's usually in front of strangers. Like getting a last jab in from an argument in the car as we are approaching the waitress to be seated at a restaurant. I hatttte that, arguing in public is just unnecessary but it happens from time to time!
01/23/2013
noway noway
Nobody should be talking about things I tell them in confidence...
01/23/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
IT DEPENDS... SOMETIMES I GET OFFENDED OR FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE.. OTHER TIMES I DONT REALLY CARE.. JUST DEPENDS ON WHAT HE'S TELLING THEM.
01/23/2013
TrenchcoatHunters TrenchcoatHunters
Quote:
Originally posted by nova2014
Do you get offended or do you not care? What if it's something you're really insecure about? What if it's just stuff you don't want them to know about you since you're not their friends? What would you do if this happens to you ... More
Don't care for it
01/23/2013
hmb12 hmb12
I can't really decide between the voting poll choices, but I know that my guy gets very irritated with me because I like to talk through problems with others. He feels like my friends might hate him or that I have changed people's mind about him, but he knows that if he's going to do something to upset me somebody will hear about it.

However, on little things about him that he's embarrased to tell others, I keep it to myself. I usually only say things when they are weighing on my emotions.

My boyfriend tries not to tell a lot about me, but I don't care about most of the things he tells. I'd be super upset about him telling people about some things, but he usually doesn't.
01/23/2013
novanilla novanilla
There's some stuff I would be really upset about, but most things I don't really care. Anything sexual I don't care and actually encourage my partners to talk about sex with their friends.
01/23/2013
Bleu Bleu
My boyfriend knows what he can and can't talk about as far as the personal things we've told each other. He'd never do something like that and I wouldn't do that to him.
01/23/2013
doowop doowop
I guess it depends on what's being told. My ex liked to talk way too much about our problems. I constantly felt like I was facing a jury when I hung out with her friends. She also shared everything else that I wanted to keep private, but her sharing our relationship problems and my issues with anxiety REALLY pissed me off.
01/24/2013
butts butts
Depends. He's said a few things before (or tried to) that I wasn't ok with. I know for a fact that I upset him sometimes with the things I say, we have VASTLY different boundary levels and sometimes I have no clue that what I'm saying is bothering him.
01/24/2013
Incendiaire Incendiaire
I think all gay guys gossip with their friends about how hung the last guy they slept with was, so if that ever develops into a relationship then everything is pretty much out in the open already.
01/24/2013
epiphanyjayne epiphanyjayne
My hubby is quite private so I haven't had many situations like that but I probably would care too much. I'm alot more open then him.
02/17/2013
sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
I don't think we've ever really had a situation like that. He talks about our sex life sometimes and shows my nudes to his friends, but I'm totally into that so it's perfectly fine with me. Plus I'm generally pretty open and laid back about my personal life.
02/17/2013
GONE! GONE!
I get offended but usually don't say anything about it and just try to get over it.
02/17/2013
Total posts: 28
Unique posters: 28