Skyping to Keep it Together?? Advice please!

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Skyping to Keep it Together?? Advice please!

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If you have kept a long-term relationship going over Skype, please comment on your experience. If not or if interested, please read my experience below--I greatly appreciate helpful advice and constructive criticism!!

I broke up with my partner just recently after she moved away, but we're skyping again. This happens a lot. We part ways, live states away from each other and begin skyping. Before I know it we're back to signing little hearts over the video chat and saying "love you, buhbye'.

We've been off and on for over four years now--long distance for maybe a third of it over skype (with only two other short-term partners in between for me). We've broken up multiple times for various reasons, but always keep coming back for more.

I'm at the point where I just don't know if it's worth it to skype anymore. Maybe I should just delete the application and call it quits for good.... I feel like it provides us with a sense of false knowledge and security. She did, however, just begin transitioning and I feel like maybe her individual struggles with gender could have been contributing to our earlier turmoil.

Thoughts and advice please? Do you think this sounds like something worth working on or just an emotionally co-dependent relationship that's best to end? I'm conflicted on either conclusion.

Thanks
03/30/2012
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Originally posted by catsin
If you have kept a long-term relationship going over Skype, please comment on your experience. If not or if interested, please read my experience below--I greatly appreciate helpful advice and constructive criticism!!

I broke up with my ...
Yeah, that is a tough one. When a relationship starts to take a lot of strain it's often confusing as to what direction to go with it. I was dating someone that was fairly long distance (2 1/2 hours and he didn't have a car). He hit a long spell of depression that put a major gap between us and it made me wonder whether taking that drive every weekend was worth it because when I did I'd just sit there being ignored while he played video games with a friend. Eventually I kind of gave up, but that's when he came running back and it was too little, too late.

What you have to look at is whether or not you're truly happy, or whether it's something that has become more of a habit or a safety net. People fear change so they often stick around in these kinds of relationships, but it does nothing for them and can make it worse.
03/30/2012
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