So I was dating a girl for a little over five years an we raised her 3 year old daughter together whose now 8. She called me to which I brought up your talking to someone else and truth be told she was, unfortunately we were doing the long distance for a little over a year towards the end an I already knew we were falling apart for quite some time. Now after everything shes officially calling me back telling me its 5 years an all this mess. Now I still love her an I miss her an plus the kid our kid. . .I just feel like I don't know what to do... it hurts to know you felt you had to fail our relationship to see the grass isn't always greener on the other side but how can I rebuild the trust or anything to that matter...any advice opinions or anything would be appreciated...
What shall I do??!?!? Feel like I'm stuck on a feeling...
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I have little advice to give. I just know that love isn't always enough. If you know she's genuinely sorry and really wants you back, then maybe there's a chance. Long distance doesn't make this any easier.
Good luck, hon.
Good luck, hon.
05/16/2011
She sounds like shes sorry but I don't know to me sorry just isn't enough. I told her to proof it to me and as of now she's getting her things back in order an I guess we'll see what happens. I'm afraid that things have truly changed though and I don't know how to fix that fire. Or if we can just go back to the so called fairy tale shes telling me about.
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Not likely. Once that trust is broken, it's pretty damn near impossible to gain it back. You can try. You can have really good times again, but it's never the same as it is before the trust was broken.
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babyboii1619
She sounds like shes sorry but I don't know to me sorry just isn't enough. I told her to proof it to me and as of now she's getting her things back in order an I guess we'll see what happens. I'm afraid that things have truly
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She sounds like shes sorry but I don't know to me sorry just isn't enough. I told her to proof it to me and as of now she's getting her things back in order an I guess we'll see what happens. I'm afraid that things have truly changed though and I don't know how to fix that fire. Or if we can just go back to the so called fairy tale shes telling me about.
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Yea thats what I'm feeling and I don't know how to just say that it can't be what you want. Your the one who chose to do what you did an we can't change that. I can't pretend to be happy and take our relationship back to what it was.
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I am so sorry you are going through this, It's never easy to try to rebuild a relationship that has broken. Hell it's a bitch to try to even decide to even try to rebuild it.
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babyboii1619
She sounds like shes sorry but I don't know to me sorry just isn't enough. I told her to proof it to me and as of now she's getting her things back in order an I guess we'll see what happens. I'm afraid that things have truly
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She sounds like shes sorry but I don't know to me sorry just isn't enough. I told her to proof it to me and as of now she's getting her things back in order an I guess we'll see what happens. I'm afraid that things have truly changed though and I don't know how to fix that fire. Or if we can just go back to the so called fairy tale shes telling me about.
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Can I make just one suggestion? If she feels that you have been a father to her little girl maybe you can try co-parenting for a while. Just be there for the little girl in whatever way you can...and try to remain adult in your dealings with her mother, though I know how hard what I'm suggesting is. It's enough right now that this little girl knows that the father figure she has loved hasn't left HER, and you might be able to salvage a pretty good friendship with your -ex. I have seen this work and it provided some major closure though the couple in question never decided to BE a couple after.
I wish you lots of love and luck, if you need to talk to someone who has actually survived and moved beyond infidelity just drop me an email.
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Airen would know these things. She's a wise, experienced lady. She always has great advice!
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Airen Wolf
I am so sorry you are going through this, It's never easy to try to rebuild a relationship that has broken. Hell it's a bitch to try to even decide to even try to rebuild it.
Can I make just one suggestion? If she feels that you have been ... more
Can I make just one suggestion? If she feels that you have been ... more
I am so sorry you are going through this, It's never easy to try to rebuild a relationship that has broken. Hell it's a bitch to try to even decide to even try to rebuild it.
Can I make just one suggestion? If she feels that you have been a father to her little girl maybe you can try co-parenting for a while. Just be there for the little girl in whatever way you can...and try to remain adult in your dealings with her mother, though I know how hard what I'm suggesting is. It's enough right now that this little girl knows that the father figure she has loved hasn't left HER, and you might be able to salvage a pretty good friendship with your -ex. I have seen this work and it provided some major closure though the couple in question never decided to BE a couple after.
I wish you lots of love and luck, if you need to talk to someone who has actually survived and moved beyond infidelity just drop me an email. less
Can I make just one suggestion? If she feels that you have been a father to her little girl maybe you can try co-parenting for a while. Just be there for the little girl in whatever way you can...and try to remain adult in your dealings with her mother, though I know how hard what I'm suggesting is. It's enough right now that this little girl knows that the father figure she has loved hasn't left HER, and you might be able to salvage a pretty good friendship with your -ex. I have seen this work and it provided some major closure though the couple in question never decided to BE a couple after.
I wish you lots of love and luck, if you need to talk to someone who has actually survived and moved beyond infidelity just drop me an email. less
I am still reluctant to believe it can ever *truly* be the way it was before. It would take so much work, sometimes more than people can actually give. It depends on a lot of factors.
Either way, I wish you the best of luck.
05/16/2011
Well maybe I'll take you up on the emailing an all. Thanks to both a ya guys and yeah I know it'd take more work than anything an she just expects me to live an let go. But I think its not what she wants anymore at this point.
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