Please read the explanation. My girlfriend and I have been together for over one year but we haven't had sex yet she doesn't have a high sex drive and it's hard for me to tell if she's enjoying anything about it. She doesn't talk much about it nor does she moan or have an orgasm but im trying hard trust me. She's not my first and I know what I'm doing and am really patient but it's just not happening. She does get wet tho and she has the shaky legs when I'm going down on her We agreed that it's about time to have sex but she is like so tight in there she also never used a tampon or touched herself (sigh). So I can barely get a finger in her pussy and even if I can I do it very slowly and it's only a tip of my finger. If I move it she's in some pain. I read somewhere that it would likely be better to work her up to it and perhaps just being able to finger her with 1-2 fingers before having sex would be beneficial. Or we should just get over it quickly and painfully for her? Honestly I don't know what's better, all these somewhat painful sessions of trying to even finger her (been trying for a couple of times already) for God knows how long or the quick way. She could get the idea that sex is painful either way.. What would you do?